Why is it that children learn everything so quickly, but they learn very poorly?

1.From birth to learning to crawl, speak, walk, run, jump, etc., a series of behavioral learning first comes from imitation (i.e., eye observation). Parents, peers, teachers, and everything around him will become the object of his imitation.

This is the child's "unintentional memory", it can also be said that all tangible and vocal behaviors, he will imitate and learn, he does not know which is good and which is bad, curiosity will make him imitate everything. This is what you said about "learning from the tone of an adult, and there are actions or something", so the "good or bad" cannot be blamed on the child, it depends on the attitude of the adult. Here's an example:

When the child just babbles, the parents accidentally say a swearing, the child goes to school and says it again, most parents will laugh and feel very funny in the past, suddenly one day, the child is older, open his mouth and say swearing, parents can't accept it, how do you say swearing? But I forgot the original laughing smile. If play is the child's favorite, then imitation is the child's instinct, teach the child to learn to understand first, such as the child's preferences, the way of memory, etc., **, shape sound + game This is a way to induce children to learn, to teach the child to first use tangible things to impress her, with her favorite voice to attract him + the form of the game.

Only by letting the child in a pleasant atmosphere evoke her "intentional memory" can it receive good results. Then there's coherence and integrity. Take the "simple 2" you already said as an example:

How did 2 come about, it's two in one (1+1), 2 is like a duckling swimming in water, you're right, so does the child see something tangible? Are you sure your child's memory of ducks is correct? Have you verified it with him in-game?

Teaching children is a chore. 2。"I found that he is very afraid of me" on what you said a "afraid" word to hurt the child's self-confidence, but also because of fear and fear (if you say the wrong thing will be scolded), and then produce boredom and disgust lead to boredom in school, children's education is extremely uncome, a rush to annoy, brain and anger, anger and mouthless, you think about the child's thinking in fear only thinking about fear that there is still room to think about your problem?

Flip it around, when you're angry, do you think about what to say, what to say, what not to say? Should you reflect on it? If you want your child to be interested in learning and take the initiative to solve problems, you need to change your attitude, get closer to him, and help him regain confidence, which may be the root of solving the problem.

Children are like plasticine, it's up to you to get out of shape. Please forgive me if it is wrong or excessive. See smiled.

There is a saying that interest is the best teacher, first cultivate his interest in learning, don't put pressure on him, encourage him more, cultivate his self-confidence, he should be praised in time when he is right, and comfort him when he is wrong and tell him that it doesn't matter, and teach him patiently when he can't do it, In fact, the child is still young, and he can't see anything from one or two aspects, how well he learns is not very important, you don't care too much, the key is to cultivate his interest and enthusiasm for learning. Let him learn to enjoy the joy of the learning process, the higher the expectations for him, when he does not meet the requirements of his parents and will not do well, he will feel self-blame and inferiority, and even have an aversion to learning, which is very detrimental to his future learning.

Generally speaking, children's intelligence when they are young is about the same, and compared with ordinary students, children who are teachers should be smarter, but why does this phenomenon occur? Of course, you can't overturn a boatload of people with a bamboo pole, but the poor learning of teachers' children is not an isolated phenomenon, which shows that there are certain problems in the education of teachers for their own children. After a brief study, there are various reasons for this, and the following three aspects are briefly summarized.

1. There is not enough time to educate childrenIn our impression, the teacher is a hard gardener, and all her time and energy are focused on the students in her class. Then you will pay less attention to your own children. Especially when the child is young, he will inevitably feel lost when he looks at you so enthusiastically to other children every day.

2. Caring too much about children's gradesEvery parent will be very concerned about children's grades, but as a teacher's child, the pressure will be greater. The people next to them will think that the child's parents are teachers, so the learning will naturally not be bad, and the parents must think the same way, and they will be more sensitive to their children's grades. But in the long run, the pressure on the child will become more and more intense, and he will slowly lose interest in learning.

