Is it true that a marriage with parents not agreeing is unhappy?

To love is to like deeply.

To love someone is to care about everything about him.

To love someone is to take advantage of his shortcomings in your eyes.

To love someone is to think about him every minute and every second.

To love someone is to be faintly afraid, afraid of losing him.

To love someone is to like him without knowing why.

This is love Do you love her, if it's true love, just show it, it's love. Just cherish it, if it's love, you have to cherish it, if it's love, don't be depressed, parents, if you see you happy, don't care about anything, the grievances of the previous generation.

I hope you can succeed, hehe.

Is it you getting married or your parents getting married, everyone else doesn't care if they like it, I have friends who are against it at the beginning, and after a long time, there is no way, and now their parents treat their partners like their own children.

Prove your parents wrong with your happiness.

The premise is that she wants to have a heart with you.

If you are filial, give up;

On the contrary, if you love your girlfriend very much, then persevere!

There's nothing to hesitate about, it looks like your girlfriend loves you very much, otherwise she wouldn't have cried about it. Excuse me, are you so patient?

As long as you truly love each other, nothing can stop you. After a long time, the family will slowly accept it.

Not necessarily, how many people in ancient times were not given the orders of their parents, and how many people were happy? So, if your parents don't agree, as long as you promise your parents that you will be happy, and then tell them about the marriage of the ancients, I believe they will be moved!

Not necessarily! If that man has the ability, you'll be fine! If you don't have the ability, you will live an unhappy life!

No, it's okay to wait until you get married, what I want to say is that love is not easy to come by, don't give up easily.

Sometimes it's time to take into account the opinions of parents.

But not blind obedience.

Take it yourself and pay attention.

People will encounter a lot of difficulties and obstacles in their lives, as long as you work hard to do it, you will succeed, as long as you persevere to the end, it is victory. What does the matter of the elders have to do with you, besides, it's not your two elders together. It's better to persuade your family to tell them

I am no longer a child, and I can make my own decisions about many things. Tell them to leave themselves alone. I believe that your sincerity will definitely impress your family.

The reality is not like this, you say that you will be happy you will not believe it, without the blessing of your parents will definitely not be comfortable, if it is because of the grievances of the previous generation, you can find a way to solve it, with the combination of the two of you to solve all the problems.

No one can interfere with their own happiness, and human beings in the new era must be a little bold.

Face the reality bravely and do your best to turn the conflict into a brood.

It's not easy to fall in love, it's even more difficult to stay together, it's even more difficult to find someone who loves you and yourself, take good care of this relationship, don't back down because of a little difficulty

The rest of the days are lived by yourself! Maybe you listen to your family very much, but if you find someone whose family likes you don't like, isn't that even more uncomfortable? Persistence is victory.

Of course not, happiness is in your own hands.

A marriage that parents do not agree to may also be happy, but that road is more difficult to walk, and many married people have this feeling after marriage: I regret not listening to my parents at the beginning; Why insist on such a choice at the time, it's too late to regret it now. Sometimes it feels like a curse for my parents' opposition, and I obviously feel that it is wrong, but later it turns out more and more that many of them are right.

Many parents are more realistic in their children's marriage, but their children are always emotional, thinking that their parents are too materialistic, but their parents are realistic, but they are also accurate in looking at people, they know too well what my three views and virtues are, and they also know what I want to live and the right person. The final direction of a relationship is actually a matter of two people. And marriage is not only about love, but also about life, firewood, rice, oil and salt.

So parents do see it more accurately.

Therefore, when we choose the other half, we must calm ourselves down, think clearly before making a choice, and work hard to complete it if we choose, not to mention regretting what we did at the beginning. I don't like it when someone says they are forced to do so, but it's not at all, all choices are made for a reason, and if you choose, you have to admit your responsibility. Even if your parents are against a marriage, you will be happy with your own efforts.

A marriage that parents do not agree with, whether it is happy or not, cannot be generalized, and must be analyzed in detail.

Sometimes, because of their own impulsive thoughts, they judge people by their appearance, and do not consider the character of the other party, and their parents are wise and do not agree to this marriage, if they do not listen to their parents' advice and insist on going their own way, then this kind of marriage will not be happy in the future.

If you have a correct view of love and pay attention to the other party's character, but the other party's economic conditions may not be good enough, if your parents only value money, they may disagree and block it, but in this case, you must insist on what you have seen, and after getting married, the two will work together and work hard, and they will still be happy.

