Why does jealousy hurt people?

Jealousy is a negative emotional experience that causes resistance due to others being better than oneself. When you see that others are better than you, your heart is sour, and you will have a complex emotion that contains hatred and envy, anger and resentment, suspicion and disappointment, humiliation and vanity, and sadness and grief, and this emotion is jealousy. The jealous person cannot tolerate others surpassing him, and is afraid that others will get fame, status, etc., which he cannot obtain, and in his opinion, others should not do what he cannot do, and what he cannot get, others should not get.

The degree of jealousy varies from shallow to deep, and the shallower degree of jealousy is often hidden deep in people's subconscious and is not easy to detect. For example, if you are good friends with a classmate, his academic performance and ability are strong, and he does not want to attack his good friend, but he always feels a little sour in his heart. And a deeper degree of jealousy will be consciously or unconsciously manifested, such as picking on classmates who are more capable than themselves, spreading rumors, and framing them.

Jealousy not only affects physical and mental health, but also affects study and work. Strong jealousy directly affects people's emotions, and bad emotions can greatly reduce the efficiency of study or work. In addition, jealousy can prevent us from making close friends.

Jealous people tend to be competitive in everything, often trying to stop the development of others, and always want to overpower others. This may make classmates and friends want to avoid you and not associate with you. As a result, you will create a bad interpersonal atmosphere for yourself, and you will feel lonely and lonely.

How to overcome? 1.Cultivate an open-minded attitude towards life, be open-minded, and understand that "there is a sky outside the sky, and there are people outside the world", and "the strong have their own strong hands", which is an objective law.

2.Divert your attention and give yourself a reason not to be jealous.

When we have so much to do, we don't have time to be jealous of others. Therefore, actively participate in all kinds of beneficial activities, study hard, work diligently, and make yourself truly fulfilled, then the poison of jealousy will not breed and spread. In order to alleviate the psychological imbalance caused by your failure, you can find some reasons to stop being jealous of others.

3.See your strengths and turn jealousy into motivation.

When a person is jealous of others, he always pays attention to the good in others, but he cannot pay attention to what he is better than others. In fact, everyone is inferior to others, and when others surpass us in some aspects, we can consciously think about what we are better than the other party, so that our unbalanced psychological balance will be restored to a balanced state.

In short, it's not terrible to be jealous of others, the key is to see if you can face up to jealousy. You might as well use the strong superconsciousness of jealousy to work hard, sublimate this jealousy, turn jealousy into the motivation for success, turn negativity into positive, and surpass others!

Jealousy makes people lose their reason, and if you lose your reason, you are prone to impulsiveness, and impulsiveness is the devil, and it will make you do things that you regret.

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Because jealousy is the devil, and jealousy can cause people to do anything they can't even think of, so it's terrifying! Do not stay away.

Jealousy psychology is a normal emotion of human beings, it has two aspects, positive and negative, the positive aspect is to promote people's self-motivation and competitive consciousness, and the negative aspect is to hinder people's progress and social development, the generation and development of jealousy psychology and human physiological and psychological factors are closely related, mainly in the following aspects: 1. The generation and development of jealousy psychology is a long-term process Jealousy is a common psychological phenomenon of human beings, which has both positive and negative aspects, Jealousy is a normal emotional reaction of human beings, a normal reaction of people to their own ability, quality, talent, status, love and other superiority, a positive psychological experience of a person to himself, and a virtue of human beings. However, when jealousy is too strong, it can not only affect interpersonal relationships.

In fact, the most fundamental reason for jealousy is that there is a certain psychological problem, and the landlord may not like to listen to such words, but in fact it is.

Many people have serious selfishness and jealousy in their hearts, of course, it does not mean that he is not good, but it means that he will have certain weaknesses and shortcomings in the short term, and only by slowly overcoming this jealousy can he slowly move towards progress.

The most fundamental source of jealousy comes from the original family environment, the original family environment does not bring him a certain amount of positive energy, and the daily calculations will make the child accumulate certain adverse psychological factors:

It may make the child's outlook on life have certain problems, so the original environment is the fundamental factor that determines jealousy.

And the "competitive factor" in the later stage is also an objective reason for jealousy, in other words, people who are very competitive will have a kind of jealousy, he is eager to show his best self in front of others, and he is also eager to show his best self in other competitions:

But the truth is that no one can do a good job in every aspect, so jealousy should slowly evolve into a positive motivation. Otherwise, jealousy will only hinder a person's growth and development.

In fact, there are two main ways to overcome jealousy, the first is from the subjective factor You must let yourself have more positive motivation, put more of your energy and talent into your life and work, treat your relatives and friends well, and better face the way of life to treat anything around you:

Especially when they achieve certain results, you must know how to cheer and applaud them! Slowly, you will find that you are less jealous of others, but more able to encourage others.

The second factor is the objective factor, which can be adjusted and sorted out by a psychologist, or by your good friend. Going out for dinner, chatting with friends, and traveling more may change your jealous mindset.

Finally, I wish the landlord can be happy every day, everything goes well, and the whole family is healthy!