Why do I feel disgusted when I spend a lot of time with someone?

This is the so-called no longevity, many people are like this, the main purpose is that the emotional foundation is not solid, the beginning depends on liking at this time you can accept, after the freshness has passed, what you need is feelings, because there is no emotion or the feelings are not deep, so there will be a sense of disgust.

You will feel this way when you get along for a long time. But when you get married, you must be responsible. There is also the slow transformation of love into family affection. I have been with my parents, brothers and sisters for decades, and I haven't been annoyed!

At this time, you should think about where you are wrong, people should be more tolerant, I used to be like this, but think about it, it's not a big deal, maybe you think he doesn't like you in some ways, in fact, everyone has their own way of living, you can't let people live according to your wishes, right? Look a little away.

First of all, are you gay or everyone?

If you have a boyfriend: When you get along, you should consider whether he is the person you are looking for, whether his personality or other aspects are suitable? That's the legendary hardware.

Although there is a love at first sight and a lifetime of sharing, there are very few examples of this kind of thing, especially in today's society! Once the freshness period is over, after the shortcomings of the other party emerge, if the hardware is not strong enough, it can only crash. To live, you must be patient, tolerant, and loving!

It's the same as everyone else: hehe--- then you should see a psychiatrist!

Likes the new and hates the old, and psychological defects will lead to this.

This is because after being good to a person for too long, you will feel that your efforts are greater than the return, and you will be very tired in your heart, and you will feel that the other party does not know how to be grateful, so you will have a sense of disgust.

Because if you are very good to a person for a long time, it will make the other person feel that it is right, and if it goes on for a long time, you will feel very disgusted, and even feel very disgusted.

Because this person has not responded to you, and because you have been giving unilaterally, you will have a sense of disgust after a long time at this time.

If you are not good to a person for a while, the other party will be uncomfortable, and it is your good that becomes a matter of course.

Because of disturbing people for a long time, there will be a sense of boredom, which is aesthetic fatigue, and the visual and auditory senses are relieved to be tired. After a while, the memory of the person faded, and the novelty appeared again, so it became better again.

Summary. Hello, glad to answer for you! So you always hate someone after a while.

This is also because there were some psychological shadows when I was young. So it's not a big psychological problem, if this phenomenon occurs again, you can think about what is good about this person, or what are the strengths, you like it more, so that your dislike for him will be reduced a lot.

You're sleepy, and we're glad to answer for you! This is because there is a person in your subconscious who you particularly hate in the spine. So it's always a while when someone does something, or you argue with them in opposition to their ideas.

The two had a conflict. Your subconscious mind will think that he is the type you hate. So you have a disgust for him from the bottom of your heart.

Hello, glad to answer for you! So you always hate someone after a while. This is also due to the fact that when the material excitement was small, there were some psychological shadows in the production of Qi socks.

So it's not a big psychological problem, if this phenomenon occurs again, you can think about what is good about this person, or what are the strengths, you like it more, so that your disgust with him will be reduced a lot.

After two people have been in a state, to contact each other, will definitely get tired, so this requires two people in the marriage to constantly change themselves, so that they become better, but also for each other to make appropriate changes and compromises, in order to make each other's love more long-term said that marriage is a siege, for couples who are not married, they are very yearning for marriage deep down, but once they get married, often two people lack freshness in the process of getting along, Or they know each other too well and can't tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, and they will start to get tired of marriage, so there is a seven-year itch, which means that after seven years of marriage, many problems will be exposed, and for me, the statement that I began to feel tired after marriage does not exist, although my lover and I have been married for 13 years, but until now I still have no boredom with marriage. The reason why I have been married for 13 years and have never begun to get bored with marriage is mainly because I and my love chain adults can respect each other, understand each other and tolerate each other in the daily process of getting along. And it will not affect the relationship between the two of us because of these contradictions and problems. Although after getting married, the days between two people are relatively boring, and we often have to face these trivial things of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and when two people have children, the burden of the family will become heavier and heavier, but these have not affected my lover's attitude towards marriage, the two of us can share the burden in marriage, and when we encounter problems, we can also do effective communication and exchanges, and eliminate problems in the bud in a timely manner. This is also an important factor to ensure that I always have a sense of satisfaction with this marriage and will not get bored with it.

Psychoanalysis: Hello! I am fortunate to see your problem, and I hope my sharing can give some help.

From your brief description, I probably understand that you do not want to continue to interact with your friends after confirming their close friendship, and you have a strong sense of disgust for the other person, and you want to try your best to distance yourself from the other person, but you have realized that your behavior is inappropriate, and you still hope that the intimate friendship that has been established can continue, and you can continue to be close friends with the other party.

In my opinion, there may be several reasons behind this behavior pattern of yours:

1. You may have too much idealization of your friends at the beginning, which will inadvertently make you frustrated and discreet when you see a more real person in your interactions with each other. Some of the other person's behaviors and styles may not be what you imagined. At this time, your heart will be very conflicted and torn, because the other party in reality is in contrast with the other person who is idealized by you, you don't know which other person is what you need, and when you are not sure of the answer, you will choose to alienate the other person to avoid inner conflict.

2. How a person treats others, in fact, he treats himself the same first. A person's non-acceptance, avoidance, and alienation of others reflect his inner non-acceptance, disapproval, and avoidance, and it is his inability to face his true self, and he transfers this emotional projection of himself to the people around him.

3. It may be that you lack good social skills and show yourself too much in your interactions with friends, and the depth of the content that the other party gives back to you and what you show to the other party is not equal to Lu Qipai, and you hope that the other party can show himself as you show yourself in front of him. However, such a demand clearly lacks a sense of boundaries and has the implication of depriving others of their free will. A person cannot ask anyone but himself to do what he wants.

This is the minimum level of respect that people have to deal with each other.

4. High school is a stage when a person's thinking and cognitive development are relatively fast. Friends are united by similar interests and hobbies, value identity, but people are an individual who is constantly changing, especially in high school, they are most susceptible to the influence of various new ideological atmospheres.

5. Many students in high school will withdraw all their attention to studying, and learning has become the main task in high school. This will inevitably make many people alienate their friends and neglect the management and maintenance of friendships.

So, what can you do to change this situation through your own efforts?

1. Learn some effective interpersonal relationship maintenance and social skills to improve your social skills.

2. Accept your true self and dare to face your true self.