What is the reason why you are unhappy?

Because I am not capable enough, my income is not enough, and my life is too stressful, so I am unhappy.

There is never any easy word in the adult world, but the reason for unhappiness in the adult world is also very simple. Lack of money is often the most important reason for unhappiness as an adult, and I am just an ordinary adult.

Because of the lack of personal ability, the income has not been very high, and I am worried about money every day. As a college graduate, I didn't think about improving my academic qualifications, but after looking around, I found that even if I mentioned my academic qualifications to my bachelor's degree, there were no higher-paying jobs around me than I have now.

Over the years of work, my personal ability has not improved significantly, and there are still not many things I can do, and I once thought about learning things again, but now I have no choice.

Since I don't work for a day, my income for the month may not be enough to cover my living expenses. Especially in real life, there are always accidents, which makes me afraid to quit my current job, let alone try new things, because I am afraid of instability.

I am not happy because I lack money. The reason why adults are unhappy is as simple as that, and that's what I'm in right now. The salary income is not too low, you can only barely make ends meet, not to mention how much you have in savings; I can't talk about work, I can't talk about liking it, but this is already the best way to support my family, and I dare not change it easily.

Life is like this tepid step by step, every day I will worry about money, every day I feel that the money is not enough, but I have thought of a lot of ways, and my life has not changed much.

The reason why I am unhappy is because the financial conditions are not enough to support my happiness. I think this is the reason why most adults are unhappy, simple and pure, just the word "lack of money".

In real life, everyone wants a better life, but a better life needs more material conditions to support. For most ordinary people, it is not realistic to increase economic income in a short period of time.

By working on changing your life from now on, you may be able to shake off the unhappiness of adults.

The main reason why I am unhappy is because I am poor, and I can't give my parents a better life and improve my quality of life, which also makes me feel very inferior.

There are various reasons, one is because of some trivial things in life, and the other is that I want to have too much and don't know how to be satisfied.

It's because life is too stressful and I don't have a small family of my own, so I feel unhappy.

1. On the day of salary, I was the happiest, I saved half a month, ate grass for half a month, and finally could place an order without mercy, not even bringing lunch, and ordering takeout directly

2. The colleague who doesn't deal with you is unlucky. Don't spray, I also know the truth of feng shui in turn, but do you know that schadenfreude is also human nature? People who can't get along with you are unlucky and scolded, I don't believe that your psychology does not fluctuate a little, so admit it generously.

3. When you can go out to work in the field, you can take a breath out of your breath, and you can't be proud 4. When you have a company dinner, you don't have to spend your own money to eat a big meal

The root of human suffering and disappointment is often to care too much about oneself. Only by forgetting oneself and serving the public can we achieve ultimate happiness.

Like a dew drop under the sun, although it is crystal clear, it is always worried that it will be evaporated and dissipated into nothingness, so it suffers from gains and losses, depression and does not feel happy. In his short life, he is always shrouded in feelings of depression, pain, and disappointment. Why not let yourself be in the middle of the ocean?

Forget yourself and blend into the sea, no longer a dewdrop, but a part of the vast sea. When the dew melts into the sea, life is sublimated, and the bliss of life is here.

Paying attention to one's own pain and helplessness all the time is easy for people to lose their happiness and go to extremes. Forget about yourself, pay attention to others, help others, integrate your life into the immeasurable and boundless beings, serve them, be anxious about what others are anxious about, and think about what others think. Instead, you will get real happiness and a sunny life.

So, when you are depressed and in pain, go and help others and use your own strength to help others solve problems. Care for others, be grateful to others, help others, and magnify "others" to the infinite toiling masses and all sentient beings. You will be amazed to find that your own problems are solved.

Your own pain is no longer pain. Dissolve ourselves into the world, and each of us will sublimate from the dew to the sea, and life will gain eternal brilliance and brilliant sunshine. All the gloom is gone, and all the pain is gone.

I think that the morning glow, the dewdrops, and the comet are short-lived, impotent, and miserable, and I think that the sun, the sea, and the universe are splendid, happy, and eternal.

When you encounter pain, despair, depression, frustration, or helplessness, help others, and after a long time, your own problems will be solved. Some people say that I have nothing and can't help others. I don't want to help people.

However, when you truly dissolve yourself into the common life, you will find that you are a valuable person. No matter how good you are, there is always someone better than you. No matter how painful you are, there will always be someone who suffers more than you, and there is always someone who is worse off than you.

As far as you can see, you can always help some people. In the beginning, you can make a plan for yourself to do a few good things every day. Slowly, it became a habit to help others.

Over time, you will find that you have become sunny and energetic, and you have seen through the things you couldn't see through before, and you have figured out the things you couldn't think of, and the things that made you desperate have become nothing more than that.

Friend, maybe you're having a hard time. But as long as you give yourself and integrate yourself into the sea. You will discover the meaning and value of life, and you will also get real happiness.

I wish you happiness.

Some people have low self-esteem in their relationships and work because their parents were strict in the past, some people lack self because their parents are too controlling, they dare not make their own decisions in life, and they lack self, and some people lack a sense of security in love because of their parents' feelings for a third party.

It seems that everyone can attribute the current life and emotional unhappiness to the original family, and there is also a group on the Internet called "Parents are woes." ”

So should the original family carry this pot?

For example, the common avoidant attachment personality in love, in which people have low self-esteem and desire and resist love.

Avoidant attachment is mostly due to cognitive distortion caused by the family of origin and past love experiences, and cognitive distortion leads to the inability to face up to self and others, so their attitudes towards themselves and others are not correct or objective.

