What does your heart really want?

What I really want in my heart is to have a stable job, and to have a stable salary, so that I can have a stable life, which should be what I want, so I want a more stable job, so that I can be more down-to-earth and have a sense of security.

What I really want in my heart is a career, and after I graduate, if I can find a job that is very satisfying to me, then I will be satisfied, because strength is very important in this society, and you have to make enough money to get what you want.

I think what I really want in my heart is that I will be rewarded for my efforts, because I think that this will not be a waste of water, I feel that I still pay for it, I feel that you are a very motivated person, and at the same time what I really want is this.

What I really want in my heart is actually very simple, to have a particularly stable career, to have a stable family, to love my husband and a healthy child, this is what I want in life, I think this kind of life is the most perfect, and having such a life is the happiest.

I want a stable career and a happy family, this is what my heart desires the most, but sometimes some things are not satisfactory, although I don't have either now, but I have been working hard to complete what I want most in my heart, I believe that I will soon be able to have.

In fact, what I really want is the kind of positive and hard-working life, I hope that after I graduate, I can find a slightly more decent job, and then I will work hard every day, work hard to achieve my dreams, to live a happy life, and then travel with my girlfriends.

Countless money, and a lover who is determined to be on his own, no matter what dangers you encounter, what difficulties you encounter, he can bear with you, go through the ups and downs of life together, and when you are lost, you can give you a shoulder to rely on.

Be able to do things that interest you and then don't need to be stressed later in life. Simple work, having someone who supports me, tolerates me, and accompanies me all the time, I think these can make me satisfied, and I don't need any overly prosperous life.

Everyone's wants to be different, maybe I'm more envious of freedom, I want to live a free life, and I don't want to have so many worries, I can do what I am interested in or like every day, this is what I want.

As for how to find purpose in life, I want to use the simplest, most direct, and effective way to solve a common problem of those motivational articles and success stories, which is that they always encourage us to do what we want to do, but never tell us how to find what we want to do.

The same kind of relationship where everyone's needs are different.

For example, in a marriage relationship, some people feel that a person is too lonely and needs someone to accompany them; Some people feel that one person's life is stressful and that another person needs to work together to build a better life.

Parent-child relationship, some people think that having a child can be complete; Some people have children for the sake of succession; Some people think that normal people should have children, he is to satisfy the inner sense of order.

Classmate relationship, some people only know how to bury their heads in study, and don't want to establish a relationship with any classmates; Someone needs help from their classmates to improve their academic performance; Someone wants to be recognized by their classmates.

Everyone who allows to build relationships with others as early as possible is to satisfy their own inner needs.

In the above passage ** in "Raising Your Inner Child", I asked myself, what is my need?

First of all, I feel that living alone is too lonely, I need someone to accompany me, having children is a process that a person must go through, I am an ordinary person, and I don't want to do deviant things in my bones.

Singer Li Jian has always been a contestant I admire, but he got married, but he chose not to raise children, I can't agree with it, it feels incredible.

There are also some cattle people around, such as the principal who chops wood, more than 30 people, who still don't think about getting married, and they are bent on their careers, which is also unpredictable.

Isn't it possible to have a family to better experience the taste of the world?

I chose to get married, but also because of my limited ability, I have a lot of pressure in my life and I need to build a better life with others.

Thanks to my husband, we met, knew and loved each other in the vast sea of people, and now we have given birth to a daughter and son, the only regret is that I will strive to be an excellent woman in the second half of my life, and take care of myself and my family.

Many little girls crave a very innocent relationship, and believe that a person will not marry unless he is married, thinking that it is called love, and it is called marriage for love.

Ideals are always beautiful, but they are a little less realistic and objective. First of all, there is no such thing as the perfect lover you want to meet. Whether you want someone who understands you, loves you, or spoils you, and is only willing to marry for love, this person will not be born for you, nor will he be born to exist.

If one day, you meet a man who understands you very well and loves you very much, you should not feel lucky, but should think about it. Why does he know you so well for a few days? Because he doesn't just understand you, he understands all women and their needs.

Such a person is not a soul mate, but someone whose EQ, IQ, and experience are above you. Will he enter into marriage for an ignorant little girl who is not compatible with him in every way? Of course not.

Understand that a person is not born, and a man's maturity is not something that can be practiced in a day. First of all, he is a person who knows how to appreciate you, and then wants to understand you, and as he understands you deeply. Seeing your shining points and seeing your shortcomings, but still willing to love you and love you, such a man can be called reliable.

But what are the prerequisites? What kind of lover do you want, what kind of relationship do you want, you must first become that kind of person, and you must have the ability to love yourself and love others. Otherwise, why does he love you?

The so-called right family not only refers to the material, but also refers to the spiritual equality.

If you are lacking in all aspects, but you want a perfect lover, it can only be called taking, and of course you will not get true love. If you don't know how to tell yourself to pay and pay for each other, how can you match the perfect lover you want?

Therefore, when choosing the other half, we must see the facts and the essence clearly, and do not have illusory and inappropriate expectations, so as not to make ourselves more hurt and disappointed in the future. Love may be the embodiment of innocence and idealization, but it is by no means the same as marriage. And we can't just love and not get married.

Love and marriage are two completely different concepts, and if you want them to blend perfectly, it is very important for you to choose a partner, and more importantly, your ability to recognize and manage your feelings and marriage.

No matter how beautiful love is, once you step into marriage, it will be a mess. If you don't know how to cherish and maintain your feelings, no matter how deep your feelings are, they will become more and more flat. Whether it is love or marriage, the first thing to manage is himself.

If a person does not know how to deal with himself, how can he get along with others and the world? And how can we know how to make love and marriage last?

Many times I already have the answer but I don't know it, find someone, relatives and friends casually, let the other party talk and laugh with yourself casually, and when you forget the troubles in your heart, you unexpectedly ask what you really want? The answer that is answered within three to five seconds is the idea given by your subconscious.

Avoid making one-sided decisions on the basis of one-sided facts.

To keep making better decisions, both to keep your head cool and to keep your heart warm.

I use my mind and ask myself a practical question.

And, I ask my heart and ask myself a personal question.

I use my mind and ask myself a practical question.

Am I meeting my real needs, telling myself all the options available to me, and thinking things through?

Yes No. Is this decision what I want, or is it what I need? What information do I need? Have I created new options? If I do something, what happens next? And then what?

I inquired into my heart and asked myself a personal question:

Am I being honest with myself in making this decision, am I trusting my instincts, and do I deserve better?

Yes No. Am I being honest with myself? Do I think that's the right thing to do? What would I do if I had nothing to fear?

If the answer is "yes", I'll go with that decision.

If the answer is "no", I have to reconsider.

What's my better decision?

See what you least want to lose.

What exactly do you want, then you can only ask yourself in this situation. You must learn to position yourself, set a goal for yourself, and what goal you want to achieve. This is what I want.

What do you want? By heart, there should be no fixed uniform standard. Everyone's knowledge level is different, resulting in different visions and different patterns. What you want is not the same.

Desire is the most desired desire in people's hearts. Some people hope that they have a successful career, and some people hope that they have a happy family, warm love, lovely children, and enjoy the joy of family. Therefore, people have different realms and different desires, and everyone's needs are different.

However, there is one truth that is the same, that is, the simpler and easier it is to satisfy, the happier it is.