My husband and I don t have the same concept of parenting, what should I do

First of all, I think that your husband's concept is too extreme, children cannot be forced, you force his behavior, but you cannot force his heart. Reading is indeed an important part of a child's development, but first and foremost it is for the child to fall in love with reading. If the child's psychology is resistant, even if you let him sit at the desk and read the book, it can only be pretending, and it is impossible for him to read the book seriously.

Husbands and wives do not have the same concept of parenting, which is very detrimental to the education of children. I suggest that you and your husband should discuss this issue properly, after all, it is a big question of whether or not you can educate your children well. When talking to your husband, don't target his point of view, you can agree with his point of view, think that children should read, but let children like to read and love reading, so that you can achieve the results that your husband wants.

So the key point is not what your husband wants your child to do or what you want your child to do, but how you, as a parent, can guide your child to love reading and learning.

I recommend a parenting book to you "A Good Mother is Better Than a Good Teacher", when it is available online, I have read it, and it is very inspiring and helpful.

If your husband refuses to read the book, then tell him that parents are the first objects of imitation by children, and as a parent, you refuse to read, so how can you let your children read?

You and your husband have a good discussion, can you find a compromise? In addition to reading, it is also important for children to cultivate their own interests, and children are not allowed to participate in activities, only reading, which will make children become autistic and discordant in the long run.

My husband and I have a clear division of labor on the education of my son, and my husband sings black face, taking care of learning and educating his character. I sang red-faced, and often took him to play with the children, and did all kinds of things that interested him. I think it's okay, he doesn't dare to relax his studies now because he is afraid of his father, and he won't be too stressed, because I will take him out to play when the right time is right.

Yes, adults should not impose their ideas on children, which is not good for his growth. Being too "obedient" is not necessarily a good thing, don't kill the nature of children.

When your husband is at home, your husband will take care of the children, you should go farther, I believe that he will not bring the children badly, and when the husband is not at home, you can do whatever you want in society.

Introduction: Whether it is a father or a mother, they have their own set of ideas on educating their children, and they will feel that children can develop better according to their own education methods, in fact, this situation is relatively normal, everyone's growth environment is different, and the education received is not the same, so they will also have their own ideas in terms of children's education. As a husband and wife, the two of you must communicate more and find a way of education that is truly suitable for your children.

But some parents are different, he thinks that he is the father of the child, he can be the child's education, pointing fingers, blaming the mother in front of the child, not looking at the child, in such a situation, it is recommended to communicate directly with the father, everyone has their own ideas, very normal, but don't always impose your ideas on others, he is the father of the child, he has the right to educate his children, but he has no right to blame the child's mother. If you want your child to be better, then you should be involved in the child's education process and don't accuse the mother of not taking good care of the child. In addition, as a mother, you must show your attitude, you have to tell him that not all your ideas are correct, we can communicate with each other, we can find a way to educate the child, but you make him very faceless, not respected, and the child may even no longer trust his mother.

May I ask Dad, what should I do if such a problem arises? In addition, it is necessary to tell the child about the parents, but the father's behavior is not correct, how to deal with the problem correctly, and guide the child in time, otherwise the child will really feel that his mother's words are useless, and then he will treat his father and mother differently. As a father of a child, you have to think about how to communicate with your wife and how to find a way to work for your child, rather than criticizing your wife there.

If they say anything, then what do you want you to do?

At this time, you should talk to your husband well, because such behavior will have a more serious impact on the child, and the child will become disrespectful to his mother.

Then let your husband watch the children by himself! You've done your best, and you really hate this kind of man, just talk about it.

At this time, you should have a particularly good communication with the other party, and you should also have a particularly good conversation with the other party, and you can tell the other party your thoughts.

Everyone's opinion on a matter is different, and even after getting married, couples will have certain quarrels due to various differences of opinion. I found that some fathers and mothers think differently, and they are not the same for children's education, and when mothers educate their babies, fathers will always intervene and accuse mothers of being wrong. Today, I will tell you about the disadvantages of this educational method?