A marriage that is not consented to by the parents will not be happy. Family is a very important part of human social relations. Without the support of the family, both partners in a relationship will feel pain, and a relationship will inevitably go harder.

The party who is picked on by the other family's family will be angry that they are not accepted. The opposing party of the family is under pressure from parents, suffering from the torture of "choosing sides" again and again, and sometimes it is inevitable to turn anger on the partner. It's not easy to manage intimate relationships, but it's even more difficult to move forward with a heavy load.

If your parents do not agree to your marriage, don't marry easily. In life, we always feel that we have grown up and have an opinion, so we can easily make decisions. However, our parents who are older and have a lot of experience sometimes give us more comprehensive advice than we do, and it will be more comprehensive for our later life.

In general, what are the reasons for parental disagreement. In my opinion, it is nothing more than the following: the distance is too far, the door is not the right household, the national customs are different, the other party's personal conditions are not worthy of you, the two parties do not agree on the issue of marriage, and simply feel that the other party's character is not good.

In many things, our parents, as people who have come before, are more experienced than us. However, you can't listen to their opinions, you can't appreciate their good intentions, and you still insist on going your own way, and finally end up in a mess.

What's more, marriage is not a matter of two people, but of two families. As long as one parent does not agree, even if he is reluctantly married, he can only be full of chicken feathers, a lot of troubles, bumps and bumps, and it is difficult to live a happy life. So, woman, if you want to get married, please get the blessing of your parents first, only then can you get the most perfect happiness in the world.

"A marriage that is not blessed by parents is often not a good marriage. Regardless of both men and women, in fact, the vast majority of parents are thinking about their children, and the reasons for their opposition are often based on their own marriage experience and their understanding of the simplicity of life, which actually has a certain reason. And unmarried men and women, lacking experience in this area, marry with the eagerness and impulse of love, and the result is always embarrassed."

This passage, if it is expanded into an article, must resonate with many people. Because when many people fall in love, their parents oppose it, he doesn't listen, gets married, and only after getting married does he find out that what his parents said was right.

Over the years, the phrase "a marriage that is not blessed by parents is destined to be unhappy" seems to have become a universally applicable truth. And the opposition of parents seems to have become a curse on young people's marriages.

What I want to ask is, is the unhappiness of the child's marriage only because of the opposition of the parents in the first place? Is it really just because my parents are well-informed, have seen through marriage and life, and "saw it accurately" at the beginning?

No. In fact, behind the opposition of our parents, there are reasons why we don't think about it often.

Today, I just want to get to the bottom of it and find out why it is difficult to be happy in a marriage that my parents oppose.

First, marital unhappiness itself is a high probability event.

In fact, as long as you have been married long enough, it is normal for your marriage to be unhappy - happiness is not normal.

Why do we always promote model couples and happy couples? It's because it's rare, if most people are happy, what's there to promote? Just like we promote "righteousness and courage", it is because righteousness and courage are a minority, if everyone is righteous and courageous, what is there to publicize?

I think many people have a misunderstanding about marital happiness, they always think that marriage is happy, at least other people's marriages are happy, but in fact, marital happiness is the highest ideal, it is not the norm, let alone the bottom line! This has to be clarified.

Don't refute the case of you just getting married for three or five months, a year or two, people are growing.

Most couples, they don't have love for each other anymore, they don't feel like husband and wife, but more like roommates or co-workers, and some of them don't even count as roommates - because they don't sleep together at all. They can only be regarded as colleagues - for the sake of the product of the child, for the sake of the family and the superficial integrity of the company, they have to continue to operate.

Marriages that parents do not agree with are not happy in most cases, but they are not absolute. If you can persist and have the other party's feelings for you are also very firm, you can also rely on yourself to let yourself live a happy life, and return to your parents when you are successful or when your children and grandchildren are full in the future, so that they know that you are really happy. At that point, they may not object.

If the parents do not agree to the marriage, whether it is happy or not depends on the situation.

I have been in emotional counseling for so long, and I have seen many cases of parental objections, as well as a large number of cases of marriages in which parents do not agree, and I have found some common patterns.

A large proportion of marriages in which parents do not agree will not be happy, generally for the following reasons:

1. The parents do not agree to this marriage because the other party has points that make the parents dissatisfied, such as not enterprising, lazy, other bad habits, poor economy, etc., if the parents are smart parents who can look at people, and the parents have a lot of life experience, these traits do exist in this person, then these traits are really likely to be a time bomb in your future marriage. The opposition of the parents, the disliked party is likely to have hatred in his heart, and it is difficult to treat his parents sincerely after marriage, which will definitely affect the relationship between the husband and wife.

