I want to hire a babysitter, but my mother in law is unwilling, what should I do

Updated on parenting 2024-06-23
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    First of all, the act of asking a nanny will make the old man very disgusted, feel that you don't trust her, you have to know that she will not harm you, after all, you are pregnant with her grandson, and the old man is more experienced in this area, the nanny may not be sincere to you, if she goes back, you will ask the nanny to come too late, then your relationship will be much better than the current nanny.

    First of all, the act of asking a nanny will make the old man very disgusted, feel that you don't trust her, you have to know that she will not harm you, after all, you are pregnant with her grandson, and the old man is more experienced in this area, the nanny may not be sincere to you, if she goes back, you will ask the nanny to come too late, then your relationship will be much better than the current nanny.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I want to hire a babysitter, but my mother-in-law is unwilling, what should I do I think if you want to hire a babysitter. Make your own decisions.

    Mother-in-law must be distressed about money. Hiring a babysitter must cost a lot of money. But if it is true that the family can afford to pay for it.

    Then it's good to hire a babysitter. Take your mother-in-law's ideological work, and your mother-in-law will too. Target.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Since your mother-in-law has rushed to your side from the countryside to take care of you, it means that she still reassures you.

    There's nothing wrong with your considerations, but it's a bit thankless.

    The arrival of the mother-in-law must have been well thought out, and she would not run away or anything like that.

    Besides, the elderly person is also experienced, and she will assist you through your maternity leave.

    If the mother-in-law can't handle it, it is also feasible to hire a nanny.

    It is better to communicate and discuss more in everything.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If the mother-in-law is unwilling, ask for a nanny, I don't know what attitude this mother-in-law has, is it because the family conditions are not good for you to ask for a nanny, or does the mother-in-law want to take you a child? If you really can't communicate with your mother-in-law, then let your husband, communicate with your mother-in-law.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    You hire a babysitter because you don't trust her. If others don't trust you, are you also angry?

    I believe in my mother-in-law, she is definitely more attentive than the nanny, although she is not as attentive to you as the nanny, but the original intention is for your good, and it is also to run in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Maybe the old man thinks he can do it and doesn't need to spend money on a babysitter. The old man was originally here to serve your confinement, so he felt that there was no need to hire a nanny. The old man has the old man's thoughts, and you also have your own considerations, so talk to your mother-in-law about it.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    What your mother-in-law said was angry, she was angry that her grandson was disobedient, thinking that she was taking care of her grandson, and her grandson was still angry with her, so she was angry for a while, in fact, people are often like this, obviously they are usually very good, they don't say anything about work, and they have been living a dull life, once they are angry, they will say all the hard work in the past, and they think they are very wronged, what is this ......for?

    As for the words that are said when you are angry, they are also the words that you usually dare not say in your heart, just like the words that you say when you drink alcohol, the words that are usually suppressed in your heart are the same, but the tone you say when you are angry will not sound good, which is understandable.

    After this incident, comfort the mother-in-law, and let the child apologize to the mother-in-law, as for the mother-in-law is not something we can deny in a word, this is what you usually know after contact, you can't judge her good or bad because of her mother-in-law's words, some people speak openly, but their hearts are still kind.

    At this time, we young people should be more enlightened, have nothing to do with the mother-in-law to chat, so as to understand the mother-in-law's true thoughts, but also let the mother-in-law know more about you, a big family, there are old and young, have their own difficulties, we need to take care of everyone together is not just a single person can be home and everything is prosperous, want family harmony, we must understand each other and tolerate each other.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Your mother-in-law and the child lose their temper and say that they are nannies, at this time you should take the initiative to apologize to your mother-in-law, say some good words, let your mother-in-law dissipate her anger, you are a daughter-in-law to apologize to the elders, she cooks for you and takes care of the children is really hard, so that you can work with peace of mind, you don't think this is what she should do, as the saying goes, coaxing people to death does not pay for their lives, usually praise your mother-in-law, so that she will help you without regrets, so that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like mother and daughter, such a family is harmonious and happy, Others will envy you.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Mother-in-law is not obliged to help you with the children and housework. You can't take it for granted to help you. You should treat your mother-in-law with gratitude.

