In a long distance relationship, how can you restrain your longing?

Do what you have to do, this is actually summed up from a lot of my failure experience, every time I meet soon, I am worried that I will not be able to complete the task in the near future, and I will not be able to meet or shorten the meeting time. In fact, to put it another way, if you have been working hard to do your own thing, then you have the confidence in your heart, and you will not be worried all day long in the days of meeting. And there's this sentence my boyfriend keeps telling me, if you're wasting your time over there, it's better to come to me and waste it.

On the premise of living their own lives, they should have more contact, of course, not only in different places, but even couples living together must have their own lives and appropriate space. However, longing is mostly bred by dissatisfaction. This dissatisfaction refers to the frequency or quality of contact in a relationship, etc., which does not meet the emotional needs of one or both parties.

So connecting as much as possible is certainly a good way to reduce your misses.

Whether you are two months in advance, or two days in advance, buy a ticket and book an itinerary to meet, when there is no major event, you must be decisive to implement your plan, what is a non-major event? The assignment given to you by the teacher, the company may have to work overtime, it doesn't matter. See what you see, even if you take time off, or go with the flow.

Overtime is rare, if there is a task, it will be sad, but the change of plan will make people have too much instability. This sense of insecurity, which may change at any time, and not knowing when we can see each other for sure, is easy to despair and more likely to make people sad. The lover who is not sure when he will be able to see him, of course, is more missed, or sad and sour.

At first, I missed him so much, I couldn't even fight. At that time, he had just arrived in the army, and I remember that I couldn't cry when I came back to the first **, and it was only 15 minutes, I was beaten for 12 minutes, and there were 3 minutes left for his parents. Don't let yourself be idle, as long as I don't go to work, I will go home to accompany my parents, or go to his house to see his parents, his mother is not in good health and is always taking medicine.

When I get busy, I get used to it, and I don't miss him so much.

You can keep a diary and write down what you want to say to him, don't keep telling him that you think about him and miss him, he will be annoyed and stressed for a long time. You can put your thoughts into words and show them to him on future anniversaries, and you may be surprised and moved.

From the pattern I have personally discovered, if the date of the next meeting is determined, then the next period of time, I will be more at ease, and the time will pass faster. There is an expectation in the heart, and there is a progress bar for time. Every day that passes, it is close to meeting each other, which is a kind of positive feedback, which is easy to make people more and more happy and not feel that time is difficult.

In fact, we always have to learn to be alone in our lives. Then you will slowly discover what you like. For example, such as drawing, such as dancing, such as running, such as handicrafts, etc., you find a lot of fun in the process of getting along with yourself, and that's great.

Then you will have a good time every day, you will be very happy, and you will not have so much time to be sad, and the two of you will have nothing to talk about what you like recently, and you will also share this joy with each other.

Be aware of the inconveniences that come with physical distancing.

First, it's best for two people to have a serious discussion about how to deal with these inconveniences and asynchrony, and by the way, discuss common goals, such as going to work in the same city or how often they meet.

Many times couples in long-distance relationships don't think about the troubles that long-distance will bring, so they often quarrel, so it's really important to be mentally prepared.

Second, high-quality communication in long-distance relationships is important.

To make it more vivid, let's take a chestnut horn, Xiao X and Xiao Y are a couple in a long-distance relationship, and one day their chat history looks like this. A long-distance relationship requires a little sense of ritual!

There are a lot of interesting apps for long-distance couples, which can not only record anniversaries and small routines, but also set up small tasks to complete

Of course, you can also meet up to have the same meal, or pick a movie at the same time to watch, there will be no shortage of tricks in remote dating, and the same is true for sweetness.

Third, long-distance relationships must learn to eliminate loneliness and anxiety!

Many times, long-distance couples have to learn to put themselves first in life, just don't reply to messages, etc., work and study are not only available to each other, and they have to do it themselves

Give each other some tolerance and patience, and also give yourself a little more fulfillment and self-confidence, long-distance love is already a last resort, don't drill the horns to make it difficult for yourself.

Fourth, the end of love is marriage. Both parties in a long-distance relationship should face this rationally, and when two people fall in love, the ultimate goal is to get married. This is not a problem, as long as the love develops to a certain extent, you can talk about marriage.

But for long-distance relationships, two people living in two places will face great difficulties in life after marriage. Both sides must face this issue rationally. And deal with it appropriately according to the specific situation, so as to ensure that the relationship between the two parties can develop smoothly.

The result is a happy outcome.