Want to know, what is a marriage like?

Marriage refers to the form of marriage in which the husband enters the woman's home. Through this ceremony, the woman achieves the goal of passing on the lineage, and the man also realizes the wish of getting married and having children, and both parties benefit each other and run the family together. The most special feature of this type of marriage is that the man's place of residence changes after marriage, and the surname of the offspring is mostly the woman's.

Under normal circumstances, the family situation of the son-in-law is not good, although the two are harmonious before marriage, but after marriage there are always problems that arise from this, and the problem of parental support and filial piety is one of the examples. Although the man enters the woman's home, he and his own parents are always thicker than water, how can they ignore it, but when the man shows obvious family feelings, he often has conflicts with his wife, the woman thinks that the man is "in Cao Ying's heart in Han", while the man feels that the woman is harsh and ignorant, which then leads to a series of marital crises.

In a traditional marriage, both husband and wife and grandparents have the right to have a say in the upbringing of their children, but when the man becomes an aunt, he generally has less say in the child's education. Perhaps because the child takes the mother's surname, the decisions are mostly based on the opinions of his father-in-law, mother-in-law and wife. In addition, due to the influence of the family environment, children may develop the idea that the mother is inferior to the father.

In terms of the relationship between husband and wife, if the son-in-law is weak, he will be in a weak position in the marital relationship and become what people call "strict wife", which will damage the husband's self-esteem and be detrimental to family harmony. At the other extreme, after the man comes to the door, because of his excessive ability, his respect for his wife, father-in-law and mother-in-law is gradually decreasing, and he gradually has the idea of wanting to be separated from the woman's parents.

Relationships need to be carefully managed, and marriage is the same, and marriage requires both husband and wife to spend their thoughts. As a husband, in addition to loving his wife and children, he should also respect and be filial to both parents and take on the heavy responsibility of being a man; The woman should be considerate of her husband, and in addition to honoring her parents, she should also visit the man's home from time to time, fulfilling her obligations as a daughter-in-law, and at the same time strengthening the relationship between the child and the grandparents. Of course, both parents should also do their best for their children's marriage, and only when the family respects each other and is courteous and courteous can a warm and harmonious family atmosphere be created.

In fact, it means that the woman is the one who marries, and you are the one who marries, and the child born does not follow your surname.

I think it is sad to get married, the man will move into the woman's house with his bag, and the woman's name will be on the real estate deed.

In fact, it is not particularly good, in this case, the status of men is not particularly high, and it will be more aggrieved in marriage.

Legal analysis: 1. Kissing Different from what we often see is that the groom goes to pick up the bride to the wedding site, the man enters the marriage is that the woman arranges the wedding car to pick up the groom at the man's house, or arranges the groom to live at the woman's house the day before the wedding, and sets off from the woman's house on the wedding day, and the groom carries the bride to the wedding site together to hold the marriage ceremony. 2. Ceremony In the marriage ceremony, the marriage ceremony of the man and the groom and the bride is basically the same.

The main thing is that the officiant will ask if the groom is willing to marry the bride, and from now on, take care of her, be her dependent, and love her for the rest of his life. It may be changed to whether the bride is willing to marry the groom, and from then on as the groom's wife, they will stay with each other for the rest of their lives, and so on.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1046:Marriage shall be completely voluntary between a man and a woman, and neither party shall be allowed to coerce the other, nor shall any organization or individual interfere with it.

Article 1047:The age of marriage shall not be earlier than 22 years for men and 20 years old for women.

Article 1048:Marriage is prohibited for lineal blood relatives or collateral blood relatives within three generations.

Article 1049 A man and a woman who wish to marry shall apply for marriage registration in person at the marriage registration authority. Where the provisions of this Law are met, they shall be registered and a marriage certificate shall be issued. The marriage relationship is established after the marriage is registered. Where marriage registration has not been completed, the registration shall be re-registered.

Article 1050:After marriage is registered, the woman may become a member of the man's family, and the man may become a member of the woman's family, in accordance with the agreement between the man and the woman.

Article 1051 Marriage shall be null and void under any of the following circumstances:

a) bigamy; 2) Have a family relationship that prohibits marriage;

3) They have not reached the legal age for marriage.

Generally, there are two kinds of men who will get into the fold.

The first is that the family is poor, has no ability, has a low level of education, is not outstanding in height and appearance, and cannot marry a wife. Although I feel ashamed, I can't help it, so I can only choose to be rich in order to have a wife.

