Is life really something you can be responsible for?

Personality may change, but mindset can't change, and your questions are too vague.

Even now, if you give your own answer to what kind of person you are, life doesn't mean anything about what you do.

It is only when you encounter something that your own decisions show everything and your sense of responsibility to others and to yourself.

Because people don't admit their selfishness and arrogance.

It's only when something specific is manifested that you become more or less aware, and of course, maybe someone else will see it more clearly.

There is nothing wrong with the fact that people can control their own destiny, but you understand it wrongly, just like the Buddha said, "Everyone can become a Buddha." The principle is the same: if a person wants to succeed, he must first understand his strengths and weaknesses, and develop them, and then try to change (improve) them and make them useful to himself.

To put it simply: if you want to be the person you want to be, you have to constantly improve yourself, keep improving and growing. It's never something that can be done in an instant, it takes a lot of faith, a lot of hard work, a lot of perseverance, and ......Through unremitting efforts, we will complete our own transformation psychologically, spiritually, and materially, and ......

You must fight for yourself in this matter, and your attitude must be serious and serious, with practical actions, so that they can see your determination and ability.

Financially independentFirst of all, it is necessary to prove to parents that you can support yourself, work hard to earn money, and live without spending your parents' money is the most direct way. In the first month of work, I began to pay living expenses to my family, and at that time, my monthly salary was 3,500, and I paid 1,000 to my family.

Living independently: Moving out and living alone is one way, if you don't move out, you have to do your share of the housework by yourself, and at the same time help your parents share the housework. After I went to work, I moved out to live on my own in order to be close to the company, and I learned to cook, do laundry, and take care of my own housework.

Participate in deciding family matters: Every family has its own important events, so take the initiative to participate in expressing your own opinions and exercise your decision-making ability. Like making a well-thought-out family travel plan, it is to show your parents that you are thoughtful and meticulousIn short, if you want to make your own decisions, you have to let your parents see that you are an assertive person, have a clear plan for your future, have the ability to support yourself, and be responsible for Burning Sakura's own actions, so that you don't have to worry about everything in the future.

Chapter 3 First Meeting with a Counselor.

I see: You are the only one responsible for the consultation.

I think: 01, the only person who is responsible for arguing his own life can only be himself.

Whatever you are suffering, it is through yourself. The most important habit in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" is to be proactive.

What do you mean? Quite simply, you have a choice about whatever happens to you, or rather, you should be an active participant, not a passive recipient.

Since you have to take responsibility for yourself, you should be responsible for the outcome of everything, not acting impulsively, not obeying others, and not being forced by the environment.

02. The other side of self-responsibility is self-confidence.

What is self-confidence? People all over the world don't believe in you, but you are still willing to actively foresee the results, actively strive to take every step of the way, and believe that everything depends on you.

That's self-confidence.

Self-confidence is the most important quality of success, because of self-confidence, you dare to set high goals to grow old; Because of self-confidence, you dare to create resources on your own; Because of self-confidence, you don't fear, you don't retreat, you don't get entangled, you just do it.