Han Shimei, who writes poems on the ridge, is ready to divorce, how much courage does a middle aged

1. The crisis of middle-aged marriage is also beyond the help of the family world, and the reality that divorce is difficult to achieve is also the inexplicable helplessness of love and life, divorce or divorce is also love to return love.

It is very easy for young people to divorce, especially in the family world without children, and two people who are not willing to continue to live their lives can decide to divorce to fulfill their respective love.

Middle-aged people divorce is also very simple, all kinds of matchmaking conditions are just right, and two people can get divorced the fastest if they reach an agreement, but they often have a sense of direction in the world of difficulties.

Some women are reluctant to give up their children, some men can't give up their property, and each fights for their own interests, and the family is a divorced world full of jealousy.

Second, divorce does not matter which age group will divorce, but what kind of family characters and how to divorce, there are many loves that end perfectly in divorce, and there are also many abandoned love objects that have the best of both worlds.

When you meet a lover who has a good life, you will divorce, which is the love that goes its own way has lost its attractiveness, and it can be good to get together and disperse when you divorce, but it is the stalker who has become the most incredible divorce character on the road to marriage.

The difficulty of divorce lies in the fact that it is not possible to settle on one divorce condition, especially the reality of divorce on the road to middle age, with children waiting to be explained on the left and families delaying the marriage relationship on the right.

It is a blessing that divorce can be happy.

Third, the marriage of middle-aged people has achieved a consensual life, accustomed to the twilight of love, sudden divorce has long been a premeditated betrayal, just waiting for divorce is also a way to treat each other.

The love of middle-aged people has been successful and selfish, and the love changes that later failed on the road to marriage are also reasonable life and life, marriage is the right lover, and divorce can also be the right family.

The world of middle-aged people is already dazzling, in addition to work and life, this is the most difficult combination of love and reality, and it is also a sense of direction for marriage to choose another.

The abandoned marriage has an unforgivable emotional cognition, and the life of the divorced is all love and judgment of each other's distance.

It takes a lot of courage for middle-aged women to divorce because they have to think about their children and also think about the rest of their lives.

A lot of courage, because middle-aged women think more about their families when they divorce, especially their children, so they will not easily file for divorce, and once they do, it takes a lot of courage.

If you feel that you have no feelings, then you can only choose divorce, which is not determined by courage, but really can't go on.

After Han Shimei, who wrote poems on the ridge, became popular on the Internet, she began to prepare for a divorce, and finally went to the court with a lawyer to sue for divorce.

Han Shimei has children and daughters, but she thinks about divorce, some people think she is a blind toss, and some people think that she understands and lives for herself.

If the relationship disappears and it is very unhappy to be together reluctantly, it is a kind of torture for both parties, it is better to get together and break up, and divorce is also a kind of fulfillment.

Fate is gone, and love is a torment<>

Han Shimei is an ordinary peasant woman, because she became popular on the Internet because she wrote poems on the ridge, and after Han Shimei became famous, her husband also began to guard against her like a thief and restrict her personal freedom.

Han Shimei wants to divorce not because she became popular, but because the fate between Han Shimei and her husband has disappeared, so this kind of love is a kind of torment.

Han Shimei has children and daughters, and women of this age usually don't toss around in the countryside, but she feels extremely painful just thinking of an unhappy marriage, so she goes to the court to sue for divorce.

It may also be that she didn't dare to think about it before, but now that she has become popular, her thinking has begun to change, and she has to live for herself for the rest of her life.

Han Shimei is a ridge poet, and in the poet's world, outsiders can never understand that her husband has lived with her for so many years, and she has not understood Han Shimei's mind, which is also a very sad thing.

Han Shimei, like her poetry, will get better and better, and a woman who pursues happiness will definitely be full of flowers in the future.

Divorce has nothing to do with age, the main thing is to ask your heart <>

Han Shimei is 50 years old, she has lived most of her life with her husband, has children, and has experienced a lot of things, as she herself said, divorced, he is pitiful, if he doesn't divorce, I am pitiful.

In this case, Han Shimei still decided to let herself go and planned a divorce, and Han Shimei went to the court to sue.