This kind of married life of a wealthy man is usually not very harmonious. The woman dislikes him for not being able to make money, and his parents-in-law may also be sneering. Or the wife and parents-in-law don't actually mean that, but because they are sons-in-law and have a sensitive personality, they always feel that the other party is mocking them in and out, which leads to a bad life.

Men with more cowardly personalities will endure it, and those with stronger personalities will be divorced at least and murderous at worst.

Second, there is no problem with itself, and the conditions at home are not bad. When there is more than one son and everyone else in the family, the family does not expect him to carry on the lineage. In general, they are more born in cities, have good jobs, and have a higher level of education.

I and my family are relatively open-minded about this matter, and I don't feel ashamed of being involved. There are those who are outstanding in physiognomy and those who are not.

This kind of married life of a wealthy man is generally more happy and harmonious. They will definitely not look for girlfriends who do not agree with each other, most of the girlfriends are also highly educated, but they may be the only daughter in the family, so the parents-in-law ask for money. But because he has the ability, can make money, and is open-minded, he won't think badly even if he mixes a few words, so he won't feel much wronged.

Two children born after the opening of the second child usually take the father's surname and the other mother's surname.

If the man has a bad temper, he will definitely not survive in the woman's house;

The woman is stronger than the man, and the weaker the man is, he prefers to listen to the woman;

The woman's family is warm and friendly and does not like to care about people, the man is first of all under the fence, and the psychological pressure is very great, if the woman's family loves to care about people, the man will definitely not want to be in such an environment;

Either the woman is very rich, and the man is very powerful.

Entering the family refers to a man going to the woman's house to get married and become a member of the woman's family, commonly known as "inverted door". Marriage refers to the situation that after a man and a woman get married, the man goes to the jujube to congratulate the woman's family to marry and settle down, and this kind of marriage is mostly a situation where the woman has no brother or brother, and sends a son-in-law to the door in order to pass on the lineage.

When a man goes to a woman's family to get married, he must follow the surname of the woman's family, also known as "the boy is incapable of changing his surname and changing his name". After the founding of the People's Republic of China, it vigorously advocated equality between men and women, monogamy, and the traditional sense of "inverted door" was also greatly weakened!

Marriage refers to a form of marriage in which the woman's family has no son, and in order to continue the incense, the daughter Fuhu is married to the son of the man's family, and the man's son must leave his family and become the heir of the woman's family. The man loses his original family identity and rights and interests such as land and property in the marriage, and becomes an ordinary member of the woman's family, while the woman can also receive the dowry, security and respect while ensuring the continuation of the family.

Historically, marriage was once a relatively common form of marriage in rural Chinese society, but with the changes of the times and the progress of literacy, marriage is no longer common. In modern society, few people choose to enter into marriage, because many people believe that this form of marriage carries the risk of losing freedom and rights, and is prone to inequality and conflict.

Nowadays, many young people do not know much about what it means to be rich. Today, I will take you to learn more about it, what is a burden? Why is it easy to get divorced by inverting the door?

Regardless of whether you are facing a situation of wealth or not, it is useful to understand these little things about life. 1. What does it mean to be rich 1. The so-called money refers to the fact that after the bride and groom get married, the groom settles down in the woman's house and becomes a member of the woman's big family, which is what we often call the son-in-law. According to the past marriage customs, after the man enters the woman's house, he must change his surname to the woman's.

However, judging from the marriage around us now, there is basically no change in the surname, just a change in the place of permanent residence. 2. In fact, it is also called recruiting sons-in-law, and if you want to talk about the origin, it can be traced back to a long time ago. For example, in Feng Menglong's book "Xingshi Hengyan" in the Ming Dynasty, there is a sentence "Yuying's daughter has such a beautiful talent, and she is reluctant to marry him the day after tomorrow; Isn't it good to visit a talented Xiushi to come to his house and wait for his wife to sing and make peace?

It can be seen that the custom of marriage has been around for a long time, and it is actually a common form of marriage. 2. Why is it easy to divorce when the door is reversed 1. Traditional thinking The meaning of the door is the same as that of the man's home.

However, in most marital relationships in our country, it is the man who marries the woman into the door, and the woman lives in the man's house. Under the influence of this traditional idea of male superiority and inferiority of women, a hidden danger may be buried in a marriage that is reversed, which is likely to lead to divorce. 2. Child rearing For inverted marriages, there is a detail that is easy to contradict in child rearing, that is, the surname of the child.

