How to deal with a person with a straight brain and a straight mouth in the workplace?

Indeed, there are many people in the workplace who speak very straight, and they will take advantage of this situation to distort their self-esteem as smart and uncaring, relying on "I speak very straight" into an excuse to avoid thinking about themselves and not thinking about others.

This way of speaking straight hurts the hearts of many people who don't know it, and speaking straight in this situation may not be annoying, but at least it makes people want to distance themselves. So we can do this for this kind of straight-talking person.

First, if you are talking loudly, straightforwardly, and can make jokes, or the other party can stand the joke, you can reply like this, you speak straight, it just so happens, I will shoot hard. See who takes advantage of whom.

The second is not to communicate with him with the following attitudes and tones. Because if it is clear that two people are in an equal relationship, but you speak in a relatively low-status tone, it is easy to arouse the other party's arrogance and make him speak more straightly, so you must also suppress the other party in momentum, at least not weakly.

The third is to use metaphors as much as possible, and use questions and guide the other person to give answers, and change the way he speaks straight.

We are all human beings, of course, there will be subconscious criticism **, even if it is assumed that today the other party wants to know where their shortcomings are, and want to know from your mouth, and you also know the other party's shortcomings, the best way is not to directly point out the other party's shortcomings, but try to let him look at himself in an empathetic and third-person way.

The first is trope and story, when you shift the focus of the protagonist to another character. The other is to use the question to guide the way, using the "What do you think..."You will....Let him put himself into the situation and empathize with what others think of him. So through the guiding expression, change the shortcomings of his straight speech.

It depends on whether he speaks with a brain.

If you often say the wrong thing on the wrong occasion, then this kind of person can be as long as he doesn't have a deep relationship, and he doesn't have to worry if he offends you.

But if every wrong word is only reflected in you, it will be different, indicating that he is the kind of person who watches the menu, and those who are weaker than you should be severely reprimanded, and those who are stronger than you must find a reason to find a way to resolve it.

If a person has a very obvious shortcoming but has been in the company for a long time, it means that people have the ability to cover themselves, and it is best not to be suspicious of this when joining the new company, and you will benefit a lot from joining the right partner.

For a straight person, don't worry about him. He is straightforward and fast-talking, but he doesn't have any bad intentions. Such people are actually very good friends.

But a lot of things you don't want others to know are better off telling him. Try as much as possible. Let him do something peripheral.

1. Being too straight and having no friends.

If you are too straight, others are not willing to have a deep friendship with you. Because, they are afraid that you will leak your mouth and bring unnecessary trouble. Or I am afraid that you will directly deny it, and there is no room for mediation.

In this way, how many people are willing to have a deep friendship with honest people in the workplace?

Second, being too true is transparent in the eyes of others.

If a person is transparent in the eyes of others, others will find this person uninteresting and uninteresting.

What is an interesting person? It's that others know some characteristics, and there are many characteristics that others don't know are interesting. Because, people always like to explore the unknown on the basis of the known.

3. Being too straightforward and honest is easy to conflict with others.

People who are too straightforward will be polite when they speak, and it is easy to hurt people, have conflicts with others, and affect their interpersonal communication.

In general, be a person, don't be too straightforward, and you can't be too hypocritical. Just learn to judge the situation.

For example, when HR is thinking about improving the company's internal rules or how to promote the progress of the project, a colleague next to him comes to him and says, "HR work is so easy, there is nothing to do every day."

At this time, no matter how good-tempered HR is, it will explode, the train of thought will be interrupted, and the hard work will not be respected. — This is the first type of honest and straightforward person, who generally fails to put himself in the shoes of others and lacks empathy.

In order for this type of person to survive in the workplace and be able to work closely with others, he or she should first establish a premise principle: "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Careful organization of language is not in conflict with frankness, and you can be blunt about your feelings, but you must be careful not to be aggressive.

In addition, you need to learn to respect other people's work, even if you don't know much about what they do, but to be in awe of the unknown. It is not difficult to do this, starting with respect for the personality of others and expanding to respect for others. We need to learn not only job skills in the workplace, but also how to behave, and the two complement each other.

Everyone in the world has their own hardships. I haven't thought about and experienced it from other people's perspectives, and I open my mouth to judge others, this kind of thing is called frizzy in two words, disrespectful in three words, and self-righteous in four words.

I haven't experienced the workplace, but I've worked with more than a dozen or twenty people in the past few years. The process is: I start to feel that some philistines are worldly and don't give me freedom; After a long time, I found out that in fact, people are also literary and artistic young people, and they also have lofty ambitions, and they have helped me smooth out many things.

Therefore, there is a basic principle of cooperation with others: do not do to others what you would not do to yourself. It's perfectly okay to be blunt about describing your feelings, as long as it's best not to be too aggressive – it's not that hard. As for judging and judging others, you need to be cautious and respectful.

The problem here is that many teenagers will regard prudence and respect as hypocrisy, and rudeness, narrow-mindedness, and short-sightedness as "true disposition", but this kind of self-judgment is usually the most subjective and unreliable, and it is easy to take ignorance as personality and feel that they have special insight. It's actually very simple, just think clearly: is the opinion you want to express objective enough?

Is there unnecessary aggression? Again, when it comes to judging others, it is not a bad thing to be cautious, and there is no conflict with whether or not you are frank.

Let's take another example. Hemingway broke into the world in Paris back then, and his mistakes in writing ** were also criticized by Pound and Joyce, and Pound's complaints were particularly sharp, but Hemingway could still listen to it; But when Aunt Stein committed two mistakes one day, she first said that a gas station worker had a bad attitude, and began to say to Hemingway "Your generation is a confused generation", Hemingway was angry at the time, and the two were out of harmony at that time - Aunt Stein also felt that she had something to say, but in fact, she was condescending + self-righteous + knocked down a boatload of people with a stick.