In the future, wait for the court to announce the verdict, maybe in the eyes of many people, Han Shimei is 50 years old and still sues for divorce, aren't you afraid that her children are unwilling? Aren't you afraid of the villagers pointing fingers? Aren't you afraid that the outside world will say that she abandoned her husband when she became famous?

Han Shimei doesn't care about these things, she feels that she is 50 years old, she has to live for herself, and she can't wronged her heart anymore.

Han Shimei feels that divorce has nothing to do with age, and whether she wants to divorce or not, she mainly asks her heart.

If you can't agree to continue living in your heart, divorce it quickly, the twisted melon is not sweet, there is no need to wronged yourself.

Epilogue <>

Divorce is a private matter between two people, and it has nothing to do with others, as for whether it can be divorced, it depends on how the court decides.

Marriage is a big deal, Han Shimei said that she was very wronged, but why didn't she resist and didn't choose to leave?

I think it is necessary for her to get a divorce. Divorce is not based on age, but on her own thoughts and the environment she is in, her family has brought her a lot of pain and suffering, everyone lives for themselves, there is no need to do something they don't want to do in order to satisfy others.

It is necessary. Personally, I don't think divorce has anything to do with age, and I can't say that there is no need for divorce when you are older.

I think it's necessary that divorce should never be limited by age. If you are not happy, divorce will of course be on the agenda.

It is necessary, because she has lived for so many years and is already very transparent and knows what kind of marriage she wants, so it is necessary to divorce.

It was necessary because she felt uncomfortable and should have a divorce. This is also the result of her thinking for a long time.

Not necessarily. Because no matter how powerful and capable a person is, he needs a companion when he is old, a person will feel lonely and lonely, and how much he wishes to have someone to accompany him when he has difficulties.

It's not about whether it's necessary or not, it's about whether you want to or not. I don't think there is a right answer to this matter in essence, because everyone's tolerance level and understanding of the family situation is different, and it is not possible to generalize. So don't talk nonsense about the decisions made by others, you are not her, why bother with her life.

Divorce has nothing to do with age, if you live happily, you don't need to divorce. If you are unhappy or unhappy, you can choose to divorce, and everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness.

I think that no matter what age you are, as long as you are facing a meaningless marriage, you can choose to divorce, and a loveless marriage will not have any happiness even if you continue to insist, it is better to let go and let each other live better.

Because Han Shimei married her husband because of her parents' arrangement when she was young. Han Shimei didn't have a good impression of him at the first time she met her husband, because Han Shimei had a younger brother who was two years younger and still needed to get married, and the family's economic situation was relatively poor, so she had to go into the family with the other party. Han Shimei's husband is not only an incompetent life partner, but also doesn't understand her, and there is no love between the two, so she wants to divorce.

How did Han Shimei get together with her husband? Han Shimei was born in a family with many children, because there was no funeral expenses after the death of the elders in the family, so her sister was quickly allowed to a family, and her sister not only got married without a dowry, but the bride price money that should have been kept by her was also taken away by her parents. And Han Shimei also has a younger brother who is two years younger than her, and the family has no money for her younger brother to marry, so Han Shimei was introduced to another family with a better economic situation.

The first time they met, Han Shimei had no good impression of each other, and it took two years from engagement to marriage, every time the other party came to her house, Han Shimei avoided it, and her parents considered giving her a divorce, but because of the poor conditions at home, she still sacrificed herself for her parents and younger brother Han Shimei and walked into the wall of arranged marriage.

Why did Han Shimei write poetry? Han Shimei expresses her inner world in the poem. How lonely it is to be with the wall every day, and how hard it is to live with the trees every day.

When she writes poetry, she can be less lonely, more confident, and able to express her true thoughts. Han Shimei doesn't understand poetry, there are even typos in the poems she wrote, and she doesn't want to become famous by writing poems, she just wants to express herself, and tell her parents not to arrange marriages and abide by the laws and regulations on freedom of marriage by writing poems. In the process of writing poems, she also received the support and encouragement of many fans.

Living with someone who doesn't have a common language is more lonely than being alone, and Han Shimei understands herself better and is more determined in her thoughts by writing poems.