According to the tradition that the woman marries into the man's family, and the children's surnames also follow the man's tradition, in an inverted marriage, the children's surnames should also follow the woman. But if the man disagrees on this point, it is very easy for conflicts to break out. 3. Property disputes The breakdown of many marriages is inseparable from property disputes, for inverted marriages, whether to give the bride price, how much is appropriate, and who will decide the economic ownership of the family in the future, etc., are the fuses that are easy to cause contradictions.

If the economic strength of the family is very unequal between the two parties, it is more likely to induce conflict. Conclusion: This article shares with you some of the particularities related to marriage, if you are facing the choice of whether to enter the marriage, maybe this strategy can give you a little reference.

Interpretation of Sun Sleepy Calendar: It is also called the return of three generations to the ancestors, and it is the marriage style of the ethnic minority areas in southwest China. The man joins the woman, and after negotiation, the man takes the woman's surname, the child follows the mother's surname, and the third generation changes back to his own surname.

2. "Three generations of ancestors" is not the same as "eating out of households" and "breaking incense", the grandchildren are not all changed surnames, but equally divided or at least left one for the woman, if there is only one son, it needs to be both, and both parties need to negotiate and agree. The return of three generations is an old custom, legal and compliant, and the parties can apply to the local public security bureau for the return of the three generations to change their surnames according to the relevant regulations.

For this social phenomenon, it can be from three aspects: emotional, moral, and legal.

1. Emotionally, "three generations of return" can be understood.

First, a person's right to a name should include the freedom to choose a surname, and a person may take any surname she or he likes, if he or she wishes. This is the personal freedom of the ruler, and others have no right to interfere.

Secondly, the role of family ties represented by surname inheritance is essentially a backward clanist idea. The idea of "tracing the origin" and "recognizing the ancestors and returning to the ancestors" has a long history and is a behavioral habit engraved in the genes.

2. Morally, the "return of three generations to the ancestors" is very bad.

In ancient times, there was no faith and no righteousness, and in modern times, it was a lack of the spirit of contract. The traditional "return of three generations" after joining the family is unscientific and a prejudice that discriminates against women.

3. Legally, there is nothing wrong with "returning the ancestors of three generations".

Citizens are generally given their names with their father's or mother's surname, but they can also take other surnames. It is reasonable for children to follow their father's and mother's surnames. The same is protected by law.

Summary: Three generations have returned to the ancestry, which can be understood, but not supported.

Usually marriage is the woman marries into the southern family, and the marriage is different, contrary to normal marriage, it is the man who enters the woman's family and settles down to live with the woman's family, this kind of marriage is mostly the woman's family has no brothers in order to inherit the family and recruit a son-in-law, the traditional marriage ceremony is relatively simple, and advocates not extravagance and waste.

You need to go to the woman's house to live

Usually marriage is the woman to the man to live, but into the rich on the contrary, high digging into the rich after the marriage of the man to live in the woman's house, and just the original wedding form is the opposite, the bride when the destination is still the woman's home, or the day before the wedding to the woman to live, the next day to marry the bride, and then carry the bride to the hotel to hold a ceremony, the two in front of the hotel to greet the guests, and then are the same as the process of marrying the bride, but after the wedding, the man needs to follow the woman back to live at home, And support the woman's parents, and then take care of the family's diet and daily life at home, after that, if the woman gives birth to a child, the child also follows the woman's surname, and there is basically no difference in the rest.

Be mentally prepared to treat it right

The man should also be well prepared for entering the girl's house. Boys should learn not to care about other people's opinions, live their own lives, and live in harmony with the woman's family. Treat your parents-in-law as if you were your own parents, and be filial to your parents-in-law wholeheartedly, although they are not their children, but if you have a relationship with their daughters, as long as you do your duty, your parents-in-law will accept you, and you must pay attention to your relationship with your wife.

Do something to discuss together and express your opinions reasonably.

The process of induction

When the man wants to get married, there will be some processes to prepare, such as first the parents need to meet for dinner, and then discuss the marriage of the two, after the marriage is negotiated, the woman must start to prepare some bride price, and then choose a good day to hold the engagement ceremony. The second is that after the engagement ceremony, you should start to prepare for the wedding ceremony of the newlyweds, including the wedding car, wedding banquet and wedding ceremony. The day before the wedding, the woman must first quietly go to the man's house to live, and then the boy will live in the woman's house, and the boy who picks up the bride the next day can go directly to his home to pick up the bride.

In this case, the money for the banquet of the general wedding is paid by the woman, and the traditional marriage of the daughter Qi Yunheer is directly changed to marrying the son.