Fear of marriage, because I have seen too many unhappy marriages, but it is impossible not to get ma

I'm also a little scared, and I have to find a suitable marriage. There is no guarantee of marriage now, and I will have extramarital affairs when I get married.

On the first floor, you still have to do it when you get married, and you still have a shy face to say it.

You are afraid because you have seen too much misfortune!

But have you taken a closer look, so many happy marriages!

If you see it, you won't dare to get married! Just like so many people see others buying lottery tickets and winning them!

You don't want to think about how many people only have one out of them!

Who said that was you?

As long as we are sincerely together, how can we not be happy?

Once the sea was difficult to water, except for Wushan, it is not a cloud.

Going in and out of a bright place is not necessarily bad. (Not necessarily good, of course.) Men and women, in general relationships and friends, feel differently; Friends and whether there is a further relationship, feelings are also different; Before and after marriage, the feelings are also different; When I first got married and in the years after marriage, my feelings changed again; In the years after the marriage, there were new changes.

This is how we feel each other by touching the stones, and the same person is feeling us. And in the process, adjust the relationship between the two parties.

Marriage is a haven for us to find peace of mind and emotion. It is not a deed of sale: it is sold to each other and becomes the private property of the other.

Marriage needs to be run by both parties, not enjoyed unilaterally.

I wish you to meet a good person, and you will be white-headed together.

There are many failed marriages in this world, but there are also many happy marriages, and you have to look at the happy married life of others. See how other people live? Then learn from other people's lives and don't feel fearful about marriage.

There is nothing to fear in marriage, the key is that you have to choose the right person, you choose the right person, your married life will be very happy, and there is another point, you must know how to tolerate and understand each other more after you get married, and you must learn to manage your marriage well, which is very important.

It's like there are a lot of people on the road who get into a car accident, but there are still a lot of people who drive, and others don't stop driving because someone has been in an accident. Many people in this world will not stop marrying because someone has failed in marriage.

So don't be afraid of marriage, the key to whether you can be happy is whether you can choose the right person to marry, and then manage the marriage better. It's not because someone else's marriage has failed, your marriage will definitely fail, and if someone else's marriage fails, it has nothing to do with you. The marriage you choose, as long as you manage it well, you will be happy.

If you don't want to get married, it may be because you are afraid that you will be hurt by someone who is not ladylike; Or the complex interpersonal relationships brought about by marriage are difficult for you to handle; Or maybe it's because you're worried about the drag of your family, so you pay far more than you gain. In fact, as long as you can maintain self-reliance, self-esteem and self-love in your marriage, maintain good communication with your spouse, and solve problems when you encounter them, it is not so difficult to manage your marriage.

Most single dogs are eager to get married.

A person's sense of security is actually given to him by himself. If you can live well with or without marriage, and marriage is just the icing on the cake rather than a blessing in the snow, then you are more likely to be happily married. If you don't have a good life alone, you will use marriage as a life-saving straw and a magic weapon to solve problems, and your expectations for marriage are too high, and you will inevitably be disappointed.

First of all, you have the ability to make yourself happy, and you have the ability to manage the happiness of your family.

It is often said that marriage is the grave of love, however, what you need to know is that marriage is not inherently scary, what is scary is that you have these four "premarital phobia".

1. Before getting married, you will be afraid of married life.

Before getting married, you like the sweetness of love very much, like to live with the other half, and can't wait to stay together every day, but love is not the end, two people together are ultimately to continue the relationship between the two by marriage, because with a marriage certificate, the two of you are legally a legal couple, but you are always afraid that your other half will change her personality after marriage, and whether there will be too many differences between the two people, because after marriage you will face two pairs of parents and children, so, I am very worried about the situation after marriage, causing myself to have too much fear!

Second, before getting married, you will worry that you are not capable enough to support the whole family.

Before marriage, you each belong to each family, but after marriage, you are facing two families, and in the end there will be the crystallization of love, there will be children, at this time, you have to worry about the house, worry about the ticket, worry about the car, worry about the children, there will be too many worries, too much expense pressure on the husband and wife to work, so, I don't know what the future will be, there will be too much fear, so you know, marriage is not terrible, what is terrible is that you have this "premarital phobia"!

3. Before getting married, you will worry that your other half will be unfaithful to you, so you will lose your enthusiasm for marriage.

In the process of getting along with men, how can women and men get along for a long time without feeling tired, and how to smoothly get through the seven-year itch? The most important thing is that two people can trust each other, two people can be full of confidence in each other, even if the other half often goes in and out of places with many opposite sexes, they are not worried that the other party will betray themselves, and they must believe that the other party has the ability to sit still, marriage is not terrible, what is terrible is that you have this "wedding dress phobia"!

4. Before getting married, you will worry that you will not get along with your other half's family after marriage.

Before getting married, you will find that you will have to face a large family of the other party, and you don't know what kind of personality traits those relatives of the other party will be, and you don't know how to integrate into this big family, so your heart is full of fear. This may be a big reason why you think marriage is scary!

All in all, marriage is not terrible.

The best way to break the fear is to go deeper, not to go into the tiger's den to get the tiger, to enter the marriage to understand the tiger is not afraid, maybe not happy.

Marriages fail for a reason, it may be the fault of both people, or it may be the fault of one person. But you can't stop just because someone else has made a mistake. Marriage is an important experience in life, and it is the only way to live a good life.

Don't be afraid, go ahead.

