What will be the outcome of a person with extremely low self esteem and insecurity in love?

Extreme low self-esteem and lackA sense of securityThe end of the person in love will only be a failure, and it will even hurt the other person.

The family is able to influence a person, the family of origin.

If a person who is extremely inferior and insecure since childhood, if he or she gets married, he (she) will not only not be able to handle the future relationship between husband and wife, but also the parent-child relationshipBecause of extreme inferiority, he cannot grasp the balance of love, and the cognitive system of love is extremely lacking, so he (she) has no ability to love others.

And one more important pointThis type of person is also extremely insecure, he (she) will reject all things, opinions and people that go against his (her) will, no matter how much you give, he (she) can not really be moved, can not enter his (her) heart, he (she) does not trust anyone, sensitive, suspicious, narrow-minded, grudge, he (she) will feel that all people with different concepts from him (her) must be brought to the face, will definitely hurt him (her), so emotional management.

It's even more of a mess, often sentimental.

In fact, this kind of person is also very pitiful, but also hateful, and to some extent, he (she) is also a victim.

However, this kind of victim is often the perpetrator in marriage, and no matter how the partner tries to heal him/her, he or she will get nothing, and eventually he or she will be hurt to the fullest.

Therefore, in love, we must establish a right oneConcept of love

If we have shortcomings and problems, we have to try to change ourselves. If you want to know whether this person is worthy of your love, first of all, it is not based on appearance, personality, economy, etc., butWhether this person has a sense of responsibility, because a person's sense of responsibility and responsibility determines whether he can afford the ordinary life of firewood, rice, oil and salt in the future, and the insipidity and triviality in this feeling.

In love, I think the best state is not a lover, butCompanions, is the kind of comradeship that you can spend together on the road of life, this long road, there is no absolute love cheat in this world.

Because most people in life are taking time to love each other, only after it is determined, the silent compromise between the two people, and the determination to silently change for each other are the most long-term love secrets.

Therefore, a person with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity is not terrible, what matters is whether he or she is willing to change himself or not for you.

May we all meet the person who is willing to compromise for you in the relationship!

The same people with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity,There are also very different endings in love。Treat this issue with development **It depends on how they change after they enter a relationship, and how their partners differ。Here are some of the most common endings.

- Inferiority complex and finally breakup

Zhang Ailing said"Humble to the dust for love.", in the face of the person you like, the first feeling is inferiority, feeling unworthy of the other party. In the eyes of the lover, there is a shih hSometimes even if the other party is not as good as himself, and has a love filter, he feels that he is not worthy of him. And for people who already have low self-esteem, they suffer from gains and losses in love, and they are always afraid that the other party will leave themEndless suspicion and suspicion will suffocate both yourself and your partner, and you can only break up in the end.

EvenIt is easy to be PUA。If you meet a scumbag or a scumbag,People with low self-esteem often give everything they have regardless of the cost, hoping to exchange their own efforts for true love. Even so, many times they tend to be even less deprived of true loveEven if you give everything, the other party doesn't know how to cherish it.

- Be partnered**, happy together

For people with low self-esteem and insecurity, the role of a partner is very important. In particular, the attitude of the partner directly determines the mood of the other party.

At this timeMeet a good partner who also understands him, I won't be angry because of his paranoia, I will only feel very distressed,Double as good to him, the itinerary is always reported, and slowly gives him a sense of securityGradually, his heart became happier and happier with each other.

- Hide yourself and fall into the bitterness of love

In order to hide the fact that they have low self-esteem, they may be hard-mouthed in love and pretend not to care about each other. Because I was afraid of getting hurt and being abandoned, I could only pretend that I didn't care so much. There is no harm without expectation.

They prefer the Cold War, and they quarrel and don't solve the problemI thought I would lose if I took the initiative to admit my mistake。The other party's easy words can make him think hard for a long time, extremely sensitive and love to disguise, without sincerity. Over time,will always be mired in the bitterness of love and unable to extricate himself.