First of all, if the father directly denies the mother's education method in front of the child, it will also make the child become very disrespectful to the mother. If we have some educational deviations with our mothers, we should combine them with our mothers in private to see which education method is best for our children. Instead of directly interrupting my mother's statement in front of her, I denied my mother's education method.

I really hate that when I was educating my children, my father was pointing fingers at me. If the father is really responsible for the child, he has usually begun to educate the child, not when he is idle and bored, he begins to blame the mother, usually does not pay a little attention to the child's education, and at this time the blame for the mother will definitely make the child feel that his mother does not care.

As I said at the beginning, because my parents have different ideas, there will definitely be some deviations in educating children, and at the time of this song, my father and mother can discuss the method in private. If the father is not usually involved in the process of educating the child, then when the mother is educating the child, the father should not point fingers.

Fathers can tell their mothers in private what is wrong with their education methods, instead of denying them directly in front of their children. Dad may think he is very handsome, but for the child, he will no longer respect his mother, so I hope everyone can realize the seriousness of this matter.

You should contradict your husband and tell him that he should not speak of himself in front of his children when your husband realizes his mistake.

You should consult with your husband to tell him that it is not your responsibility to raise your children alone, and then tell him some truths and hope that he will not do this in front of your children.

Most of the time in the family, the elderly or wife will take care of the children, while the father will take the initiative to take care of the children. This situation arises mainly because the father is given the main economic ** of the family, and takes on more social responsibilities in the family and society.

Compared to the responsibility of the elderly and his wife to take care of the children, the father will be very few.

Fortunately, many fathers now begin to attach great importance to the education and companionship of their children, and they also want to leave many fathers to accompany their children during their children's growth. But as long as dad wants to be involved in family parenting, will everything go well? Not necessarily, there are often a lot of annoyances, such as the child wants to play smart games with his father, and the body language with a large range of movements.

At this time, as the elderly and wife of the family, they will want the children to sit down and do some homework or just sit quietly and rest.

Often when such ideas are different, it is best to communicate with the adults at home in advance about the child's teaching and cultivation when they all want to participate in the child's education, explain their own ideas, or after many times of communication and negotiation, make effective arrangements for the child's time, which can not only ensure the child's daily learning and life, enrich the child's extracurricular life, but also feel the different ways of love given by all adults in the family.

This class allows all family members in an organization like a parent-child park to participate, and you can interact with many families and do family tasks arranged by the organization, such as how to find good tools to set up a camping tent. In this class fight, all members of the family should use their own responsibilities to do this well.

In the process of being a director, you will encounter different opinions. In order to do things well and give children a good example, adults need to talk more calmly with each other and find ways to talk about it from the perspective of mutual understanding. These will be very useful ways to resolve conflicts and contradictions.

In addition, family parent-child classes can also be held at home from time to time to learn excellent parenting methods and concepts together, so that every adult can see their own shortcomings in this meaningful class, and see the extremely bad negative results that such old-fashioned parenting methods will bring to children, especially for the elderly who like to spoil their children. It is more convincing and positive to let the other party properly see the scientific view of parenting than to directly point out the shortcomings of the elderly and their wives.

Negotiate a settlement. Because only by negotiating together will there be no conflicts in the future, so they should be resolved through negotiation.

Communicate patiently. Whether it is parents, the elderly, or different education methods, it is the common goal of family members to let children grow up healthily. With such a goal, Yu Xuanshi and the old man spoke well, showed true feelings, and reasoned with respect.

I'm sure the old man won't say anything. And it can better cooperate with us to do a good job in parenting.

I think it's time to communicate with your family and come up with a parenting method that satisfies both parties.

It is recommended to communicate more to solve the problem. The different concepts of parenting are just different personal starting points, and more communication will find other ways to coordinate and solve them.

It is recommended that you and your husband each develop a set of parenting concepts that you agree with, and then discuss the disagreements together and try to reach a consensus. In fact, there are differences in the parenting concepts of fathers and mothers, as long as they are all for the good of their children and run in with each other.

Then you have to communicate with your husband well, and the general direction must be consistent with the husband and wife, otherwise if you have children but are not well educated, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife. It is best to read more parenting books with your husband, or go to relevant institutions to study.