What kind of psychology is it to always feel bad?

When a person belittles himself so much, it is not that he is really bad, but that his heart is full of inferiority and bitterness, and once this kind of denial of himself is spoken, the situation may worsen

So, today, combined with my own story, I will tell you how to get out of it when you feel that you are bad.

First of all, "you are not alone", almost everyone has low self-esteem, more or less. Let me share a recent incident of my own mentality collapse - when I was just in the summer, I was invited to a top university to be a judge of a career planning competition (I was very proud), but after I went, I was critted on the spot!

It turns out that the other judges are all old alumni who graduated from this school, and several of them are still doctors, with a golden academic background + a platform with unlimited scenery (they are either partners of the Big Four and Red Circle Law Firms, or they hold important positions in prestigious places such as the top 500), so they are full of elite temperament. In contrast, I was obviously a little "unable to take it", and I felt the pressure instantly.

The first reaction is: these people who are talking to each other are just business nonsense, and they are lucky to enter a good platform at a young age (belittle others);

Then, the second reaction began to feel inferior: isn't it because you can't eat grapes and say that grapes are sour, isn't it because your education is not as good as your family, and now your income is not as big as that of others, and the platform is not as big as others?

So, just like the title says, I feel that I have "poor personality, poor ability, poor mentality, etc.", and I can use words that can belittle me. So, in this process, I was very embarrassed to sit inside, hoping that others would not talk to me, and I didn't know what to do, so I pretended to look at my phone and was busy.

See! When the mentality collapses, how "embarrassed" it is. I certainly believe I'm not that good-for-nothing, but obviously, I can also fall into self-deprecation in the midst of comparison and stress.

For most ordinary people, I believe that everyone is not really "poor character, poor ability, and poor mentality", but in the face of setbacks and pressure, they are just blinded for a while.

But why do they engage in self-deprecation? As you can see from the story I just shared, I wanted to belittle others at first, but why did I turn to belittle myself?

First, the facts are in front of us and we have to admit them. From the perspective of human instinct, if I can blame others, I will definitely not want to find trouble for myself, but I am not blind myself, and it is difficult to deceive myself.

Second, self-preservation: Seeing a gap and changing it is the right thing to do, but sometimes it is not something that can be done with effort. Therefore, it is better to simply "press yourself directly underground", because of the subconscious.

He will tell himself this: you don't have to work hard, you can't do anything anyway; Or it's not that I don't work hard, it's that I really can't. Then, as a matter of course, "where to fall, where to lie down".

Therefore, the ultra-low evaluation of oneself that is out of reality is likely to be disguise, armor, and trying to wrap oneself deeply.

This is a very inferior psychology, a kind of disapproval of oneself, and a very lack of self-confidence, so you should try to believe in yourself and discover your own strengths.

This is a very inferior psychological state, which may have a certain relationship with their own growth environment or work environment, and their own appearance, in fact, everyone is great, as long as they do their best, and actively work hard.

Inferiority. At this time, we should enlighten ourselves well, and discover the shining points in ourselves, so that we can become more confident, and we must make ourselves better through our own efforts.

If a person feels that he is very badly broken, it may be related to objective factors, subjective factors, and it may be caused by feelings of inferiority and bitterness in his heart.

It is recommended that such people adjust in time by regulating their emotions, and can also adjust with the help of a psychologist.

1. Objective factors: If a person is often lectured by parents and teachers, and is always criticized by others, or parents often compare themselves with others. At this time, you may magnify your shortcomings and constantly consume the positive energy in your heart, thus forming a vicious circle that leads to feeling bad.

At this time, you can vent your bad emotions by running, swimming, etc., and encourage yourself appropriately. At the same time, you can also communicate with other people, improve your own shortcomings, improve yourself, and improve yourself, so as to improve the impression of others that you are bad.

