The quietest person at the dinner table, how do you think of the quiet person at the dinner?

People who are quiet and quiet at dinner, they have a very calm personality in life, and they can tolerate others very well.

When we eat together, there are always some silent people around, not because they pretend to be deep, but sometimes they are thinking about problems. My colleague is such a person, whenever he eats, he always rarely speaks, and he is like this in life. And when talking at the wine table, they are all polite and give people a very comfortable feeling.

This colleague is a man of action by nature and likes to prove himself with practical actions, rather than so-called rhetoric.

Of course, laughing at the wine table is also a form of entertainment, and it is harmless. It's just that people who are quiet and quiet prefer another way, and they usually behave like this when they participate in drinking parties. At first, I was very uncomfortable, but over time, I got used to it.

I still know my colleague very well, although he is quiet and quiet, but whenever he speaks, he can always win the house, which is their charm.

Their life credo is to say too much and lose it, and saying less can help save them a lot of trouble. This is true even at dinner, in life, such people don't care about the process, just the result. To give a very simple example, suppose someone is hospitalized, if we analyze it from a normal point of view, we will definitely say hello when we call **, but quiet and silent people usually go straight to the point and ask the address of the hospital directly.

These are two different ways of manifesting themselves, while also highlighting the characters' personalities.

Obviously, people who are quiet and rarely talk, they will not be polite and greetings, and will directly point out the cause of the problem. There are even times when leaders feel very faceless, but this kind of truth-telling person is also deeply liked by leaders. Especially at work, people who are quiet and quiet will never be sloppy.

And some polite words at the wine table are just for politeness, otherwise they won't say it, these are their characters.

If, during a meal, a quiet person suddenly talks more, then at this time, it must be about business. Otherwise, they will still remain in their original state, of course, everyone's living habits are different, so their performance at the dinner will be different. Whether it's quiet and quiet, or "showing the dew", everyone has their own way of life.

It's just that people who rarely talk give people a sense of being unapproachable, and they are not easy to be seen through.

Of course, this is closely related to their own personalities, these people are reticent in their daily lives and do not like to express their opinions directly, but if they are really needed, then they will stand up. However, at dinner, they will be more introverted, know how to respect each other, and also understand the sense of distance, which is the charm of quiet and few words. They will be very down-to-earth, belong to the down-to-earth type, see through without saying anything, and always save face for each other.

I thought I would never be able to settle for silence, because I am a cheerful person, and it seems to me that quiet people are too tired. But now I am content with silence, no longer share my joys and sorrows, everything is hidden in my heart, maybe I have become mature and understand the hidden meaning, because happiness should be low-key, and no one will bear sadness for you, so it is better to be content with silence, but also to avoid impetuousness and emptiness, I am considered to have compromised for myself, to be a quiet beautiful woman.

Ineffective socializing, idle dinners, try to go as little as possible, if you bloom in the breeze, you are a plane tree surrounded by golden phoenixes, you are shit around a group of flies, what kind of dinner determines what level of consumer groups, quiet words are not necessarily no strength, often people who talk a lot are bragged B groups, people who talk less will not be annoying, but they are not appreciated and reused, people who talk a lot will lose their words, so today's society learns to be a low-key person and do things in a high-profile manner, Low-key words are few, people know how to appreciate themselves, know how to protect and defend, and low-key is even more awesome performance.

It's not pretending to be cold, it's not putting on a show, it's not not eating the fireworks in the world, it's not being independent of the world, it's not that everyone is drunk and I'm sober, or I feel bored. I'm introverted and slow and likes to quiet myself, I can't talk about it if I'm not familiar with it, I usually have few intersections, and I don't want to get together at a cold party, I don't have a common topic, and I don't want to talk awkwardly, I just want to make myself comfortable. So before eating, if you don't know people very well, you generally eat free fruit snacks, think about whether you can have the opportunity to order food later, what you want to eat, and take advantage of the time to eat** I bought everything I usually don't have time to buy.