People with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity end up in a relationship a failure.

A person's lack of security, inferiority and extremeism are not the traits he wants to have, but the defects he is forced to have in his original family, always feeling that his surroundings are not safe enough, and always feeling that he is not capableNot worthy of loveYou always like to solve problems in extreme ways when dealing with the world, and these character flaws once made you fall into self-torture. Other people's words and deeds will cause him (her) to conjecture, and he (her) is not capable of loving him (her) others.

The need for a sense of security arises immediately on the basis of satisfying physiological needs, and it can be said that the pursuit of security is a human instinct. Mood swings in a relationship can make you feel sweet, but the same mood swings can make you feel unstable and therefore uneasy. In the face of a person you love, sometimes there is a feeling of gain and loss, in fact, there is nothing wrong with it, intimate relationships are full of uncertainty, people will always have some doubts about unknown things, not to mention that the other party is still the person you love.

Even wondering "whether he (she) really loves me" always suffers from gains and losses, and the ending in love ultimately fails.

People with low self-esteem and insecurity often immerse themselves in a pessimistic world, feeling that they are not good, that is not good, and that they are not worthy of the other party. This concept hovers in their minds, and whenever another person of the opposite sex appears around them, they will think that the other person of the opposite sex is more attractive than themselves, and they will eventually be abandoned.

They desperately expect the other person to give them the same warm emotions to fill the panic in their hearts. They lack control over the distance in their relationship, which can cause great discomfort and stress to the other person, and many people will feel that there is no privacy because of this excessive intimacy, so they will avoid this relationship. This is not conducive to the maintenance and harmony of the relationship.

It is very difficult for insecure people to fall in love, before the relationship is determined, they will not easily give their feelings, the feelings they are afraid of will not be recognized, if the other party does not speak, it is difficult for them to take the initiative to establish this relationship; After determining the relationship, they attach great importance to this relationship, and spend a lot of effort on maintaining the love relationship, and paying too much attention to maintaining the relationship will be counterproductive. Therefore, many people say that people with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity are not suitable for light love.

People with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity will be hated at the end of love. Because you don't like you like this yourself, unless the other party loves you miserably, otherwise, he will feel that your various doubts make him extremely tired, and he will be abandoned in the end.

I can say that I am an extremely low self-esteem and insecure person, and even though I grew up with a lot of people around me, I always felt that I was alone. I don't believe that anyone will come to love me, I will question his kindness to me, and even say that I don't believe that he loves me, because I am ready for him to leave me at any time.

The more insecure and extremely inferior people like me, the better at disguising themselves, maybe you say a lot of love to me, my superficial likes or resistance are fake, you can say that I am very realistic, I am so realistic that I think we can't go to the end anyway, I will show that I don't care, I know that such a performance will disappoint you, but no way, I am such an extremely inferior person. I want to be loved, but I can't trust your love.

I am prone to gains and losses, I need to respond to everything, as long as I notice that you have a little bit of snubbing me, I will wonder if you don't love me anymore, if I am not good enough to make you not love me. I like to talk back, I need you to say that you love me every day, I need you to take the initiative to find me, I need you to care about me. In fact, if you think about it, this is all asking him to love me, so do I love him well, such feelings are unequal.

An insecure person will push a person away again and again until he finally confirms that he really loves you. But this is also a kind of pressure on the other party. Always talk back, always pretend not to care, this will also make the other party feel that you don't love him, then this kind of love will not go far, guess each other, question each other, this is nothing more than consuming the feelings of both parties.

People with extreme low self-esteem and insecurity are not suitable for falling in love, this is not only tossing themselves, but also tossing the love of others for you, this kind of person is very negative, will fall into suspicion every day, suppress himself every day, and desire to have a person who can soothe all his bad emotions, but he does not believe in his love. Rely on cranky thoughts to create a cage that traps you, and rely on constantly confirming love to the other person to get a way to escape.

