Can a married woman go to the ancestral grave, and can a woman go to the grave?

Whether a married woman can enter the ancestral grave depends on the customs and regulations of different places.

In ancient times, because of the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women, women had a low status, and after marriage, they were regarded as members of other people's families, so they could not enter the ancestral grave of their mother's family. And now, with the progress of society and the change of concepts, more and more places have begun to accept married women to enter the ancestral grave. Especially for some single-child families, after the daughter gets married, the parents still hope that she can go back to her parents' house to worship at the grave.

However, there are also some places that still retain the traditional belief that women should not sweep the ancestral grave of their mother's family after marriage, otherwise they will take away the feng shui of their mother's family. In these places, married women are usually not allowed to enter ancestral graves.

In general, access to ancestral graves depends on local customs and regulations, and it is advisable to respect local traditions and customs.

1. In some places, especially in the north, women are not allowed to go to the grave (regardless of the ancestral grave of their mother's family and their mother-in-law)? This situation is relatively rare, only in a few places, in Xiaogan, Hubei Province, there is a saying that women must not go to the grave. There are probably three reasons for this:

One way of saying is: men are inferior to women, and they are afraid that women will show their heads. However, judging from historical records, this statement is not absolute.

As described in the meticulous "Old Things of Martial Arts":"Three days before the Qingming Festival for the cold food, people go to the mound and wild sacrifices, especially many women, light makeup and plain clothes, carry the wandering girl, and share the dumplings to rest. "It can be seen that as early as the Southern Song Dynasty, women were able to participate in the tomb.

Another theory is that in the agricultural era, it was still very cold in the north, especially in the Yellow River Valley, and even colder in the wild, so it was more convenient for men to go out to the tomb to worship.

Another theory is: it is popular in rural areas to get married before the Spring Festival, and around the Qingming Festival, newlywed women are two months pregnant, so they need to have a safe pregnancy, and of course they can't go out to sweep the tomb.

2. There is also a relatively widespread spread that married women cannot go back to their parents' homes to sweep the graves (unmarried women cannot sweep the tombs), the main reason is that there is a saying among the people: daughters belong to other people's families"The water spilled by the daughter of the married dry song"Going to the grave will take away the blessings or wealth of the mother's family. In some places, after a woman marries into her in-law's house, she can go to the grave of the non-Zheng.

In some places, girlfriends or women who are only engaged and unmarried cannot go home with their boyfriends to visit the grave, also for fear of being taken away by outsiders.

3. In many places, pregnant women avoid tomb sweeping activities during the Qingming Festival, and the main reasons are as follows.

There is a superstition that tomb sweeping is heavy and fearful of affecting the child, and in some places there is a saying that the child is more timid when smiling at the pregnant woman sweeping the tomb.

Another theory is that the pregnancy should not be told to others in private, and only be asked for advice from the mother-in-law, and only told the mother-in-law until it was very sure. This is mainly due to the fear of deviations in pregnant women and ridicule by outsiders. In the process of sweeping the tomb, kneeling and worshipping, etc., it is easy to expose the woman's pregnancy.

There is also a more reliable saying that the Qingming season is very crowded, for the safety of the fetus, it is not recommended for pregnant women to participate, and the weather and surrounding environment of the tomb sweeping are not conducive to the health of pregnant women.

4. The new daughter-in-law and the family of the newborn child must take the new daughter-in-law and the child to the grave together.

The main reason is to show that the ancestors are recognized, and the second is to comfort the ancestors.

5. Women who have menstrual holidays should also avoid tomb sweeping.

The main reason for this saying in a few places is that they are worried about going to the grave during menstruation, touching the sacrifices, and disrespecting the ancestors.

However, there is no need to argue about whether a woman can sweep the tomb, the core is filial piety, it is better to respect customs, sometimes when there is a conflict with customs, the family sits down to talk, discuss and solve, after all, the family and harmony is the greatest filial piety to the ancestors, and it is also the greatest blessing of the family.

In the traditional concept, women are not allowed to go to the grave, whether it is at the husband's house or the mother's house, even if they return to their parents' house during the Qingming Festival, that is, they come back to have a meal and chat with their parents, and they do not follow their brothers to the graves of their ancestors. We often say that "a woman goes to the grave, and her mother's family is dead" is this truth.

In the minds of the older generation, it is believed that women themselves have a great yin energy, and that women are filthy people, and if they go to worship their ancestors, they will collide with the ancestors, causing the ancestors to be at peace, and the descendants will not be protected, which is also disrespectful to the ancestors. In some parts of the countryside, women are still prohibited from going to graves, but not absolutely. In order to protect women and prevent them from being hit by "unclean" things, some rural people slowly stop women from going to graves, which is also the reason why women do not go to graves.

The customs are different in various places, we don't have this kind of saying here, as children, it is appropriate to pay tribute to the elderly, why not allow the married daughter to go to the grave, I am really helping you look forward to it,

I don't think there's anything to say about it, in our place. Whether it is married or unmarried, it is possible to go to the grave.

Afraid of being seen by other ghosts, the ancestors and ancestors have no face.

Is it particular about girls going to the grave Some places girls are not allowed to go to the grave, and they always feel that their daughters are outsiders and are married, so they are not qualified to go to the grave, but in some places, girls can also go to the grave, after all, daughters are also their own descendants and their own family, in fact, it depends on whether you mind the area where you are located.

Can an unmarried girl go to the grave In some parts of China, if the daughter has not yet married, then it is possible to go to the grave, because the daughter also retains her own blood and is also her own blood relative, so there is nothing wrong with saying that the daughter goes to the grave of her ancestors, if her own family does not mind, then there is no problem.

Can a married girl go to the grave If your area thinks that your daughter is married to someone else's family, then it is not suitable to come back to her mother's house to worship her ancestors, because in the past, the daughter who married was with her husband's surname, but now the society can basically be improved very well, and the daughter is also qualified to come back to worship her ancestors when she marries.

One place, one custom. It is right to do these things according to your customs!

After getting married, the old people in the man's family are not at home, and the daughter-in-law can go to the grave.

To the grave, you should bring wine, food, fruits, paper money and other items to the cemetery, offer food to the front of the rent calendar of the relatives' tombs, and then incinerate the paper money, cultivate new soil for the tomb, trim the tomb, fold a few tender green new branches and insert them on the grave, and press some paper money on the top, and search for bricks in the cavity, so that others can see that there are still descendants in this tomb, and then kowtow and worship. Women and children also folded willow branches nearby and threaded the removed steamed offerings with wicker. Some weave the wicker into a hoop shape and wear it on their heads, saying that "if you don't wear willow in Qingming, you will become a yellow dog in the next life".