How to Solve the Problem of Unwed Moms 5

What do you want to do so much After you are born, there will naturally be departments looking for you.

It's a good thing to want to have children out of wedlock, but it's meaningless for women who don't want to have children out of wedlock. It is recommended that unmarried mothers should get married first and have children, which is responsible for themselves and their children.

Things unwed mothers need to endure.

1. Have enough ability, including energy and financial resources to raise the baby. Nowadays, in this society where money is rampant and no money is impossible, I am afraid that it is more difficult to support yourself. What's more, I have to raise a child who is waiting to be fed.

Raising a child is not giving her life, but it is fulfilling her duty. More importantly, give Bi Jingzheng a good environment for his children to grow up.

2. Have enough patience to take care of the baby. Every child needs patience and love from their parents to grow up.

3. Can you withstand pressure from society or even from your family? Getting married and having children is a natural and logical thing. Once you have a child out of wedlock, it is inevitable that it is a violation of convention. It will inevitably be unacceptable to the world. It even gives you the name of unchastity and uncleanness.

Having children out of wedlock has always been a ridiculous thing. Therefore, it is difficult to hope for social understanding. You can only hold the attitude of "go your own way and let others talk about it".

1. When childbirth and marriage are untied: the helplessness and struggle of unmarried mothers.

Li Ling has a lawyer friend who also gave birth out of wedlock, and now, her daughter is 8 years old. Xie Lingling, a 36-year-old native of Longyan, Fujian Province, has been preparing for an out-of-wedlock birth, trying to choose a father with good genes. Xie Lingling took a fancy to her ex-husband's intelligence and talent, and the two were a good match, and they knew each other for less than a year.

2. When childbirth and marriage are untied: the helplessness and struggle of unmarried mothers.

Lucky is a focus on non-marital childbearing groups, where I have been lurking for three or four years. Li Ling has a lawyer friend who also gave birth out of wedlock, and now, her daughter is 8 years old. Xie Lingling, a 36-year-old native of Longyan, Fujian Province, has been preparing for an out-of-wedlock birth, trying to choose a father with good genes.

Xie Lingling took a fancy to Kuanye's ex-husband.

I know a young lady. I'm not entirely sure if it was born out of wedlock, but there should be a 9 percent chance of it.

Her family and personal conditions are very good, she has also studied abroad before, and she has accepted the Western concept of freedom.

This young lady has high requirements for spirituality, and she feels that she must find a soul mate in order to have an intimate relationship and enter marriage together. It's a pity that apparently she didn't find such a soul mate.

As she got older, one day she came to me out of the blue to ask about holding a baby.

Because my family has a doctor in the obstetrics and gynecology department, she asked me if the hospital has any healthy babies that are not wanted by parents and can be adopted through legal channels.

At that time, I had a conversation with her and learned that as she grew older, her parents saw that she had no hope of starting a family and hoped that she could have a child. She thought about it for a while and felt that she would like to have a child, so she began to gather information on how she could legally have a child. She considered two ways at the same time, one is to do it manually and give birth to one herself, and the other is to raise one.

However, as an unmarried woman, it is very difficult to operate in these two ways in China, so she also went to learn about some situations abroad.

After a while, she jumped ship and went abroad. Before leaving, we had a casual meal, and she whispered to me that she decided to go abroad to do it, whether it was adoption or artificial, and she was going to go and then decide slowly. Her parents are fully supportive and will help her with the child.

Then after a long time, I didn't see her have children, and it was all some work dynamics. I thought she had given up on the plan in the end. Until one day, I suddenly saw her and her parents with the child's **.

I didn't ask her if the baby was planned, Plan A or Plan B. But I think it's probably because there's no news of her getting married or having a significant other.

As for her family, they don't care, they are the main force with the baby. The young lady has a strong family background, and her career development is also very good, and she seems to be living a very happy life at present.

I had a schedule to go abroad for a meeting and planned to get together with her, but when the epidemic came, I never went out. Her baby is also very good, and we usually occasionally exchange parenting experience.

Overall, in her case, it is estimated that it is still not easy to operate in China, and I don't know if there have been any changes in the policy in recent years.

Although now women's independence, there are more and more unmarried mothers, as an unmarried mother, in fact, it takes courage and ability, because he needs to bear a child, and all kinds of expenses in the process of growing up also take up most of his time to accompany the child to grow up, to educate the child, I really want to pay more time and energy than the complete family, and money, so once the woman decides to be an unmarried mother, that is to say, he has to shoulder more responsibilities and obligations, so for unmarried mothers, we should not only not discriminate against her, but should give them encouragement and help, if can, no one chooses to be my mother, it must be her other half, who has all kinds of problems, can't form a healthy family with him, or doesn't have this opportunity anymore, but this is not a reason to prevent your life from coming to this world, so the whole society gives you unmarried mother care.

It violates the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation and is also extremely irresponsible to the next generation.

Stay and sleep well in the evening.

It depends. If it is a single aristocrat. I want a child myself. There is nothing wrong with that. If you encounter a scumbag and are abandoned, it is worthy of sympathy. If it's three, it's talked about.