3. Habitually standing in the teacher's perspective to educate childrenTeachers and parents educate children are completely different, teachers educate children are more rational, and parent education is more emotional. When the child needs your emotional care, you have to educate him rationally, which will estranged the child from you, that is, the generation gap. Just like the child is sad that he did not do well in the exam, the first thing a parent should do is to comfort the child, rather than telling the child which knowledge points to master well.

There are also some teachers who can educate children, he can switch freely, he will simply be a parent when he arrives home, and get along with his children easily and happily. It's not just teachers who make such mistakes, many parents will have this kind of situation. Many parents are busy with work outside the home, and continue to work after they come back, not to mention the care of their children, and often bring the company's pie to home, and the children will feel at a loss.

One of the important points I want to say is actually to change your role, and don't bring your role in society to your home. Home is the simplest and most welcoming place in the world, and once there are other elements, it becomes no longer pure. What children need is for you to simply accompany you as a parent, not to preach as an old bored orange teacher.

First of all, you have to figure out why you need to accompany your child to do homework. How did you get to a state of mind on the verge of collapse? The important thing for children to learn is to develop good habits, not to force or supervise.

After the teacher assigns homework, parents are generally required to check and sign, the key point is to check and remind, so that children can gradually develop a good habit of consciously and actively completing homework, and parents do not need to accompany their children at all, like a supervisor to pay attention to the child's words and deeds. Everyone understands that when you are working, the leader has been staring at you, showing a sense of distrust, will you be sure?

Will you be more productive as a result?

Secondly, cultivate children's interest in learning, so that they know that learning is their own business, not their parents' business. With a sense of responsibility, you will naturally have your own plans and responsibilities. On the contrary, if you destroy your child's enthusiasm for learning and act passively only for the expectations of parents, even if you force him with a knife next to him, it will not help.

Third: Adjust your mindset. Do a good job of yourself, create a good learning atmosphere for your child, and when your child is doing homework, you can read a book or work in the room by yourself, and subtly influence your child with your own positive actions.

Don't: nagging, complaining or even scolding, doing things, this will be counterproductive, and it will also cause psychological damage to the child, and sometimes it may be difficult to heal for life.

1. Learn to change: parents in the treatment of children's academic performance, do not be too serious with the grades, the results can only show the child's mastery of knowledge at a certain stage, and can not explain anything, do not give the child too much pressure, force the child to study all day long, school is not the only way out, the child has a good mind and physique is more important than anything else.

2. Learn to compare: children's grades are poor, parents should look at how bad they are, what position they are in the class, what is the overall level of the child's scores, don't just look at the child's own grades, when comparing with the child's other classmates, don't just look at the top students in the class, excellent students, and a very small number of comparisons, it will only make the child lose confidence. Not only horizontal comparison, but also vertical comparison, so that children can compare themselves with themselves and see their own progress.

3. Learn to encourage: children learn poorly, children themselves are already very distressed, parents should stop blindly criticizing children, or even sarcastic children, saying that children are so clever and stupid, not as good as who whom, such blame and criticism will only make children tired of school, less grades, more encouragement, children make a little progress but also timely encouragement.

4. Learn to reflect on yourself: children's academic performance is poor, as a parent, you should also reflect, don't put all the responsibility on the child's body, complain that the child does not study hard, whether you usually care about the child's learning, tutor the child's homework, communicate with the child about the child's performance in school, take the initiative to communicate with the homeroom teacher, and parents should reflect on their own practices, which is what should be done.

5. Find the reason: the child is poor in learning, parents should communicate with the class teacher in a timely manner to understand the reason for the child's poor learning, whether it is the child's poor self-control ability, not listening to the lecture in class, or ignoring the child, the child prefers to watch TV, playing games on the Internet affects the child, or the child is tired of school, does not like to study at all, the learning method is not equal, find the reason, and then find a way to make up for the child's grades.