When the meal comes, eat seriously, occasionally take care of the people around you, and drink when someone comes to persuade you to drink, yes, don't refuse, don't take the initiative, don't tell jokes, don't talk. The small atmosphere around me is naturally quiet.

There are three types of such people. One kind of person is introverted, not good at expression, and takes pleasure in the pleasure of others; The other kind of person is disdainful of talking nonsense with ordinary people, and his face says that everyone is drunk and I am sober; There is also a kind of person who doesn't listen to what's going on outside the window, and only cares about the Chinese food on the plate, while turning the big tray on the table, and thinking in his heart: "This canteen doesn't have enough food!" ”

Every time I had to talk to a meal, I only ate the food in front of me. Therefore, eating is eating, talking is talking, and our family has always taught food not to sleep without saying anything. I'm all about speed, one is clean and hygienic, and the other is respect for others.

It's really unbearable for people to talk to me with something in their mouths, and it's disgusting.

Quiet and quiet at the dinner is about the following points, 1The rank of the entourage or escort, 2Introverted and not good at words, 3

The knowledge is relatively narrow, and I dare not talk nonsense, 4Not familiar with the people who are at the same dinner, 5Lack of self-confidence, 6

The attribute of the meal is associated with it, and the small master enjoys the food.

Isn't that talking about me! Because there is no common topic and no material to talk about, sometimes when I find that there is a topic to talk about, I can't learn to speak so excitedly and emotionally, so I have to eat silently, occasionally stop to nod and smile at the person who speaks. In general, they just can't speak.

I don't talk much at the dinner because I don't have the strength, and the one who doesn't talk much across from me is low-key, he said that this year's business is not good, or add more than 500,000 Mercedes-Benz, for us children, 500,000 Mercedes-Benz is very good, see and laugh, big guys.

Since you have gone, you have to speak, otherwise you will not go at all. Of course, I accidentally went there, but I found that there were many people who were not enough to speak, so I didn't say anything about it, and I left decisively.

There must be one of them who he admires, and his focus is not to brag about eating, or else he doesn't look at you squarely.

Look at what dinner, if it is a classmate bureau, it may be a personal personality reason.

If the workplace bureau is not in a position enough, it is not appropriate to say too much.

There are two kinds of people, those who are really powerful, and those who have no strength at all!

Saying that I am a breakthrough, chatting and talking, and listening to others if I can't talk, is upbringing!

Words are not speculative, more than half a sentence, do not want to go and can't not go away except for silence or silence.

No matter where you are, you must talk less and do more, and if you talk too much, you will lose, especially in the wine field.

Don't go at all, some of them collude with a good pyramid scheme bureau to find out the news.

There's nothing to say, it's better to make up for it than to spend time chatting.

Either they are very powerful, or they are not strong.

Basically, they are all supporting roles or people with no level.

Those who are silent at the dinner, they may actually be just shy, they don't want to show their particularly good at talking in the drama, or the topic at the dinner, he has no participation, he thinks that some of the topics you are talking about may be something he is relatively unfamiliar with, she doesn't know how to cut into the topic, how to arouse your interest, since you don't know, it's better not to speak.

The other may also be that the things at the dinner are too delicious, and he thinks that he is not used to eat at this time, but that he is too wasteful to speak, or that you may not match your age, in order to create a scene for you to make the negotiation of those peers at the dinner table very pleasant, he may eat silently on the side, and then ask you what to prepare what paper towels, hand paper towels, pour soy sauce vinegar and pour boiling water, these young people will generally do this.

The person who is silent at the dinner may also be in a bad mood himself, in fact, there is nothing, but the best is indeed at the table, it is best not to have a person who is particularly quiet, everyone will feel as if there is a bit of air here is not right, always worried that they are offended, what will happen to this person, there will always be some suspicions, and the heart will not be very comfortable, he always hopes that everyone will say what they want to say, so that it is more cute, and it is more harmonious compared to this dinner.

