How do you establish family rules? How should family education establish rules?

1.A warm, encouraging parenting style that avoids the use of psychological control methods to discipline our children.

2.Involve your child in making rules, give your child limited options, and reduce the use of direct commands.

3.Repeat reminder rules.

4.Parents should first set an example of following the rules.

5.Don't judge your child by his or her behavior.

6.Parents and children are the enforcers of the rules, parents should not put on the impression that parents are the makers of the rules, only children need to follow the rules.

7.Punishment is carried out within the rules, such as parents who do not throw clothes in the dirty basket do not wash, which in itself is a warning to the child, do not punish the child further.

8.Formulate rules under the premise of regular daily life to ensure the common long-term enforceability and reliable efficiency of the rules. That is, before making a rule, the first thing parents think is, can I stick to it?

What is the significance of this rule? Is this rule in line with the child's mind at this stage? Is there a dilemma of forcing peace?

9.The rules are clear. For example, you can write down the rules and paste them in the corners of the home, which also plays a repetitive role, such as sticking sticky notes on the position of the dirty clothes basket Bigmouth eats dirty clothes, pasting the home of small animals in the baby's toy storage box, and encouraging the baby to let the toys "go home and rest" after playing.

This ingenious method can be used to guide and repeat the child.

When I first became a father, I didn't realize that I wanted to establish family rules and family mottos, but later in the class of learning the wisdom of the heart, when Mr. Sun Jian talked about the content of family culture, I was deeply touched. The teacher said that family culture can prompt the family to formulate family rules, that is, rules that the family abides by, guiding each family member to have a common goal, a common direction, and a positive move forward to create a happier family.

I realized that it is of great significance to form a family culture and formulate family rules, and to establish family rules is to make the family better. After thinking about it, I will pay more attention to the cultivation of children's moral attitudes in the direction of formulating family rules, which is not only the behavior norm for children, but also the behavior norm for our family.

The establishment of family rules should adhere to the principle of gradual progress, starting from little by little, gradually changing, and finally forming a unified code of conduct.

It is necessary to seek common ground while reserving differences according to the characteristics of each person. You can't do a one-size-fits-all approach.

Seeing this problem, I would like to share the insights I learned in the Wisdom of Heart and Wisdom Parents class: after establishing family rules, parents, as role models for their children, should set an example and not break the rules at will. Rules are not only for children, but also for parents, who should first set an example for their children.

For example, if you want your child to be polite, parents should first control their mouths. At the same time, don't break the rules at will, if you ask your child to do this today, and ask your child to do that tomorrow, or do one thing and do another, the child will be confused, not know what he should do, and his ability to abide by the rules will be reduced.

To establish family rules, you first need to form your own family culture. This is what I realized when I studied with Mr. Sun Jian in Shanxi, in the area of children's education, I am more inclined to the cultivation of children's morality, the cultivation of children's thinking and behavior habits, as well as language expression, that is, the norms of all things. In the long run, the formation of a family culture can prompt the family to develop family rules, that is, rules that the family follows together.

Establish rules.

Everything must be done in a proper and orderly manner, so that there will be order and rules, and there will be no disorder. There are no rules, there are no rules.

Why is the parent-child relationship messy? Why are family relationships strained? Why does the "Hedong Lion's Roar" appear?

If we analyze things from the perspective of family rules, we can find that there are several reasons: or there are no family rules; or the house rules cannot be enforced; or parents are unwilling to set an example; Or the house rules (scale) are wavering.

Although some families do not have written rules, it is believed that every family has some rules that are more or less enforced. Rules have a direct relationship with discipline, and in order to implement good discipline for children, there must first be rules and regulations. When he breaks such rules, he is disciplined.

In the end, what kind of person do we want our children to be trained to be? Every parent has different requirements and expectations for their children. When referring to some books and the gains of some people around me who have experienced in raising children, it is very important to see two aspects, that is, obedience and diligence.

Obedience means blessing. One study has shown that parents need to be able to recognize the need for obedience before the age of six in their children's upbringing. Between the ages of 0 and 6, if the child is willing to listen to his parents and follow his parents' words, this child will also be willing to obey the words of truth and humble himself in the future life.

