When the dying old man leaves, should he avoid it as a granddaughter?

As a granddaughter, whether or not you need to avoid the departure of a dying elderly person depends on your relationship with that elderly person and your personal feelings and values.

In some cultures, young people may shy away from the death process of older people, which is considered a form of respect and courtesy. However, in some cases, young people may feel guilty or upset about doing so.

Most importantly, you should respect your feelings and values and consider whether you would like to be present with the elderly and witness their final moments. If you are willing to be present, you can communicate with family members or health care providers to learn how best to support the elderly and family.

When the elderly are dying, the most important thing to pay attention to is:First of all, be mentally prepared; Second, prepare for the funeral; Finally, it is necessary to pay attention to some specific problems before, during, and after the death of the elderly

1. First of all, be mentally prepared.

Most of the elderly die of illness, such as Parkinson's disease, cerebral infarction and other geriatric diseases. As a child, we must pay attention to the condition of the elderly, if we find that the elderly are unable to eat, have difficulty swallowing, are unconscious, and express themselves unclearly, we must be prepared for the elderly to have little time and be able to leave at any time.

2. Second, prepare for the funeral.

Whether it is the elderly in the city or the elderly, after death, some farewell ceremonies or funerals will be held. As a child, you should learn more about these in advance and discuss the details of the funeral with your siblings and the surviving parent. If you wait until the people are gone to discuss, it will be too late by then, and many things will be difficult to control.

1) Discuss and determine the number of days for the funeral. The customs vary from place to place, with some places holding it for two or three days, and some places for four or five days. If the child is working in a foreign country, it is difficult to ask for leave or it is not easy to take too long leave, it is necessary to discuss and determine the number of days for the funeral.

If the number of days of the local funeral is calculated according to some eight characters, gossip, etc., and must be implemented, then it can only be determined by yourself.

2) Discuss and determine the items to be purchased for the funeral

First, it is necessary for the deceased. Such as coffins, shrouds, etc.

The second is the items required for the sacrifice. Such as paper money, incense candles, firecrackers, etc.

The third is the necessary items for white affairs. Such as tobacco and alcohol, melon seeds and peanuts, candy, meat, vegetables, etc. (the above items can be purchased during the funeral, and there are people who specialize in white affairs in various places, and they can buy according to their requirements.) ）

3) Discuss and determine the apportionment method of the funeral expenses. If there is only one child in the family, it is basically up to you to figure it out alone. If there are several siblings in the family, then go straight to the equalization method.

3. Finally, some specific questions about the elderly before, during, and after death.

If you find that the elderly are running out of time, then you must do a good job in the final care of the problem, and you must discuss the specific issues such as taking care of the elderly and taking care of them by those people. There is a tradition in China that when parents die, it is better to have children by their side, the so-called "send-off". In addition, after the old man leaves, it involves a problem such as sending him back to his hometown for burial or pulling him to the funeral home for processing, which must be considered in advance.

It is better than the vehicle that transports the dead in advance. After the funeral, there are some mountain guards and heads.

7. Returning to the funeral and other customs, which can be discussed and determined after the funeral.

People are inherently dead, and after the death of the elderly, as a junior, they should be loyal and filial to them, after all, it is the last journey for the elderly. Therefore, some specific etiquette must be understood and respected.

I think so. It's best to ask beforehand who you need to come back to Fierce Silver. In my personal experience, some elderly people are not just their children.

And siblings, best friends, and more. The old man, when he gets older, he is like a child. His fear of the unknown makes him yearn for the company of his loved ones.

I've seen some old people waiting for their relatives who didn't come back. Unaware and unresponsive, but the heartbeat lasted for about two days. I don't know, is this kind of waiting a kind of torment for the elderly?

But as a bystander, I feel like it's an ordeal. So, this is the last time the old man will be on his own. If you can rush back, try to rush back as much as possible and stay with the old man.

At least he wasn't so lonely when he walked away.

The children of the elderly, as well as the grandchildren of the next generation, should be by their side and accompany the elderly on their last journey.