Don't care about other people's opinions, it will be better for you to live in your own world, because marriage is your own, and others are not you, so I still hope that you should be interested in marriage. Because everybody will be happy.

What should I do if I have seen too many failed marriages and have become afraid of marriage? Restraint! Look at the success!

I've seen too many failed marriages and I'm already afraid of over-ing, what should I do? Personally, I think that although many marriages fail, there are also many marriages that are very happy, and I think everyone should be happy hopefully.

In fact, many marriages are still very happy, you don't always stare at bad marriages.

You can't completely follow the footsteps of others to take the road that others take, in a situation where others are learning from successful experience, you always see examples of failure, what's the point of this, what is there to learn from his failure? 》

Fear of marriage! Fear of how to face the words of relatives and friends, fear of all kinds of tedious things, face the etiquette of the elders of the two parties, the customs of the two parties, and the congratulations of friends, classmates and colleagues, etc., you need to do it yourself, no one can replace it! Actually, it's nothing, after all, it's a step that everyone has to take; After today, it will be mature in the true sense.

Love is the beauty that has always existed in human beings since ancient times, and the person you love enters the marriage hall, indicating that your feelings are further sublimated; It is a step that transforms love into affection; It is also the beginning of a person who really grows up! Happy newlyweds!

Feeling scared or uneasy before getting married is probably what we usually call "premarital syndrome". Most of this premarital fear stems from the fear of an uncertain life ahead. Human fear is the "unknown".

It is not known how the husband and wife get along after marriage, how they get along with members of each other's families who are not related by blood, whether they are qualified to be parents in the future, how they will live in the future, etc. Marriage means that life has entered a new stage, but also means to bear greater responsibility, how to strike a balance between marriage, family, and business is what everyone who enters the marriage hall must consider.

1.Don't be afraid. Marriage is something that everyone must experience, and with a family, life is complete.

Since you have chosen someone who you are worthy of love, then go forward boldly, no matter whether the road ahead is tortuous or smooth, there is that person who will accompany you through it, and it is enough to never abandon you.

2.You can ask your elders for help as appropriate. You can talk to them, they are people who have walked the road we haven't gone yet, and their advice is very good.

3.You can also relax and ask your friends to go for a walk, and they will also give you some advice.

Don't rush and let yourself fall into fear, and believe in the unknown, most of which are beautiful and gentle.

You should work hard to overcome this fear, and you can go to those happy families to feel that marriage brings you different feelings.

I think it's okay not to get married, and there's nothing good about getting married anyway, it's a general feeling, and life is sad.

You should adjust your mentality in time, and after marriage, two people can share the pressure of life, and they can also have their own small family, and don't be afraid of marriage.

If you have a fear of marriage, you need the help of your lover at this time, and as long as the person you marry is worthy, I believe this can be overcome.

When you meet someone you particularly like, you won't have this kind of mentality, and generally you will be quite afraid of marriage if you don't meet the right person. When love comes, you will fantasize about entering the palace of marriage with him, and you will no longer be afraid of life after marriage. So the key is not to meet the right person.

I don't think there's anything to be afraid of, as long as you put yourself in the right mindset, for the current society, if you are particularly disappointed in your marriage, you can also choose to be single, it's not a big deal.

You can try to date the man first, don't rush to get married, and then think about other things when the personality is compatible. Sometimes I hear too many people around me complain, and I will have thoughts of not wanting to get married, and it is really difficult to maintain family relationships.

If you want to change this status quo, then go and see more about the beautiful and happy family of marriage. If not, then you can go with the flow, maybe you won't be afraid when you reach a certain age, and you won't be afraid when you meet someone you like.

Everything goes naturally, maybe when you really meet the person you like, you will feel that marrying him is a very happy thing.

Then you should work hard to overcome yourself, don't think of yourself as those unfortunate people, and tell yourself that your husband has always loved you.

I'm not married yet, but my fear of marriage is that life will be destitute after marriage, and there is no sense of ritual and freshness, and every day is firewood, rice, oil and salt, which I think is terrifying.

You should regulate your mood so that you don't want to be occupied by this fear, and you should keep yourself in a good attitude.

Don't have such thoughts, and you shouldn't use other people's bad ideas to affect your own view of marriage, you will always use someone who loves you very much, and you shouldn't have fear.

You may have some kind of psychological illness, and you should go to a psychological counselor to help you solve it, so that you can be healthier.

I think you have to adjust your mentality, the unhappiness of your parents' marriage does not mean that you don't know love, if you blindly feel sorry for yourself, you will only let yourself miss out on love, only by overcoming fear and being sunny can you embrace happiness.

There should be this kind of thought, although the parents are unhappy in marriage, but they should not graft the unhappiness of their parents on themselves, which will make the future life also unhappy.

To make a psychological hint to yourself, your parents' unhappy marriage does not mean that your marriage will be unhappy, you must take the initiative to find your own love, full of confidence in love.

In fact, we can also look at a good family, because marriage is not necessarily all like our parents, it mainly depends on our own thoughts.

If you have this problem, you should communicate well with your parents, let your parents improve your psychology, and don't be too afraid.

Then don't get married first, marriage is not a necessity of life, only if you are financially independent, you can support yourself and your family. In the long decades of life, maybe you can meet the person who will not make you fearful, and then it is not too late to step into the palace of marriage.

Because your parents only represent their marriage, not the marriage of most people, most people are also very happy, don't be afraid because of your parents' unhappiness.