Are interpersonal relationships much more complicated in China than in foreign countries?

MediumThe society is not individualistic, if you are too egoistic, your life will be bumpy。Because we are the ones who need help, we can never keep up with the pace of promotion. China prefers to turn trivial matters into class struggle.

One of the most important things about China is that I think it complicates interpersonal relationshipsWe used to study Confucianism one-sidedly, and Kong Laoer's things were very good, and they put themThe relationship between people in China has become complicatedIn the past, science and technology were very developed, and then the relationship between people was studied, and after people studied the relationship between man and nature, the development of scientific and technological civilization has been great, and in turn we have become complicated.

This requires us to grasp the true starting point of human relationships:

1) Acknowledging and accepting individual differences

2) Learn the first lesson of life - self-positioning

3) Deal with "my relationship with myself".

Chinese rely on relationships all their lives: Interpersonal ≠ human relationships.

Chinese like to integrate ethics and morality into interpersonal relationshipsThis is what we often call relationships. The main difference between human relations and interpersonal relationships is that the former values "reasonable inequality" rather than the equality advocated by the latter. The relationship between people is based on family relations, advocating the long-term and orderly nature of ethics and morality, and pushing family relations from the Qi family to the rule of the state.

This unequal relationship must be properly regulated, reasonable and unfair, and it is very important to establish reasonable unfairness and make up for the shortcomings of the law.

There is no concept of responsibility in the whole world, only the Chinese have。You see that children study for responsibility, although reading is very hard, but for the whole family, in order not to lose the face of their ancestors, no matter how hard they work, they have to read. A person who can fight, a person who wants to carry forward the family, is because he knows that he has a responsibility to the whole family.

A person will do a good job, not for money, for welfare, or anything else, but for the sake of doing his duty.

One of the reasons is that foreigners grow up on a different trajectory from Chinese people, for example, foreign children play all the time in elementary and middle school, and deal with friends every day, and they know more about interpersonal relationships than domestic children.

The importance of Chinese children growing up under busy study pressure, the circle of friends is narrow, and the thinking of dealing with interpersonal relationships is not as good as that of foreignersAnother reason is that foreigners have a different understanding of the definition of friends, they are not so guarded, even if they have only met once at the party, they are also friends, even if they have not met, as long as they are friends of friends, they also accept it, and their resistance to stress is better, even if they break up with friends, they can face it optimistically, and then make new friends, in contrast, The definition of friends of the Chinese team is more rigorous, do not make friends casually, and naturally interpersonal relationships are not so complicated, but in recent years, as the Chinese people's minds have become more and more open, interpersonal relationships have become more and more complicated.

Aspects of the complexity of Chinese relations:1. The impossibility of short-term **;

3. The spontaneous emergence of new natures;

3. Multiple histories can occur from the same initial state.

Relationship analysis. Interpersonal relationship is the direct psychological relationship or psychological distance between people in the process of activity. Interpersonal relationships reflect the psychological state of an individual or group seeking to meet their social needs.

Therefore, the change and development of interpersonal relationships depends on the degree to which the needs of both societies are met. People are not isolated in society, and their existence is the result of the action of various relationships, and it is through the interaction with others that people develop themselves and realize their own values.

Communication between people should be based on mutual respect, mutual integrity, and mutual assistance, and this social mode is the most comfortable.

In fact, this is an ideal situation, and why? Because there is a gap between people, or a little ashamed, to be realistic, Mao Yuchun said that there is a hierarchical difference between people, but people are unwilling to say it, this is the unspoken rule of communication between people.

There is an exchange of interests between people, and if they have deep and extensive connections with each other, there is a huge demand for mutual interests. Then it is easy for them to reach a tacit understanding, and they will tacitly convey benefits to each other, and it is carried out within the framework of legal compliance.

On the contrary, if one party is in a strong position and the other party has to turn to the other party, you can imagine that the stronger side will definitely find ways to covet the price that the weak person has to pay in exchange for the benefits he needs.

For example, in a large enterprise, a supervisor of the personnel promotion and personnel change department has a crush on a beautiful female subordinate.

So what about this, the relationship can write a romance **, and the scale of mutual mastery, is it carried out half-pushed and half-pushed? is still pure in the state of shame, compromise, and helplessness, all of which are possible scenes.

Whether you choose to be noble or despicable, whether you choose to attain enlightenment alone, the chicken and dog to ascend, or to fall into the mortal world and obscurity, it is all a thought.

