An unmarried woman falls in love with a married man, what should I do if I change it!?

You are not a child anymore, the criterion for choosing not to choose him should not be just based on your current feelings and instinctive impulses, not just because of the psychological feeling of "I love him", you have to open your eyes to see the reality, every choice you make now is related to the reality you will face in the future, and you must be responsible for yourself after every action. Based on what you've narrated, the results behind each choice should be conceivable. Before making a decision, you should think about whether you can afford the consequences afterwards.

What you're going to face next:

1. If you continue to work hard to be with him: as the stepmother of the two children in his family, she must endure her wife's endless entanglement (this will never stop, because the two children are born to others, and this cannot be changed); The cold violence in his family against you joining, the awkward relationship with his in-laws (or being desperately obstructed); Because of the pressure of being with a married man, the pressure of his family and circle of friends, as well as his parents at home, he also has to bear the pressure of relatives and friends......

And when you are facing so much pain and trouble, what will happen to the one you love now? When I was entangled with my wife in pain, you were the best outside, it was all you and me, he got rid of the shackles of marriage, and he turned away and ignored you, far less than before, and now it is like this, and the days will go by for a long time, and the feelings will become weaker and weaker, and you will live in the future, whether you can stand it.

2. Of course, another option is also in front of you: give up on him, and all the troubles that come with it, endure the pain of falling out of love for a period of time, and then start a new life with other people you like.

In fact, if you ask a question, it means that you probably already have an answer in your heart, and you are also afraid of paying wrongly. But you are confined to your previous feelings and dedication, and you feel that you can't bear to withdraw from this relationship. But those are just sunk costs, and if you invest in them, you can only sink deeper and deeper.

If this continues, the good memories of you and him before will disappear, and after a few years, only regrets remain, his love is gone, your youth is gone, and you and your family are suffering greatly. Why did you get to that point? Don't be enslaved by momentary emotions and instincts, be decisive, and let yourself and your family go.

Girl, 25 years old, the best years, take advantage of the consciousness and youth, let it pass, promise whether it is true or not, there is nothing to be nostalgic about, not to mention that the chance of being true is not great. You deserve to be loved with all your heart and soul by someone who doesn't give you any burden, who takes you home openly, you deserve a lot of love from him and his family, and you will have your own children and live happily, not like this. What this person can give you now, whether it is inside or outside, a true lover can also give it to you in the future, and it will be even better.

It's really not necessary for you to do this, people still have to be kind to themselves. Although love is great, people must be realistic. He has his family, and you are always just a latecomer, and the biological mother of the two children is always his ex-wife, which will never change for a lifetime, and will not break off contact.

You also have to think about a lot of questions, why did he divorce his ex-wife, when they got married, love must have been vigorous, you have to think about what convincing reasons he can give you to promise now.

Love is to be brave, since you love him, you have to believe in everything about him, in such a family, you have to pay a lot to love him, you have to influence him a little bit, let him let go of the past, let him think that only you are the best.

Put this rotten belly inside, if you are unmarried and she is unmarried, then I support you to chase her, but if you are unmarried and she is married, then give up, even if she is not good, don't be a third party before the divorce, the ancients said "Rather demolish ten temples than destroy a marriage", you can bless her, don't destroy other people's marriages, there are a lot of good girls outside, don't give up a forest because of a tree.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Think about it from a different perspective. If you are the husband of that married woman, you can do to them the way you want them to treat your wife.

Don't contact him again. Think about your family and stay away from your husband if you want your children to be happy. And married women, men generally have the psychology of playing, and it is always women who suffer. I hope you're smarter and more sensible.

It's okay to be a couple, just like a normal couple.

You have changed. Take it to treatment. Society is messed up by women like you.

Think about it, friend, how old are you?