The custom of giving gifts for dowry, how to give the dowry money

The dowry money is given to the law: If you are rich, just go back directly. If you are in a stronghold, you just need to do it. It depends on the rules of each place.

The commonality between the bride price and the dowry: both are gifts in nature, and the donee is the woman. The bride price is a gift from the man to the woman, and the dowry is the property given to the woman by the woman's parents. The ultimate owner of both is the woman, and both are obtained in the form of gifts.

Common dowry situation: the woman's family conditions are good. The bride price will be returned to the past, or a little more to the past, back 100,000 or 120,000 yuan, as the newlyweds' future living funds. will also buy furniture for her daughter and send it to the man's house.

If the conditions on the woman's side are not good, in this case, she can also not go back, and leave all the bride price, part of it to her parents, repay the kindness of the child, and use the rest as a dowry. If you don't return the gift, the woman can return some gifts as a return gift.

is that the conditions of both men and women are similar, in this case, the parents will leave the money to the younger couple, and it will be the same whether they go back or not, just go through the process.

Dowry item 1: pillow quilt

Two pillows and two quilts, "quilt" means a lifetime, that is, I wish my daughter's marriage a lifetime of happiness. The pillow can choose the dragon and phoenix pillow, which also has a good meaning, implying that the married life is harmonious and beautiful, and the children and grandchildren are full.

Dowry item 2: household appliances

Traditional large household appliances include washing machines, televisions, refrigerators, and the bride's family conditions are relatively good, and air conditioners and computers may be added. In some places, the man's family buys a house, and the woman's family pays for the decoration; There are also cases where the man's family buys a house and the woman's family buys a car.

Dowry item 3: jewelry

Jewelry is also a very important part of the dowry. For some families who attach more importance to inheritance, some jewelry is heirloom items, such as rings, bracelets, etc., when the daughter gets married, the mother will give these jewelry to the daughter as a dowry, and then pass it on to her daughter when the daughter becomes a mother in the future, which is the inheritance dowry.

In addition, many parents will also deliberately buy jewelry for their daughters that their daughters like, no matter what these jewelry are**, but they are very meaningful and valuable.

Dowry item four: dowry box

On the wedding day, the bride's brother personally delivered the dowry to the man's home, so that the man knows that the woman's family values the daughter. The dowry box will also store the money in the box.

Dowry item five: daily necessities

Such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, shampoo, shower gel, towels, pajamas, shoes, and so on. Prepare double portions of these supplies.

Dowry item 6: According to local customs

Different local customs are also different, so the things to prepare are also a little different, for example, some places will require the preparation of happy eggs, what does it mean? It is that each happy egg is pasted with the word "happy", which is auspicious. The implication of the happy egg is to give birth to a noble son early, hoping that the newlyweds can have a baby as soon as possible after marriage.

Of course, there is also the "descendant bucket", and the descendant bucket includes a lot of things, which used to include a large bucket, a scale, and a small foot basin. Now the descendants of the bucket is more exquisite, can be placed as a handicraft, the bucket will generally put some peanuts, red dates, longan, etc., meaning that the children and grandchildren are full, satisfactory.

A really good dowry item generally has two characteristics: first, as time slowly gets old, the dowry will be worth the best, which can fight inflation and maintain its value.

Second, when the daughter encounters a crisis moment of distress, the dowry should be able to be realized immediately and become the last guard to protect the daughter's life.

The first thing that comes to everyone's mind is jewelry, in fact, ordinary jewelry does not retain value, and even many jewelry cannot be realized at all. Readers can calculate the two major indicators of various types of jewelry and gold and silver bricks: the retention rate of same-day sales** and the average annual appreciation rate in the last 20 years.

Then compare it with the average appreciation rate of national housing prices in the last 20 years. After you have calculated all kinds of gold, silver and jewelry, you will find that there may be only a few categories, and these two indicators can meet the standard. Living a life, eating and drinking are not poor, and it is not calculated that you will be poor for a lifetime.

As the old saying goes, parents love their children, and they must plan far-reaching.

There are many places where there are interesting dowry customs, including:

1.Yak dowry. In the Tibetan region of Qinghai, the bride would raise her yak as a dowry, which was seen as a symbol of the bride's wealth and worth. Even if the yak is no longer suitable for farm work, it will be regarded as a precious blessing by the groom's family.

2.Hoe dowry. In some parts of Shandong, brides will use their usual hoes as a dowry to show their hard work. The groom's family took over the hoe to symbolize the acceptance of the bride and trust in her ability to work.

3.Rice dowry. In Sichuan and some parts of southern China, the bride will give dozens of catties of rice as a dowry. As a necessity of life, rice symbolizes that the bride will be diligent and thrifty, and take care of the groom's family's diet and daily life.

4.Kitchen utensils to dowry. In Jiangsu and Zhejiang, brides will bring their commonly used kitchen utensils such as stone grinders and casseroles as dowries. These kitchenware symbolize the bride's cooking skills and mastery of housework.

5.Socks to dowry. In Taiyuan, Shanxi, there is a custom of brides marrying 30 pairs of hand-knitted wool socks. Socks symbolize the bride's diligence and sophistication and her ability to take care of the whole family's daily life.

6.Paper-cut dowry. In some places in the south of the Yangtze River such as Gusu, the bride will use the paper-cutting she is good at as a dowry. This kind of paper-cutting is regarded as a symbol of the bride's cultivation and the inheritance of traditional culture.

The customs of dowry in various parts of China are rich and colorful, and most of them are related to local living customs and livelihoods. They reflect people's expectations of the bride's role and identity, as well as good wishes for married life. These customs have gradually disappeared in today's society, but the cultural connotations they reflect are still valuable.

If you are also interested in interesting folklore from other places, you can discuss it with me. I still know a lot about folk culture, and I'm happy to share it with you.

Legal analysis: dowry is not necessarily given, this is actually the custom of various places, and there is no clear provision in the law, if the parties request the return of the bride price paid in accordance with the custom, if it is ascertained that the following circumstances apply, the people's court shall support it: 1. The parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities; 2. The two parties have gone through the marriage registration formalities but do not live together; 3. The payment is made before marriage and causes the payor to have difficulties in life.

The application of the provisions of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.

Legal basis: Article 1087 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China In the event of divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by mutual agreement; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman, and the innocent party. The rights and interests enjoyed by husbands or wives in the contracting and management of family land shall be protected in accordance with law.

Article 1089 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China In the event of divorce, the joint debts of the husband and wife shall be repaid jointly. Where the joint property is insufficient to be paid off or the property is owned by each other, the two parties shall settle it by agreement; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment.