Yishui proposed a marriage custom, why did the groom smile when he saw it?

Because the marriage custom reform proposal issued by Yishui County proposes: the bride price should not be or less, it is best to control it within 10,000 yuan, the wedding car should not exceed 6, and the wedding banquet can be simple, so invite some direct family members of themselves and their wives, the scale should not exceed 10 tables, and the people who accompany the gift should not exceed 200 yuan.

The most cumbersome thing about marrying the bride is the size of the wedding banquet, as well as the people who are invited to the banquet, and how much bride price is appropriate for the bride, etc., all of which need to be solved by the groom.

Usually when we go to other people's weddings, the gift is also a problem, 50-100 yuan in the past, to 200 yuan later, and then to 500 now, the number can not be singular, the meaning is not good, the relationship of friends without 1000 yuan can not show their importance to friends, or before friends with their own are 600 yuan, how to get 600 yuan and so on, resulting in the gift of people are also afraid of receiving wedding invitations from friends and relatives.

This proposal of Yishui County has also sparked a lot of discussion, some people are happy and some are against, but I think it still has to be combined with the local folk customs, and it can't be all missed. Some families like to be lively, and there are many relatives, and it is customary for everyone to share the joy when there is a happy event.

If two people really love each other, even if the bride price is high, the bride price will be the property of the husband and wife in the future; The second is the wedding car, the wedding banquet actually depends on the preference, the number of wedding cars and the number of wedding banquets are a sign, maybe the local ** is out of good intentions, thinking about simplicity, but in fact** is not the two sides of the wedding, how to know the meaning.

Therefore, it may be more difficult to implement this proposal, and it is impossible for China's thousands of years of tradition to change, and it still depends on the people's ideological changes. So there is a long way to go.

Because Yishui's marriage customs reform is beneficial to the man, there is no need to give too much dowry, no need to hire too many guests, the man's expenses will be greatly reduced, and of course he is happy as a groom.

The reason why the grooms laughed when they saw it was because this marriage custom initiative made them pay less money for the bride price and reduced their burden, so they laughed, which can solve the bride price troubles of many families.

The groom doesn't have to worry about the bride price and the house, and he can easily please his wife. They picked up a big bargain, and of course they were happy.

Because the gift money is very small, at this stage, when people get married, the gift money is very high, which is sky-high for many people, so it has brought serious pressure to many people.

After the two parties agree on the date, the woman goes to the man's house accompanied by her relatives (usually even numbers), and the man buys a banquet to receive him warmly, and invites the introducer and relatives and friends to accompany her. The man is required to give the woman an engagement gift, mostly cash and clothing, as well as gold and silver jewelry such as necklaces, earrings, rings, etc., and the amount of the gift is generally agreed upon by the man and woman in advance. In rural areas, young men and women generally have to "send books", "send days", and "make urging" after they get engaged to get married.

Now they are all newlyweds, and after discussing in advance, they can save the link of sending a comb, and they can give the money together on the day of the engagement, which generally ranges from 2000-8000. The engagement money around the county is generally 3,000-8,000 yuan, and the lower towns are generally 100001 (one in ten thousand).

Sending books is also known as "passing the red son".

After the marriage is confirmed, the man asks the matchmaker to go to the woman's house and exchange "books" with the names of the men and women, their ages, and the names of their parents and matchmakers, as the basis for the marriage. The man also has to give the woman a wedding gift. In addition to clothes, money, jewelry, leg ties, and socks, there are also two packets of salt, two packs of rice, 1 pair of needles, and 1 pair of green onions.

Sending salt, rice, etc. means "fate has arrived", sending needles means "marriage", and sending onions means "from the covenant" (since the "four olds" were broken, only cash and clothes were generally sent to books, and "books" were no longer exchanged). When the woman returned to the book, she had a hat, a belt, a pair of clothes, a pair of hand towels, 1 pair of socks and shoes, and 1 pair of cigarette bags and buns (now there are mostly two boxes of cigarettes).

After the man asks "Mr" to check the wedding date according to the birth dates of the men and women, etc., he sends someone to the woman's house to inform him, which is commonly known as "sending the day". In the past, there were generally "four-color gifts" when giving the day: steamed buns (or chicken), meat, silver carp, and pink skin.

Give more clothes and cash now. After the date of delivery, both parties will notify their relatives and friends of the wedding date, and the relatives and friends will give gifts before the wedding. The one given to the man is called "gift", and the one given to the woman is called "sending a filling box".

On the day before the wedding, the man sent someone to the woman's house to "make up", which means urging the woman to get married on time. There are generally 1 pair of red and blue jackets, 1 set of cosmetics, 1 pair of male and female hens, 1 pair of fish, and 1 knife of meat. The dowry is generally returned to the man's house with the dowry, so there is a saying that "the dosage is unbearable".

Chickens are called "long-lived chickens". When urging makeup, if the woman leaves a "long-lived chicken", it means that the woman has a "big box" when she gets married. The box contains "Kuanxin noodles", "New Year's steamed buns", baked cakes, and "shoe worship" (shoes given by the bride to the man's elders, brothers, sisters-in-law, siblings, etc.).

In recent years, the big box has ceased to be seen.

The engagement is called the scarlet letter in Yinan.