2. Love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, if one of the parents does not agree to this marriage, it is easy for the two families to get along in the future. The parents of one party who dislike it usually show dislike and dissatisfaction in the interaction between the two families, and the disliked party will definitely feel uncomfortable because of the parents and themselves are disliked, which will inevitably affect the relationship between the two families, and it is difficult for both husband and wife not to be affected by their parents, after all, they and their parents are blood relations and are natural wholes.

3. Because your parents do not agree with this marriage, when you need your parents' help after marriage, your parents may feel that if you don't listen to your own words, it is very likely that they will not help you or will not help you wholeheartedly, and you will not get the support of your parents in your heart, which will also affect your happiness.

4. Because the other party is disliked by his parents, the other party's self-esteem is very strong, and he may make a note from now on. If he is not developed, it is okay, you can still live a stable life, if he is developed, he may choose someone else again, because when he sees your parents, he will think of the self who was once disliked, why not just start over?

Of course, marriages that parents don't agree with are not all unhappy. The parents do not agree to the marriage, and the subsequent happiness situation generally has the following characteristics:

1. The point that your parents disagree with is only temporary, you can get better through hard work, and your other half is also working hard to get better. For example, your parents dislike your other half for not having a good economy, but your other half is very hard-working, has strong learning ability, and has opportunities, and the economy will improve in the near future.

2. Your parents are not very good at seeing people and are short-sighted. Your parents look at people very superficially, for example, to see if the other party is very tall, handsome, and sweet in mouth, but your object is a standard straight man or straight woman, ordinary in appearance, but very good on the inside, and other aspects are also very compatible with you. This kind of you can't listen to your parents, stick to your own choices, live your own life, and be happy in the future, your parents will see it.

When your parents see that you are happy, they will most likely shut up.

3. The other party has a good character and a tolerant personality. Although your parents are against it, he is understanding and tolerant, and he tries to be himself, so that you can show your parents that you are happy after marriage, then he can bring you happiness.

What happened to marriages that parents didn't agree to? The marriage events that the parents do not agree to end in a bleak ending, because there is an old saying that the elders have eaten more salt than we have eaten, and the bridges we have walked more than the roads we have walked, this sentence is not unreasonable, parents always want us to grow into what he wants, telling us what to do and what not to do, but we come to this world for the first time and want to have our own life, so we often do not listen to our parents to do what we want to do, So in love, if we love right, it is called love, and if love is wrong, it is called youth, we always have some inevitable detours to take, even if our parents tell us that you will be wrong if you go down this road, it will hurt you a lot and you will be unhappy, but we still want to take a walk, because if you don't experience it yourself, you can't experience that kind of pain. Only pain can make a person maintain a kind of fear of something.

Parents are very accurate in seeing people.

Now two people fall in love, and when they talk about a certain point, they will get married, and they will meet their parents when they get married, but after meeting their parents, some couples will have some problems, that is, the parents of both sides do not agree with their marriage, or one of the parents does not agree to their marriage, because the parents feel that your object cannot marry you, he does not have the conditions to marry you, or you cannot be happy after marriage, at this time, because the two of you have been together for a long time, the relationship is very deep, Because I often feel that my parents are prejudiced against them, I still choose to marry him, but the marriages that my parents don't agree with are often divorced, because my parents are very accurate, and he knows who is the right person for you to marry.

Because of the estrangement between parents.

Because your parents do not agree with your marriage, but you are still married because of the power of love, but after you get married, there will definitely be one of the parties who has a hostile attitude towards your father-in-law or mother-in-law or parents-in-law who have opposed you, which leads to your family relationship not being handled well. After a long period of accumulation, you will rise to a kind of contradiction flashpoint, if this contradiction erupts, the relationship between the two of you husband and wife will definitely usher in a big collapse, after the collapse, you will divorce, so your relationship may break down because of the parents' disagreement, and then end miserably.

Unhappy marriage.

Parents have lived for decades longer than us, his social experience and social experience are higher than ours, and he is more accurate than us, although this is not all, but it is definitely the majority, most of it is the truth, so if you marry him despite the opposition of your parents, then you will definitely have problems with him, you are not suitable for each other at all, you don't listen to your parents together, and in the end only you are hurt, you will reap a failed marriage, and then two people will go their separate ways.