Chinese society is actually a humane society, and of course we hope that the rule of law in our country will gradually become standardized, and there is still a long way to go. If you don't follow some unspoken rules, you can't do a lot of things.

1. Favors: In China's social exchange relations, people are unwilling to become debtors of favors, that is to say, owing others "favors" is a heavier psychological burden than owing others money. Because money is easy to calculate and easy to repay, personal debts are difficult to calculate and repay.

Therefore, "don't owe favors to people" is almost the most important social motto or lesson in China.

2. Face: Face is an important concept in the concept of Chinese. Chinese are very sensitive to face, and in the self-system, most of them are seen by others, and a relatively small part is seen by themselves. Chinese set their goal in life as "to be seen by others".

Chinese value face, Min Cong plays an important role in adjusting people's behavior based on the needs of society, and Chinese often use "face" and "face" to explain and regulate social behavior. However, the Chinese concept of "face" also makes many people only pay attention to decorating their external image and set their life goal as living for "more face".

3. Relationship: In China, people are divided into three categories: strangers, acquaintances and friends according to the degree of familiarity with each other, that is, the degree of mutual relationship. The Chinese are a people who attach great importance to relationships, and on the one hand, the Chinese take advantage of their own concerns, and on the other hand, they can tolerate others taking advantage of all kinds of relationships, as long as others do not directly harm their own interests when using relationships.

China is the development of traditional farming society, when the industrial civilization of Europe and the United States, this side is still farming, traditional farming needs labor, needs a huge family to support, in addition to productivity, there are Chinese has always been collectivist, the minority obeys the majority, then the family with a large population has an advantage. It is not easy to be bullied when there are many people.

Your so-called Chinese attention, except for direct blood relatives, is based on the exchange of interests, this model originated from farming, passed down, to blame for the lack of social democracy, weak human rights, such as Chinese can rely on connections to become mayors. In European and American democratic societies, everyone can vote, and there are few people who are willing to vote for you. Because it's not a democratic society, human rights are like mustard, do you dare to ask why he can be mayor and not someone else?

The more unjust the society, the more it can take advantage of human feelings. The more poor the people's livelihood and welfare, people will be busy eating and giving gifts for their livelihood, and they will not be able to leave work on time to take care of their families.

I look at Europe before the 20th century, when they attached great importance to kinship, for example, many people would stay in his father's house all the time, and his parents were still alive at this time. There are many cases where a relative acts as a child's supervisor. Or the property of the uncle and uncle is returned to them to inherit.

So it's your ignorance that Europeans don't pay attention to dormitory relationships. On the other hand, in China, I used to feel that when I was separated, I would be like a neighbor. Relatives only move around when they have something, but they can't play for long.

Many men and women in their forties are single. And even if the two remain boyfriend and girlfriend, it is normal to live together until they grow old without getting married! The work is much better than the domestic environment!

The main thing is to rely on strength and toughness! Unlike in China, there are very pairs of those who do not see the light. Secondly, the social welfare is very good, if the elderly in the country are sick, it is a very sad scene to have no children by their side.

In foreign countries, medical insurance and other social systems are relatively better! Therefore, for foreigners who have a plan, they may not be as important as domestic in terms of family affection! Maybe the communication between business partners and colleagues will be more than the reunion of relatives!

However, in Germany, I often see a simple old German couple, holding hands and walking neatly! The marriage relationship is much more stable than in China! That's good!

Have you ever been abroad, have you ever seen a foreigner? You should learn a foreign language first, ask them in a foreign language, or go abroad to have a look.

China is ruled by man! Foreign countries are the rule of law!

1. In terms of salutation etiquette In Chinese and Western countries, men can traditionally be called Mr., women are called Miss, and married women are called Mrs. then amuse the mountain.

Second, in terms of meeting etiquette, with the increasing globalization of the world's cultural references, international exchanges have increased, and handshakes have gradually become popular among countries, and China and the West often shake hands with each other, and the general rule is that women take the initiative to shake hands with men, and many people cannot shake hands when they meet, and they do not shake hands with each other with dirty hands. 3. Greeting etiquette In Western countries, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, and other words are almost universal, and there will be greetings such as how are you doing recently after a period of time, all of which are used to show Sun Zhong's concern and respect. It can be seen that politeness and respect are the common denominator of interpersonal relations at home and abroad.