2. Subjective factors: If a person is suppressed by various difficulties in the outside world and does not succeed in doing certain things, it is easy to feel that he is poor and has low self-esteem, and his sense of self-worth is relatively low, and there may be psychological disorders, such as upset, emotional instability, etc. If the patient is extremely depressed and loses confidence in life, he may have entered a state of depression, and usually lose interest in life and be depressed all day.

It is recommended to conduct a mental health test to clarify one's mental health level, and under the guidance of Dr. Zhiran, through confiding, psychoanalysis, etc., it can also be carried out with drugs such as doxepin hydrochloride tablets and amitriptyline hydrochloride tablets under the guidance of doctors**.

People who feel that they are very bad should take a serious look at themselves, discover their own strengths, and learn self-esteem and self-love, strive to improve their shortcomings, and alleviate their bad psychological state.

If you feel that your symptoms are not relieved, you need to go to the psychiatric department of the hospital as soon as possible, and confirm ** through electroencephalogram, psychological scale and other examinations**, and carry out ** under the guidance of a doctor**.

Absolutely, definitely not a good thing!! You must have a lot of advantages, but you only focus on the disadvantages. Be sure to change your mind and you'll be great.

Summary. If you have this kind of thought, it means that you are not a bad person, but you are too much to pursue perfection, pay too much attention to the feelings of others and ignore yourself, don't be entangled in everything, no one in the world is perfect, and you are not bad at doing things. Now you should first adjust your mentality and not fall into the negative emotions of self-blame and self-extrication.

Remember, as long as you don't break the law, don't beat or scold people, don't do things that violate your conscience, and work hard to be diligent, because people have different opinions on what you do. Be confident, put aside all concerns, live yourself, and don't let yourself be hurt!

What should I do if I always feel that I am very bad, very bad?

If you have this kind of thought, it means that you are not a bad person, but you are too much to pursue perfection, pay too much attention to the feelings of others and ignore yourself, don't be entangled in everything, no one in the world is perfect, and you are not bad at doing things. Now you should first adjust your mentality and not fall into the negative emotions of self-blame and self-extrication. Remember, as long as you don't break the law, don't beat or scold people, don't do things that have no conscience, and don't lose the banquet, it's good to work hard and be attentive, because Sun Yan, what you do is good, there are people who have different opinions, and then you will wither silver.

Be confident, put aside all concerns, live yourself, and don't let yourself be hurt!

Can you add, I don't quite understand it.

Pay too much attention to other people's feelings and self-blame for the pursuit of perfection, don't let bad emotions influence you, you have this kind of thought, it means that you are still a good Li coarse person, because as you said, a particularly bad person will not have the ability to self-reflexively.

…What should I do if I always feel that I am very bad, very bad?

Hello, I am happy to serve you and give you the following answers: 1. Cause analysis 1. Insufficient learning ability: Learning ability refers to a person's ability to acquire, understand and apply knowledge in the learning process.

If you don't have enough learning ability, you will feel that it is very difficult to study, and you will spend more time and energy than others, and you will feel very poor. 2. Improper learning methods: Improper learning methods can also lead to low learning efficiency, such as ineffective memory methods, or insufficient concentration in learning, frequent distraction, etc.

2. Solution 1: Improve learning ability: If you want to solve the situation of poor learning, you must first improve your learning ability. You can improve your learning ability through continuous practice, summarization, reflection, etc.

2. Improve learning methods: Improving learning methods is also an effective way to improve learning efficiency. You can learn some effective memory methods, such as associative memory, figurative memory, etc., which can make it easier to remember knowledge points.

3. Practice step 1: Observation and analysis: First of all, we must observe the situation when we are learning, and analyze the reasons for our insufficient learning ability or improper learning methods. 2. Make a plan

Make a plan based on your situation to achieve your learning goals. 3. Improve learning methods: Learn some effective memory methods, such as associative memory, figurative memory, etc., which can make it easier to remember knowledge points.

4. Strive to practice: constantly summarize and reflect in practice, and constantly improve your own learning methods to achieve the best learning effect. 4. Personal tips 1. Be confident:

It's not terrible to study poorly, as long as you have self-confidence and belief.