    Your attitude will also affect your child's attitude towards your mother-in-law. You should sincerely apologize to her and tell her that you have worked hard. Communicate more and thank her for her dedication.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You don't have to care about anything, you don't have to ask anything, just be yourself, it is very likely that your mother-in-law has reached menopause, it is normal for her mentality and emotional instability, you don't want to fight with her, there is no point, just follow her in life, you do what you should do well, care more about your mother-in-law, and let her go with the rest.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you can't change the status quo, then don't hear it. If you can communicate, then tell her well, you have no one to take care of the children now, she helped you, and when they are old, you will also serve them well, and now you are young and earn more money, and your life will be much better in the future. Then tell her that if you come back early, you will do more housework, and her son can let him share some housework at home.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can live separately and hire your own babysitter, since she thinks she is a babysitter.

    It stands to reason that if she lives in your house (not yours live in hers), and both of you go to work and give her money, she should take the initiative to help. Even if you have a little temper occasionally, forget it, but if you have nothing to do, it's better not to live together.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    My mother-in-law has a tantrum with the child and says she is a babysitter, what should I do? Your mother-in-law has a tantrum with her own children, saying that she is a nanny, and this mother-in-law must have put a lot of effort into this family, so when your mother-in-law loses her temper, you should coax your mother-in-law to persuade your mother-in-law to tell your mother-in-law that she is the same as her, and she is paying for this family. You are supporting your mother-in-law and having your own life, and telling your mother-in-law that you must persuade your husband to do more work on a regular basis.

    Try to reduce the burden on your mother-in-law.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Your mother-in-law has a tantrum with the child and says she is a babysitter. In fact, the women in every family are similar! In addition to going to work, you also have to do housework, so you and your mother-in-law are basically in this situation, then you should have a good chat with your husband and let him also share some housework, and your son should also share the housework at home when he grows up.

    After all, the family belongs to everyone, not just you. Two females.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    As a family, we must understand each other and care for each other, you must know, if there is no mother-in-law, is your life so good now, no one to take the baby, can you take time out to go to work with peace of mind? No one to do housework, tired of a day like a dog, go home and mess up to clean up, but also hurriedly busy buying vegetables and cooking, busy and round, do you want to lose your temper to vent your anger, layer by layer, escrow, your own children with your own, mother-in-law's responsibility is to raise her son, no obligation to take the child, now mother-in-law has carried things up, the most basic understanding and care still have to have, everyone will be heart-to-heart, now we are daughters-in-law, in the future we can also be mother-in-law, to use a grateful heart, If our daughter-in-law doesn't know what to do, our hearts are not hot, if the daughter-in-law is sensible, then, we are tired, but also willing, the son's child is also our bloodline, the son's daughter-in-law is not an outsider, there must be someone to do things at home, everyone shares the burden to do, rather get up a little in the morning and brush the bowl a few minutes earlier, don't make others feel uncomfortable, the elderly, after all, the age is old, the physical condition is not like when he was young, so many things, but also to take the baby, go to work can also have time to get off work, this is a continuous rotation, the old man can't bear it, feel tired and panicked, feel uncomfortable, feel no one distressed, the bowl brushing incident is just a fuse, usually there must be ideas, or just complain in front of the child, not in front of you head-on conflict, it is already very restrained, some mothers-in-law just don't take the baby to travel by themselves, to play cards and dance square dance, what do you do with her? Mother-in-law is not her own mother, or her own mother works for you every day, you see if she will lose her temper, directly scold us dogs bloody, women, just broken mouths, things are not less, cultivate a good relationship with your mother-in-law, buy some delicious food, buy some clothes or other things she likes, coax her to be happy, share the housework, create a better life together, everyone gets along happily, this is the way to get along!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    The children are all 13 years old and can take care of themselves. If your mother-in-law is a little physically inadequate, she will naturally get bored, and if you have to cook at home after a day's work, you will definitely be very tired. Especially when your husband doesn't do any housework except work, it will make you even more dissatisfied.

