Why are most mothers reluctant to have three children? What are the risks of having a third child?

Why are most mothers reluctant to have three children? What are the risks of having a third child? I think everyone should have this feeling now, even though there are many countermeasures to encourage everyone to have three children, but the number of people who choose to have three children has not actually increased, and some young people are not even willing to have one child.

The occurrence of such a phenomenon actually reflects some problems, and if these problems cannot be solved in time from the source, I think it is difficult to change the situation.

It is important to remember that having a child is never something that everyone can give birth to, and it is also necessary to be responsible for the child to give birth to a child, and a child also needs the careful care and companionship of parents in the process of growing up, but how can young people have so much time to put it into the family now? Everyone has their own work to be busy, whether it is men or women have work, not to mention some work overtime, so that they themselves do not have many days off, if there are many children in the case of only at home will not completely release the pressure, the essence of the spirit needs to be tense at all times, we all know that some people do not want to have such children because they feel that the child has to spend too much time on themselves, and they have no rest at all.

In the process of growing up children, we must not only understand how high the cost they need, but also worry about whether the child will bump into it, get injured and other things, which will invisibly bring pressure on young people.

How to balance the relationship between babies are a problem that families with many children must consider, our children themselves are very simple, if they do not do a good job of children's ideological work, they will feel that there is only one child in the family Parents love themselves alone, but a few more children will be with me to win the love of parents and parents, then parents do not love themselves, once the child has such a psychology will cause resistance to other children, we all know that some parents have no way to balance the relationship between the baby, That's why I didn't choose to have so many children.

If it is more difficult in the family, it is recommended not to suffer so much, after all, it is not easy to raise a child, it only takes time and costs money, in addition to see if there is any old age and frail phenomenon in your family, if the mother or his father, he is very old to get pregnant, it is very likely that it will be a risk to itself and the baby. After giving birth, it still takes physical strength and energy to raise, and it is very difficult to take care of a child if you are too old, so you must do what you can.

The pressure of having three children is very high, and it will lead to greater financial pressure on the family, and there will also be some problems when taking care of the children. It is necessary to take economic risks, medical risks, disease risks, educational risks, and training risks.

Most mothers have limited energy and can't take care of their third child at all. It may be that the body's physique will decline a lot, sometimes it will destroy the uterine muscle fibers, there may be a phenomenon of fundal retroversion, and sometimes there will be problems with wound healing.

Having three children carries a greater risk, first of all, the mother's physical health, and secondly, it costs a lot to raise a child.

If you respond to the call of the country, you can have three children, but before giving birth, you consider whether your family's life in the future has the conditions for having three children.

We recently opened the three-child policy when we went home, so should we have three children? The state encourages having three children, but for individuals, it is best to do what they can, and there are already two. Then having three children, then the burden is heavier, whether the income of a family and the experience of the husband and wife can be taken care of, this is not like the fifties and sixties of the big ones, with the small, the small childcare, now they are all adults to take over, and the school needs to end, so you have to think clearly before making a decision.

In the end, whether you should give birth to three units, it depends on the actual situation of the family, if the economic conditions of the family are good, then it is still very good to have three units, if the family does not have such good conditions, it is not too big to give birth to three units.

This depends on the wishes of both spouses and the physical condition of both parties, as well as the status of the first two children. Secondly, it also depends on the family's economic conditions.

Wealthy families can create a variety of basic supporting measures by themselves, and they don't have to think so much about giving birth to what they want.

According to one's own financial ability and family situation, if you can afford it, then give birth, and consider whether the family can provide for it after giving birth.

Depending on the economic strength of your family, there is no problem with someone raising more than a few. What the ancestors said makes sense, there are many sons and many blessings. If there are more children, it is easy to feed, and the children will not be lonely, and they will not be hungry if they grab food.

I think it's okay to have two, at least you better forget it, right? One person with two small babies.

There is nothing to be done, as long as you have enough funds, time, energy, and a strong sense of responsibility, you can take care of the child and you can continue to have children.

Whether to have three children or not should be decided according to your actual situation.

If you have three children, it will bring a great burden to your family, so you should be cautious.

If the family conditions are supportive, then it can still be considered.

Giving birth to three children did not fundamentally solve the core of having three children.

Originally, family planning control was extremely strict, but in the end, it became a second child, and now a third child is encouraged, why is this? The reasons are all in economic pressures.