Always speak straightforwardly, and it is not easy for people to mix in the workplace. Because it is easy to offend people, it will also cause disgust and exclusion from other colleagues. Therefore, in the workplace, there are some things that cannot be said as much as possible, and they cannot be said directly.

The only way to do that is to try not to talk to yourself. Because he is too honest, he is easy to offend people when he speaks.

This kind of person is not suitable for standing in line in the workplace, so it is best not to get close to either side, otherwise they may be taken advantage of.

Doing your job with peace of mind is the only way out.

People who speak honestly and speak directly are the most likely to offend people in the workplace, and they must learn to speak tactfully. When the words come to your lips, calm down first. Improve your emotional intelligence.

People who love to speak straight are not uncommon in the workplace, there was such a person when we used to go to work, he was a few years older than me, but he especially likes to tell the truth and tell the truth, anyway, my feeling for him is, well, how to say it is too straight, anyway, he has always been a worker, this is not without too many problems, because there are not too many things, then overall, I think he is too straight to speak, I am not very satisfied, then what I want to say is, If you speak very straight, then try to speak less or not at all, which will be a pretty good feeling for you, so that you will not offend people.

Like those who like to tell the truth and speak straighter, it is generally very difficult to mix in the workplace, and if they speak more straightly, they are not particularly good in the eyes of others, and the interpersonal relationship is naturally not particularly good, so they must adjust themselves appropriately and adapt to the environment in order to better adapt to the life of the workplace.

Speaking honestly and speaking straightforwardly, people should mix well in the workplace at work, that is, they should use their own advantages to speak straight, but think about it, don't blurt it out right away, the most direct way for this kind of person is to blurt out, you must think about it before you say it, think twice. This way you will be able to mix better in the workplace.

Honest and straightforward, these people should adapt to the development of the workplace in the workplace and learn to be tactful and flexible. Speaking directly in the workplace, there is no distinction between leaders and subordinates, which is easy to dissatisfy the leader and cause a lot of misunderstandings, so you need to learn some skills in speaking.

People who are honest and straightforward must pay attention to the occasion when speaking in the workplace. Because some words have a great impact, it is easy to isolate yourself. In addition, work more and talk less, and use work to prove your strength.

People who speak too honestly and speak straightforwardly are not recommended to mix in the workplace, because this kind of person is easy to suffer losses and offend others, because the workplace is a very complex relationship, if you don't learn to be flexible, it is easy to be eliminated by the workplace, or easy to be isolated by colleagues, so you need to change yourself when you speak honestly, otherwise it is not good for yourself to suffer in the workplace.

When interacting with people in the workplace, you must pay attention to the art of speaking, and never speak too straight, otherwise it may affect your normal interaction with others. So, is it really so bad to speak too straight? Let's take a look at the topic.

1. Speak with a degree, if you are too straightforward, it is easy to hurt others and yourself.

We treat the same thing, if we have different opinions, we can express it, but the way we speak must be acceptable to the other party, otherwise your words will only make the other party angry, and even directly hate you in the bottom of your heart. Therefore, it is important to remember that even if we are just expressing our opinion on a certain matter, it is not appropriate to say the most truthful thoughts too directly, but choose a tactful way to say it, so that it is easier for the other party to accept your point of view, or even agree with your opinion.

Second, if the personality is too straight, it is easy to be taken advantage of.

Why don't you set up an upright personality in the workplace? This is because everyone in the workplace is in a competitive relationship, and if someone uses your upright personality to sow discord between you and other colleagues, it will make you careless and get hurt. At this time, you will be able to realize that a person is blessed if he can think twice before doing things and speaking.

At this time, not only will you suffer less sin, but even your colleagues will not be affected. Therefore, I hope you will understand this and be cautious in your words and actions in the workplace.

3. When you don't want to go along with others, you can say less and do more.

If you feel that your personality is so straight, there is no way to change it. At this time, you can also choose a compromise approach, which is to try to talk less and do more. We need to understand that it is easy to have a situation of "saying too much and making too many mistakes" in the workplace, so in order to avoid a scene where trouble comes out of our mouths, it is best to keep our mouths shut.

Of course, if your emotional intelligence is higher, then you can also choose to say something that does not violate your conscience and others love to listen to it, this is just a sloppy eye, and you can be happy with each other, which is pretty good, isn't it?

I think this statement is correct, if you are too sincere to people, it will make people bully you often, it will bring you a bad influence, and it may cause you trouble.

Yes, if you speak too straight in the workplace, it is not good and can be very annoying.

Harmony is very important in the workplace, and if you speak too straight, it is easy to offend some people, and some people will wear small shoes for themselves.

If your personality is too straight, then you have to think about why your personality is too straight. Is it something that someone else said, and you think that what the other person said is unreasonable, or that you have a better supplement. This is the time when you should observe your own thoughts.

When someone says this, you want to refute him or disagree with him. You have to calm yourself down first, don't say it right away. It's better to take a deep breath to calm yourself down and then think about how to speak.

Don't say whatever comes to mind, it's easy to hurt others, and it's easy to put yourself in an awkward position and lead to being unsociable. So think twice before you speak. Do you know why Zhuge Liang took a fan?

Just to cover your face and mouth. In this way, he will not let people know what he wants to say, block it when it comes to his mouth, and then retract it and think again. So you can think in this way that before you feel that the sentence is out of place, you can turn your head or drink water at this time.

In this way, you can slowly avoid the defect of speaking too straight.