Obviously there is love in this world, they can't feel it, they can't feel it when there is positive energy in this world, obviously you are very good, you are okay in all aspects, sometimes you feel like you are a trash.

The mirror of parents is very important. But the mirror of many people's parents is often not very flat, and the unevenness on its surface cannot reflect your true appearance, but this uneven mirror is twenty or thirty years, and in these twenty or thirty years, you feel that you are ugly, useless, and you hate yourself very much.

This good-for-nothing you is the real you in the objective world, so you also think that no one will like you like this, so you have low self-esteem, you only trust yourself, you reject all kindness, and at that time, even if there are some smooth mirrors around you, you will no longer believe that you are the real you in the objective world.

You can't accept that for you, facing the real you, is a pain.

The impact can be good and bad, why do we always have to pull on the side we don't like to prove "unlucky"?

Speaking of which, I'm also here to rub the heat, the ice princess Gu Ailing also grew up in a single-parent family, do you think she hates her family because of this? Has anyone given up on themselves because of this? It's not like you have grown into a sunny, cheerful, and shining person.

Those who preach that it is all the fault of the family of origin just don't want to admit that part of their misfortune is due to themselves. Many people just fall under the poison of a so-called "family of origin".

Some people always like to keep everything in their hearts, no matter how bitter, tired, and painful; Never argue, don't argue, don't make trouble, even if it's about to collapse, you can still pretend to be okay.

In fact, it's not that I don't want to be willful, but I know that there are no people who tolerate me; So I had to put away the impulse in my heart, and then bear it silently alone.

Sometimes, I really feel that I will die alone, without loved ones, no good friends, and no one I care about.

Sometimes, I really feel that I am quite sentimental, and when I walk around, I always feel that some of the backs are so familiar, and then I remember a lot of things.

Sometimes, I really feel that I am different from ordinary people, there are so many happy things, but I always can't get along with sad things.

Why aren't you happy? Is life confused, but the result is always helpless?

In fact, the method of happiness is really simple: do what you want first, don't seek results, it's good to do well, it's good to do badly, anyway, do your best.

Some people, some things, the past is the past, and there is no going back, don't keep dwelling on it; The most stupid thing is to take today's time to carry the regrets of the past.

No matter who you are with, whether you are familiar or unfamiliar, you must learn to smile and say: Hello; Because no one in this world owes you, don't always put on a stinky face, everyone has their own temper; Don't think you're anything great, and don't think that others should be polite to you.

Learn to see it, how can there be so many things that can't be passed, the so-called can't get by, but they don't want to pass.

Learn to see clearly, some experiences are inevitable, otherwise how to live the rest of your life and how to welcome happiness.

Learn to see it, some people miss it and miss it, anyway, life is destined to be parted from life and death at the beginning.

In fact, a short life, a hurried passerby, why let yourself live so tired? Look at the point, what is yours is always yours, not yours, and you can't force it; Blindly competing with yourself will only make you lose more.

For the sake of the family, you need to keep working hard, you need to keep tossing, how to make the family live a better life. And all this you do must go out to struggle, you have to work hard outside, but this kind of hard work once or twice is understandable, after more family members can't understand, but you have less company, what's the use of having more money? When you don't have money, you will constantly question what kind of profit a man can make if he stays at home all day......

In the work, you work hard, conscientious, diligent, hard-working. But all the efforts you make can't match the relationship between a person who can speak well and handle the relationship with the leader, and it can't be worth a colleague who may have carried two pounds of snacks and went to the leader's house every three or five times to sit down. You lament that fate is unfair, and fate will tell you that this is society, learn a little.

But you still can't change your heart, you still believe in the existence of that righteousness, wait quietly, you have been waiting for ......

In order to get along with your friends better, you put yourself in your shoes, stick a knife in your friend's ribs, and do your best. When a friend needs money, you don't even go out and lend money to your friend. But when you're in a dilemma, when you need a friend's sponsorship, even if your friend pays back the money you lent.

But if you open your mouth, you are unkind, you are treacherous, you are open-minded when you see money, and you don't remember your friends. But you can't figure out what a friend is after all......

Because you want so much, learn to give up what you can't reach! Seize the moment and be the most realistic!

The answer I give will disappoint you. For that, I apologize to you in advance.

I don't know if you've noticed it, but you've asked a very philosophical and in-depth question. Questions about happiness.

I'm sure you've been feeling down and you're wondering how you can be happy. The answer I'm giving you is that you're not as happy as you used to be, or you don't know how to be happy, and that's just because you've grown up. The sad truth is that few adults in this world are very happy.

Trust me, it's not you who has the problem.

You've grown up and aren't happy anymore. It also means that you are old, but not mature enough.

I can tell from what you say that you are a very thoughtful person.

The problems of your life are solved, but I feel that you are not satisfied with your current life.

If you want to be happy again, you must ask yourself, what do you really want? What is your purpose in life?

You're in a state of confusion right now. Believe me, too many people live unhappily like this.

I don't know about you. However, I feel that you are very powerful and strong, not as vulnerable as you say you are. You care a lot about your parents, and you're a good person. You've also got a job, you've overcome life's problems, haven't you?

You're not happy now, and you won't be unhappy all the time.

The only advice I can give you is that you have to think about what you want. Only when people know themselves clearly can they be happy.

You may feel sad to live now, yes, that's true, but there will really be happy things in the future.

All grief is temporary.

My advice may not be useful, but I bless you from the bottom of my heart. Find your happiness.