In the past, the Chinese people had a strong concept of inheritance and inheritance, so family planning should be strictly implemented, but later, economic pressure is the best birth control, and a large number of modern house slaves and car slaves have the same income and expenditure when raising a child, and raising a second child is a moonlight clan who cannot make ends meet. Excuse me, if you have three children, if you don't have dividends, don't give birth, otherwise you can afford to give birth and can't afford to raise them.

It depends on your actual situation, everyone is different.

Decide for yourself this kind of thing, no one else can help you.

It's not whether you should or shouldn't, it's whether you want to or not.

If you have money, you can give birth! If you want to give birth, you can give birth!

This one is chosen according to the individual's family situation.

This can be decided according to your own situation, of course, there are many children.

If you have money, you will have the right to give birth, and if you can't afford to give birth, you can't afford to be cured of a disease, and giving birth is equivalent to harming yourself and your children.

Taken together, the anxiety of these parents who do not have three children is mainly concentrated in the following aspects:

Pension. The post-80s, post-90s, and post-00s generation of "family planning" population with only one child bears heavy pressure on the elderly, which leads to a lot of caution in having children.

Prices. The tradition of getting married and asking for a house has met high housing prices, which has led to the postponement of a considerable number of young people's marriage on land, and the corresponding childbearing period will also be delayed, and the mortgage has become a competitive pressure for childcare.

Prices. In the face of the high cost of "childbirth, parenting, and education", it refers to medical expenses, milk powder costs, study expenses and other expenses.

Time and effort. Women of appropriate age face the problem of childbearing in the workplace, and choosing to have children requires making career sacrifices, even social leisure time.

On the flip side, women of childbearing age are facing difficult decisions in life. Do you choose to give up the workplace, or miss the best childbearing period in your life and turn to a career where you can't make a difference? Some business owners admit that with the opening of the third child, a female employee who intends to raise a third child is likely to be unable to take on normal work for several years, so it is indeed a heavy burden for the company and the individual.

Interviewee Xue Xue as an example, living in Shenzhen, the current baby is one year old, she also stopped working to concentrate on taking care of the child, Xue Xue can be regarded as a typical example of raising a baby in a first-tier city, a good hand of "buying, buying, buying". Before the baby was born, she hoarded two boxes of milk powder, two boxes of diapers, all kinds of sensitive toys and a bunch of English picture books. While buying, I complained that I couldn't afford to raise a child, so it is understandable not to have a third child.

Everyone talked about the three-child policy, and also talked about the three-child envy policy, and talked about the three-child subsidy in some places. But everyone's opinion is that most families will not have a third child, what are the reasons? We briefly ** and summarized the following points:

1.I can afford to give birth, but I can't afford to raise it. The so-called affordability is that it doesn't cost much to go to the hospital to give birth, and if it is a natural birth, three or four thousand yuan is a higher cost, and three or four thousand yuan is a small amount of money for most people.

But what about after birth? Raising children is not something that can be solved by a little money, nor is it a matter of thousands of dollars. Milk powder money, kindergarten tuition, choosing to study in primary school after kindergarten is over, school district housing, sponsorship fees, etc. are all to be faced.

In the future, when a boy marries a wife and has children, he will have to face it as a parent. Although girls don't worry about marrying a daughter-in-law, girls should be rich and well-noodle, and they should be a little more particular about dressing, right? This is not a small cost, and there are other expenses that have not been mentioned for the time being, you can calculate how much money you need to spend to raise a baby in several tier cities.

2.Risks are uncontrollable. What is the meaning of uncontrollable risk is also something that happens in our same ward, we live in an extra bed, that is, there are not enough beds in the ward, and the hospital temporarily adds a bed between the two beds. The middle bed we stayed in and everything was ok.

In the innermost bed of the same ward, during the pregnancy of the pregnant woman, the fetal position was lower, and the child was naughty, and the amniotic fluid was broken by one foot at only seven months. can only be born prematurely, more than three catties out of seven months, go to the "incubator" to stay, the cost of five or six thousand a day, in addition to this, the doctor said that there may be sequelae, and the cost of the later ** is estimated to be not less than 200,000.

Giving birth to a child is a big deal, and mega socks must be cautious and cautious! In fact, there is nothing to worry about this, as long as the family conditions allow, of course. I'm 38 years old now, and I still want to have a second child?

However, I gave up because I was worried that I was getting more and more unsuitable for pregnancy at my age, and it would bring a lot of trouble and risks to myself; Wait a few years After all, having a child has too much impact on a woman's body, especially a caesarean section is more dangerous, it is recommended to choose a natural birth as much as possible If you are very insistent on having a third child, then no matter how the doctor persuades you, remember that even if some groups of people meet the premise of national policies, it is best not to take risks.