There are many people in life who are now in low self-esteem and insecurity, but they may also face the same problem in love, but when they face such a problem, if they do not find a proper solution, it will become out of control.

First, the circle of life has become closed.

You will find that those who have low self-esteem and lack a sense of security have firmly imprisoned themselves in love, and their life circle has become very closed. Because they lack low self-esteem and lack a sense of security, they are not used to socializing with others, nor are they used to showing themselves too much in love, they are more accustomed to imprisoning themselves, because they feel that this is the best protection for themselves.

I once met a friend like thisHe is such a person who is insecure and has low self-esteem. He rarely shares his life with his partner in his relationshipI am also not accustomed to telling each other about my family background. On the contrary, he is accustomed to concealment, so it is easy to get lost in love.

Second, it is easy to be trapped by love and hurt by love.

In fact, falling in love also requires self-confidence, and you need to have enough trust in the other party, because these are some very basic elements of falling in love, whether a relationship is healthy and happy. Only by believing in each other can you go on for a long time and support your common life. However, you are confident enough to be able to show your own charm and make the other party appreciate you.

But those who lack self-confidence and insecurity habitually feel that they are not so good. And in love, they habitually suspect things that don't exist at allSo they are easily bruised by love. The impossible is their final end, which is also the kind of thing people don't want to doSee the ending.

3. Pay too much and find out that you get nothing.

In a relationship, if you lack a sense of security, and you also lack self-confidence, then you will find that how much you have paid in love, you will feel very humble and small in this love. So the end result is that no matter how much you give, you will find that you get nothing.

I have such a friend around me, because he feels that his family conditions are really not good, and he doesn't have enough looks or figure, so he feels very inferior in engagement love. But he feels that he is not good enough, so he has always been very good to his girlfriend, and he is also very spoiled, but because of this, his girlfriend's personality has become more pamperedSo in love, this boy felt very uncomfortable, and finally broke up because of a quarrel. So even though he paid a lot in this love, he ended up breaking up in the end, and he would find that he had nothing to gain in the end.

Summary:

Only sunshine and self-confidence, and have enough trust in your beloved, can make this love more long-lasting, no love does not need self-confidence and trust, and no love can not rely on it and operate for a long time.

I hope that their love will not end, find a place to belong, and find someone who really understands them. Such a person is in a loveThere will always be a passive positionWorrying about making mistakes or even avoiding the start can be distressing and confusing. It may be difficult to read them, but it's simple, just be patient.

1. Get better

If you meet a loved one, you will slowly open your heart, which must require a process, in short, it is a two-way rush. But the other party needs to release kindness first, express love first, and care for it first. Maybe at this time, they will refuse, they will not dare to take the first step, or they will retract after a few stepsThese are very normal.

If you want them to trust you completely, is it that simple? Please have a beginning and an end, be responsible to the end, even if you can't be together in the end, accompany her through the whole process of becoming better, she just needs a guide, and she may not need you after finding the direction, she will open the door.

Second, it becomes bad

I was afraid of being given up at the beginning and felt bad about myself, and that feeling was always thereSubconsciously, I am always reminding myself that I have a lot of shortcomings, or I will magnify some of the words and actions of others. Unfortunately, they need to digest it all on their own, and the other party will only help more and more, and they don't even care about your feelings.

So you define it as a failed relationshipIt may be that it is caused by your own bad self, take the reason on yourself,Or just kill a group of people with a stick, all of them are classified as no one can love me.

3. Remain as it is

This kind of one belongs to the diehardsI have low self-esteem but I don't behave, I'm insecure but I can pretend to be generous, all in all, you can't see it. You come, you go, I look unaffected, solid as a rock. This situation, if you don't want to change it yourself, is that no one really can change it.

Winter goes to spring, you know best.

Instead of going on like this, it's better to try itDon't expect results, just changeDon't worry too much about the effect, give it to the other party, and let yourself go. Don't worry too much about yourself, be grateful for the encounter, believe in fate, and follow fate.

Finally, I send my blessings, wishing more and more loveliness and love.