The second good quality is diligence. "Lazy people are as annoying as feces. "The lazy man envy but gain nothing, and diligence makes up for his clumsiness.

Diligent service, diligent study, and diligent work, these are all things that need to be experienced, and there will be gains in hard work.

If we want our children to benefit from the rules, we need to set the rules and not change them at will, and parents should also practice the rules and set a good example.

Legal Analysis: Every family has some rules for speaking out or not saying it to define the role of each family's model Hu Cha and regulate everyone's words and deeds. For example, "must be punctual" and "everything must be done perfectly", in Satya's family**, refers to the only expectations in the family that important family members have learned, that is, how to deal with people and how to deal with the current situation, usually including some Dan words like "must" and "never".

Legal basis: Article 1068 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Parents have the right and duty to educate and protect their minor children. Where minor children cause harm to others, parents shall bear civil liability in accordance with law.

Legal Analysis: Every family has some rules that define the role of each family member and regulate everyone's words and deeds. For example, "must be punctual" and "everything must be done perfectly", in Satya's family**, refers to some expectations in the family that important family members have learned, that is, how to deal with people and how to deal with the current situation of Bifeng code, which usually contains words like "must" and "never".

Legal basis: Article 1068 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Parents have the right and obligation to educate and protect their minor children. Where minor children cause harm to others, their parents shall bear responsibility for the matter of repentance in accordance with law.

How should family education "establish" rules? Let the child realize the power of the rules. This may seem simple, but it's hard to do.

Due to the pressure of life and work, adult smart tenants are already physically and mentally exhausted. In the face of disobedient and resistant children, most parents can't help but "wait for the rooster", which is tantamount to declaring the failure of this kind of education Due to the natural relationship between parents and children, especially older parents and children, they often unconsciously and unreservedly pay their children to meet their children's needs.

The most important thing in family education is not to turn love into a point of love! Spoiling makes children selfish, irresponsible, selfish, ungrateful, respectful, pious, free, and even lawless! When we grow up, we must rationally observe the child's personality, gradually recognize the boundaries between parents and children, and let the child become as soon as possible.

He has his own goals and vision. A child's goals don't have to be right or wrong. Your perception comes from the environment.

When he feels that something is wrong, he needs to change the environment instead of the child himself.

Emotionally. Let children know that they respect the old and young, love their families, thank their parents for their education, understand that a happy life is not easy to come by, cherish life, and live in harmony with their families. Not only can you preach, but children can also beat their parents behind their backs, praise them anytime and anywhere, so that children can develop and control their emotions appropriately.

For children, a variety of emotional experiences are also very important. Unpleasant emotions need to be vented, on the contrary, children's psychology is easily unbalanced, but they can't vent too much, so this is something that can be learned, and children should learn the methods and abilities of emotional control.

The current homeschooling is very different from previous years. When a child has a problem, many fathers always educate their children with the theory of how I am. But the social structure is changing, the family structure is changing, the way of information is changing, whether it is a unit leader or a company leader, you have to leave the body when you go home, don't take your official spirit home, you don't need authority.

What we want is equal treatment and friendly communication.

Rules cannot be achieved overnight, and some rules can only be implemented after many practices by children, and there are often repetitions in the middle. Therefore, parents need to remind them repeatedly!

It is not difficult for parents to set house rules for their children, but what is difficult is the implementation and the effect of the family rules.

If you want your child to do a good job of the house rules set by their parents and achieve good results, there are mainly the following suggestions.

First, cultivate children's self-control ability from an early age, such as children making unreasonable demands, resolutely opposing them, and not being able to compromise. When a child makes a mistake, there must be punishment, and there must be no turning a blind eye and being sloppy. After a few executions, the child will know what to do in the future.

Second, cultivate children's concept of time, most children have "procrastination", that is, doing things slowly, procrastinating. Not just net profit.

Parents help set a time limit for doing things, and stop immediately if you can't complete it within the specified time, even if it's homework, eating, etc., the teacher will punish you if you can't finish your homework, and you're hungry if you can't finish eating. After a period of implementation, the child's "procrastination" will improve.

Do a good job in the above two basic work, and then set up family rules, so that there are rewards and punishments. The easier it is for the child to execute, the better the effect will be. Otherwise, it's all in vain.