Because her life after marriage is far less comfortable than before marriage, and she quarrels with her husband every once in a while, her sense of security after marriage has declined, so she finally chose to divorce because of her disagreement with her husband.

After marriage, she found that her husband was not her hero. The relationship with her husband began to decline, and she did not want to deal with family conflicts. In the end, he chose to divorce and end the pain.

This is because she doesn't feel like she has much status in the family, or even a lot of care, and she doesn't get a lot of love in the family. And she put a lot of effort into the family, but her husband felt that he was doing nothing.

I left, and he was pitiful; I'm not divorced, I'm pathetic. "This year, 50-year-old Han Shimei, dropped out of junior high school, at the age of 22, for a bride price of 3,000 yuan, her mother married her to a man five or six years older than her, and the two had no emotional foundation. In July last year, Han Shimei became famous, but this brought a new crisis, and her husband seemed to sense that she was leaving, and according to Han Shimei, he tried his best to keep track of her whereabouts.

I'm like a prisoner, I can't get by. ”

Because two people can't live anymore, there are many conflicts in life, and it is normal to choose divorce.

Overestimated herself, and the person who praised her didn't know what her mentality was, she was looking at the jokes, she didn't write poetry at all, but she felt that she was a literati and her husband was not worthy.

The reason is that she and her husband are in an arranged marriage and do not have much emotional foundation. After marriage, her husband didn't treat her well, he either went to gamble or hang out after work, he didn't take on his due family responsibilities at all, and he didn't care about Han Shimei.

The main reason for their divorce is that her husband is not very good to her, and she herself said that she was actually sold to her current family, and she would not have been able to write these bitter poems if she had not lived a hard life.

It should be the reason for the emotional incompatibility, because most divorces are the breakdown of the relationship between the husband and wife, and the divorce cannot be recovered.

CauseI feel that I don't have a common language with my husband, and I am always "controlled" and not free, Han Shimei, a 50-year-old poet-writing farmer woman in Nanyang City, Henan Province, sued for divorce. On April 29, Han Shimei told reporters that she had received a summons from the Zhengchuan County People's Court in Xiqiao, and the case will be in the near future. **Lawyer Zhuang Jinlong confirmed the match.

Han Shimei is a native of Xuegang Village, Jiuzhong Town, Xichuan County, Nanyang City. The 50-year-old cooks in a company canteen near the village and loves to write poetry in her spare time. After being posted on the platform, it gained a large number of fans, and went out of the circle because of the contrast between identity and behavior.

According to Ms. Han, her marriage was arranged by her mother, and she was married to a man with "slightly intellectual defects", and she and her husband did not have a common language for a long time, which made her feel very painful. She tried to express her anguish by writing poems, wanting to have spiritual freedom, but she aroused her husband's uneasiness, "always wanting to control" herself. In April 2021, Han Shimei decided to sue for divorce, "The children all support it."

Han Shimei's ** lawyer Zhuang Jinlong once commented, "Han Shimei represents a type of woman in the countryside, her parents arranged marriage, the husband and wife do not have much emotional foundation, and life has experienced a lot of hardships, most people just accept their fate, but she wants to pursue freedom and true love, and chooses to divorce." ”

Han Shimei's husband said that he supported his wife in writing poetry and was unwilling to divorce.

In order to divorce, I am willing to leave the house, and the two children are also very supportive:

Han Shimei said: I left, he is pitiful; I'm not leaving, I'm pathetic. As long as Wu Kuan can get rid of it as soon as possible, she is willing to leave the house and give up a 500-square-meter house, 10 acres of land and 50,000 deposits.

Someone asked, if she is divorced, will she remarry? Her answer is very simple: if you can meet it, you can meet it, and if you don't have it, you can live it alone, how can it be better than now.

Moreover, Han Shimei's two children saw what happened to their mother in their eyes and hurt in their hearts, and they all supported their mother's decision to divorce, and they didn't want their mother to continue to suffer for the rest of her life.

I want to help my mother get rid of it as soon as possible, so that my mother can live again for a while and do what she is interested in.