How to tell if a person is kind, and how to judge whether a person is good or not?

What is the most precious thing in the world? The French writer Victor Hugo said it well: kindness. "Kindness is a rare pearl in history, and good people are almost superior to great people. ”

Traditional Chinese culture has always pursued the word "goodness": treating people and things, emphasizing the beauty of kindness and goodness; Interact with others, pay attention to being kind to others, and be kind and charitable; Demanding from oneself, advocating being good to oneself and being kind.

I remember a famous person who said that the only power for all is the law; The only power to the individual is goodness.

So how can you tell if your side is really good? You can just look at these four places.

1. Attitude towards subordinates or people with lower social status than themselves.

A good person lives an equal person in his heart. In his (her) opinion, there is no distinction between noble and humble in life, so no matter what kind of person he meets, he always feels that this person is the same as himself, and there is no difference.

But I met such a boss in my life, she always told us that she was fasting and chanting Buddha, and she would not hurt small animals, and at that time, we thought we had met a good boss. But when waiting for takeout by chance, her attitude surprised us.

Because the takeaway brother didn't know the way, he called the boss several times to ask about it, and the boss began to tell him impatiently when he first picked up**, and then waited for the takeaway brother at the door.

But because in the mall, the little brother may also be the first time to come, so I called the boss again, and the boss was very impatient to tell him in **, after hanging this **, he turned around and told me that this delivery person is really unclear, and he said that he couldn't find it after looking for so long.

After a while, the boss saw that the little brother hadn't arrived yet, so he called the little brother again, and finally saw the takeaway brother coming over with a lot of boxed lunches. I took my brother's boxed lunch, and I wanted to turn around and go back, but the boss's attitude stunned me: I want to complain to you, I don't know what takeaway to deliver, let me wait so long, and I will come out to pick you up in person.

The attitude of the owner was something we had never seen before.

Such a weak-looking woman said such harsh words, and suddenly her good image in my mind disappeared. It was also at that time that I understood that people should not be good-looking, and they might be polite to those they knew, but once I met this kind of person with a lower social status than myself, her attitude clearly told me whether she was really kind or pseudo-kind.

Look at his tolerance in dealing with problems. Tolerance of different opinions, tolerance of those who do not intend to offend, and even tolerance of those who have made mistakes, are all manifestations of kindness. Those who are unforgiving to others or unforgiving others are worthy of question.

Look at the eyes. The eyes are the windows to the soul.

Kind people have loving, friendly, and gentle eyes.

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, regardless of daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life and things, and flexibly adjust their mentality. The way of thinking and the skills of dealing with people, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

There's no way to tell.

Because these things have to be judged by deeds and words.

The human heart is unfathomable.

It takes time to judge whether a person is kind or not. People hide their shortcomings and magnify their strengths.

A man must eat a peck of salt with his friend before he knows him.

And then there's the details.

The details and attitude of doing things together.

To judge whether a person is good or not, I think it depends on his moral sentiments.

Everyone has a standard of judgment in their hearts, and I believe that you also follow your own heart.

The concept of kindness is too broad. Ordinary people are relatively kind, if this person is not filial, insincere, untrustworthy, and does not repay the money borrowed for n years, it can basically be said that it is not a good type.

If you want to know whether a person is kind, the most important thing is to experience it with your heart, some people pretend to be amiable on the surface, but in fact they are dark inside.

Have more contact with the object, observe more, and look at her words and deeds to analyze whether her heart is kind, and tell you that a knock on the door can quickly distinguish, with an accuracy of 8%.

That is to look at her eyes, the eyes are the windows to the soul, and most of the thoughts in the heart will appear in the eyes, unless it is a professionally trained spy or the like.

Kind people, clear eyes, not cloudy, shiny, eyes are bright, will not dodge when looking directly at you, except for some shy, the other is words and deeds, a person's words and deeds are the embodiment of a person's inner state, if the girl likes pets such as small animals very much, it is a caring woman, such a mostly kind-hearted.

There are also simple girls who are also very kind, and they can also be analyzed from the side, such as family status, if it is a single-parent family or a person with family disharmony, most of them have a small shadow in their hearts, and if the family is harmonious, they are pure and good-hearted.

Of course, it mainly depends on your own experience, observe carefully, and occasionally see it from the other party's small actions, people's subconscious behavior can best reflect people's psychology.

This, you have to look at the usual performance of others, and you can't see it for a while.

There is no absolute kindness, look at anything.

What do you mean by kindness?

Personally, I think that the biggest difference between a truly kind person and a hypocrite is:

Good people do good deeds out of instinct, their soft hearts and good nature drive them not to bear to hurt others, nor to see tragic things happen, so to the people in distress, they will reach out to the people in distress, by stopping or alleviating the suffering of the victims, in order to obtain their own conscience comfort.

Hypocrites are different, their charity is just a disguise, behind their compassionate face, often hidden ulterior purposes, the most common practice of hypocrites is to finally deceive the trust of others, and use some despicable means to seek maximum benefits for themselves.

In reality, many hypocrites often seem to be kinder than true and benevolent people, and it is difficult for people to see their true colors from the beginning, which makes hypocrites very scary - we all know that a person who can gain the trust of others is often more destructive when he does bad things.

So, to tell whether a person is true or hypocritical, depends on what they end up doing.

The only thing that can see them clearly is time.

Only time will be able to debunk all the disguises.

Hello, you can judge from these three aspects1Behavior: Observe whether a person will consider the interests of himself and others when making decisions, whether Wang Hong is generous and generous, and whether he has true love; 2.

Emotions: daily interactions, observing their language and attitudes, whether they give up on others and whether they have feelings for others in their words; 3.Judgment:

Observe whether his thoughts, values, and rules of life are prepared with a heart of kindness and justice.