The elderly are getting old and sick, but the smaller and smaller scope of life limits their continued contact with the outside world, and the small space and limited vision increase their inner loneliness. Therefore, children should spend more time with them. Making full use of weekends and holidays can not only avoid the tight working time, but also relieve the pressure caused by intense work, and more importantly, it can bring the elderly a joyful atmosphere of weekends and holidays.

Of course, if the elderly are seriously ill or unable to take care of themselves, in addition to asking someone to take care of them, they should visit and accompany them every day, and it is not enough to only use weekends and holidays.

One of the biggest cognitive characteristics of the elderly is that the past is vivid, and the near view is blurred. The traces of decades of rough heads are deeply imprinted in their hearts, and the hardships and joys of the past immerse them in distant memories, which is a very important spiritual pillar to support their lives. This requires extra enthusiasm and patience on the part of the child.

As the old saying goes: "The son wants to raise but the kiss does not wait". When the elderly are still there, they should have more companionship and care.

There are many kinds of companionship, every morning or evening to accompany my father out for a walk, quietly accompany my mother to play a **, and the family eats a meal together, these are all companions.

Why should the old man's daughter avoid it before he dies? Maybe it's because I'm afraid that my daughter will leave too many memories, and I'm afraid of hurting my daughter's heart, so I'm like this.

Why should the old man's daughter avoid it before he dies? Maybe the old man has some property to entrust to his son, so he doesn't want his daughter to know.

Before the old man died, the reason why his daughter wanted to avoid it was probably because the old man had something to say to his son.

The old man didn't say before he died that he wanted his daughter to avoid it, maybe it's your local custom.

There is no such statement, and if there is one, it may be related to the inheritance of the inheritance.

Before the old man died, who said that his daughter should be avoided, how can there be such a statement, I don't know where you are. How can there be such a custom?

Theoretically, I should go back. As my own elder, I should go back and see it at the end of my life. Giving a ride is also the minimum custom and etiquette.

Of course, in today's era, people's observance of this etiquette is often not as strict as in ancient times. It depends on the relationship with the deceased, but in any case, it is theoretically appropriate to go back and see.

The importance of politeness.

Politeness is a norm for dealing with the relationship between people, so that people should abide by the moral rules in daily interactions, and it is the embodiment of civilization. Politeness is mainly manifested in the following ways: civilized language, friendly attitude, dignified manners, politeness is the business card of communication.

Politeness is a modest and respectful attitude, words and deeds, and the appearance of respecting the virtues of others; Politeness shows a person's cultural connotation and good cultivation; Politeness can add to a person's demeanor and charm; Politeness is an essential form of communication in a civilized society.

This is a very personal question and there is no one set answer. Some people believe that when the elderly are dying, their children should come back to accompany them as a sign of care and respect for them. This kind of companionship can give the elderly comfort and peace of mind, and can also make them feel the warmth and love of the family.

On the other hand, there are also people who believe that the elderly may face illness and pain when they are dying, and the return of their children may increase the pressure and burden on them, and they may not even be able to bear the pain of parting. Therefore, whether or not to come back depends on the specific circumstances of the family and the wishes of the individual. The most important thing is that whether the children return or not, their love and respect for the elderly should be continuous and can be expressed in other ways.

In fact, this phenomenon is feudal dross, and there is no scientific reason at all. Nowadays, this phenomenon occurs only in backward areas. However, even if it is a literate and advanced family, many people will choose to let their children avoid the death of the elderly.

It is mainly due to the immature psychological development ability of children and the lack of a clear understanding of everything in the world, so if you witness the death of your grandparents who love you, it is easy to cause a great psychological blow. Nightmares, irritability and irritability can affect the child's physical and mental health.

No matter when and where, there is no difference between the old man's love for his grandson, and this loving heart deserves people's respect and should be remembered by children.

When the elderly are dying, they will pour out their breath, and the smell of the old man's last breath at this time is particularly strong, so generally when the old man is about to breathe, the daughter who accompanies the old man at the bedside will let the young man leave.

There is a saying that when people are dying, they will exhale their last breath, and this breath is very strong, and other people are not good for their health if they inhale, so there is such a saying.

In fact, it is a kind of superstition, the last breath exhaled by the old man is not very good, and if it is sucked by a child, he will get sick.