    If you have a stiff relationship with your mother-in-law, it will definitely affect the relationship between your husband and wife, the child is already older, see if it is possible for you to live separately from the elderly, and the elderly do not have to work hard to take care of your life, if the mother-in-law leaves, you don't have to listen to the nagging of your mother-in-law, just work hard yourself, take care of your son's dinner or something.

    The best way is to involve your husband, let him participate in tutoring the children's studies, participate in household chores, and reduce the burden on you and your mother-in-law, so that neither of you will have any complaints in your hearts!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    First of all, see if the mother-in-law's call is intentional or unintentional. If it is unintentional, and it is within its ability, and does not delay work and life, it will be compromised, understood, and tolerated. If the mother-in-law wants to "make rules" and "get off the horse" or something like that.

    You can politely refuse, or use busy work as an excuse to try to minimize contact. After all, if you want to get along for a long time, it's better not to have conflicts.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Comfort your mother-in-law more, she is more worried about taking children, sometimes irritable, so she just feels like a nanny, maybe the child is too smart, too playful, and makes her angry, so as a daughter-in-law, you should comfort and comfort her mother-in-law will be better.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Your wife and children lose their temper, and he also says that he is a nanny, which is also your wife, there are too many housework, and work is also busy, and there is indeed a lot of work to manage the children, and he loses his temper and complains.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Mother-in-law loses her temper with the child, and says that she is a nanny, in this case, you should say more words to comfort your mother-in-law, and your mother-in-law will also work very hard to bring you children, buy more delicious food for your mother-in-law, and then buy what she likes to wear, so that your mother-in-law is happy, these things are all things you should do.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    My mother-in-law has a tantrum with the child and says she is a babysitter, what should I do? In this case, you have to comfort her more, encourage the old man to comfort him more often, and say that she has worked hard, and when she is free, she will buy more things she likes to comfort her, and it will generally change very well.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Hello, in this case, it is recommended that you do not come forward to say it, you can talk to your husband about such things. Let your husband and you can't help but say such things, because you are a daughter-in-law and not a member of his family, and if you say such things, it is easy for your mother-in-law to misunderstand.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    You have to coax your mother-in-law properly and apologize to your mother-in-law, after all, she is really hard. Besides, being a little Belle, like an elder, there is nothing soft. When the mother-in-law is happy, her natural attitude will not be bad.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If your mother-in-law always says that you are a nanny, then you should tell them that you don't serve them and go back to your parents' house directly, so that the two of them can live their own lives.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    should tell your mother-in-law that in fact, the family should not be so serious about each other, in fact, everyone is thinking about the family. And you must be the most respected person at home, not a nanny at all.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    The Jedi fought back, I married into your family, and now I am the mistress of this family, not that you spend money to take care of the nanny, not that you can do whatever you want.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    You see, you are just in the midst of blessings and do not know blessings. Maybe it won't be until your mother-in-law is gone for a few days or when you're old that you realize how tiring it is to take care of the children and clean up the house. Be considerate of the elderly.

    It should be cared for, that is, if you don't do housework, she will be happy to do it no matter how tired she is. Instead of thinking about you like you, your mother-in-law can't do anything if you complain twice.

    You can help with some housework or take care of the baby during your break, so that he can also relax.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Adults sometimes complain. You can pretend you didn't hear. As the saying goes, the next generation is close. If you don't believe it, you beat his grandson, you try. As long as you go out and come home and call Mom. Holidays, birthdays, caring about him, grandchildren shouting every day, mother-in-law's heart will be sweeter than honey.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Now in life, many mothers-in-law are their sons' nannies, doing a lot of housework to help watch the children is really hard, sometimes complaining can also be forgiven, children get off work to help the elderly, understand the hard work of the elderly, care about the elderly to give some warmth, do their best to make the old people happy in their old age.

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