Of course, it is not excluded that this meal is too delicious, so if that person just wants to bury his head quickly and eat all the delicious things first, it seems understandable, after all, it is not easy to meet a delicious meal at the dinner, and often many dishes ordered at the dinner are really not very delicious, which is also understandable, while desperately eating everything he wants to eat while brewing a topic may also be that person's idea.

The quietest people in the crowd are often ruthless. It is said that Du Yuesheng also has a similar mantra, that is: the quietest person in a group of people is often the most powerful.

To explain in the words of Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching", that is, faith is not beautiful, and beautiful words are not believed. The good do not argue, and the debater is not good. Those who know are not knowledgeable, and those who are knowledgeable do not know.

People who are really capable are often very modest and low-key, like a dragon in the abyss. On the contrary, those small fish and shrimp like to float on the water, bouncing, chirping, and arguing.

is just like what is written in the strange book "Caigen Tan": look at people with cold eyes, listen to words with cold ears, feel cold, and think coldly. The really powerful characters should be like Mr. Lu Xun - horizontal eyebrows and cold fingers at thousands of people, bowing their heads and being willing to be a son of a cow; Like Zhuangzi, he is extremely cold on the outside, but his mind is extremely calm and his heart is very hot.

Mr. Li Zongwu put forward a very novel point of view in the book "Thick Black Studies" - psychology changes according to the laws of mechanics, and this sentence can also explain the doctrine of human nature - there is no difference between good and bad in human nature, just as water does not flow to the east and the west. Human nature is like the rapid flow of water, which flows east when it breaks through the gap in the east and flows west when it breaks through the gap in the west.

Therefore, it is not difficult for us to understand why many people like to go with the flow, because they are also forced and swayed by the general environment.

For example, when a person is alone, his mind is clear and he is able to control his thoughts and will. But when he was with the crowd, he unconsciously hid his thoughts and will, and became completely devoid of himself.

Thick Black Studies" also gives examples: Often those who are usually gentle and humble, as soon as they enter the masses, suddenly become arrogant and unreasonable. There are also people who are usually cowardly and despicable, and as soon as they enter the masses, they suddenly become people who are zealous and righteous and sacrifice their lives.

Why are these phenomena occurring? It is because those people's willpower is weak, easy to change with the external environment, and easy to succumb to external forces; They are carried forward by the power of the people, and like the actions of the people, they take the consciousness of the people as their consciousness and the feelings of the people as their feelings, and they completely lose their ability to be autonomous.

Human nature is easy to change with changes in the external environment: when you are in the circle of evil people, surrounded by fox friends and dog friends, you will also become bad; When you are placed in the circle of good people, surrounded by good mentors and friends, you will also become better. As the saying goes, "those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black", which is also the normal feeling of human beings and the law of human nature!

According to this reasoning, if we are in a crowd, we should also be gregarious and consistent with everyone's words and deeds.

However, those powerful people, they don't, they want to use silence is gold, to do silent confrontation with the surrounding environment; They don't need to express themselves because they are capable and confident; Because they have their own opinions and thoughts, they will not easily change themselves and follow the crowd. Therefore, the quietest people in the crowd are often "powerful people".

For often the people with great wisdom are quiet people, who are full of wealth and strategy, but they are quiet.

Because the really powerful people don't bother to publicize their talents, they sit quietly in time and will not be ignored, they are silently showing their abilities and secretly surprising others.

Because such people are often very calm, and the really powerful people are very low-key.

There is also a kind of quietness in which people are soft-spoken. So choose quiet.

Details determine many aspects, it can be said that when eating, if you pay attention to all aspects of the details, then it can be said that the person's character or habits are relatively good, for example, we are used to using chopsticks when eating. Even when eating, I like to get used to washing my hands before eating. Even after eating, they will take the initiative to wash the dishes, which are more active and even polite behaviors.