In fact, some norms are developed from the age of three. At the age of three, you can understand the rules, and by the age of seven, you don't have to worry about education. However, it is not too late to enter elementary school, and it is not too late to be about seven years old.

If your child doesn't have rules around the age of three, do it now.

In order for children to establish norms, the first respects must be done by adults.

Help children build a round and bright standard, and adults should not be condescending.

Adults should be patient, children are children, not adults, some things adults say once the child will forget, take your time, don't worry.

What can make children do it themselves, as long as there are no safety hazards, let them do it themselves. Believe in the child and give the child a sense of achievement. Adults don't want to do everything for them. Children are meant to grow up and leave their parents.

The home environment is important. Don't watch TV, mobile phones, train children, and don't talk much; The child's toys should not be too many, so that the child can learn to play one and then another; The learning atmosphere at home should be established, and when children see adults reading, children will naturally develop the habit of reading; Let your child develop the habit of doing household chores.

Parents should set an example to regulate their children's words and deeds.

Education is to establish rules.

Parents need to tell their children what to do and what not to do.

What rules you set can help children develop values. Let children know from an early age what is bad, what is good, and what is better.

The following points should be paid attention to when establishing rules:

1. The rules should be clear and not vague. Especially for children who are very distracting, it is necessary to say that they are very separate.

2. Parents should lead by example and not be inconsistent with their words and deeds. Verbally making all kinds of demands on the child, and you can't do anything, or being strict with the child and lenient with yourself, this rule will definitely not stand.

3. Establish the kind of rules that children can do with a little effort, and don't take adult standards to ask children.

4. These rules must be beneficial to children, not for the sake of face or expectations of adults. Don't put your child in a cage, but draw the corresponding boundaries according to his growth cycle, so that the child can grow happily within the sidelines.

Establishing rules is actually teaching children a way of thinking: the freedom with constraints is the greatest freedom.

As long as parents develop such a cognition for their children, whether in the future, whether in the family, in the school, or in the society, the children will abide by the rules and know the awe.

Family education is to set rules first, but for whom?

When it comes to making rules, I believe most parents immediately think: "You really have to set rules for your children." "Establishing rules" is not "making rules for children", but refers to the rules that the family, parents themselves and children must abide by, which is a family rule. The first thing that abides by the family rules is the parents themselves.

Family rules refer to new family rules that must be inherited and conform to the core values of the new era.

This has two meanings:

First, if parents teach their children one thing and do another, then if you talk a lot of this and that, it may not necessarily become the child's actual action, or the part that he really accepts;

Therefore, there should be a different way of educating children.

The difficulty of rebuilding the broken family style is to transform it into practice.

Move. The most important goal of family education is to educate the child into what kind of person. In ancient times, there were many famous family mottos, such as "Zhuzi's Family Motto" and "Yan's Family Motto", etc., which were family education at that time, requiring family generations to educate children in accordance with their standards and cultivate children into such people.

What these family mottos inherit is the family style of a family, which is very strict, but also full of wisdom, and it is a value that this family follows and recognizes.

The specific practice of modern family style construction:

On the one hand, the modern family style should inherit the excellent traditions of our nation, and the family style of our nation is often expressed through family mottos, family rules, etc.

In addition, it must also conform to the core values of socialism, and at the same time be able to grasp some basic value norms such as "how to treat people, how to treat families, how to treat others, and how to treat society", which can be said to be a habit, including people's behavioral habits, thinking habits and reaction tendencies, the latter is actually values, and a person can be foreseen. For example, when you see someone in need of help, whether you immediately go over to help, or walk away without caring about yourself, this is the reaction tendency, which is a person's values. Habit cultivation and the family rules we just talked about can become a concrete practice for the construction of our new family style.

Returning to the origin of education and forming a joint force for goodness is "poetry and distance".

Life is not only about what is in front of you, but also about poetry and distance" has become a buzzword. In fact, this also means that no matter when and what kind of situation people have, they should maintain a heart of hope for life and the future, and have a pair of eyes to discover beauty.

So, what exactly does schooling do? What has been the most influential thing in your life's development in schooling? To sum up, it is probably four words: upward, good.

All education should return to the origin of education, and not complicate the most basic and crude education. The times, society, family, and school, these can have a greater impact on the development of children and have a greater impact on their future.