How parents communicate with their first year of high school

I am a high school 2 student, and I stayed for half a year due to some family problems, so I have experienced 2 high school freshmen, can I talk to you about it.

First of all, there must be rebellion, everyone is, and I have had it. This is normal, you don't have to be overly anxious and disgusted, but you should give him free space to let him understand that his parents are following his wishes, but not spoiling.

This period is also the stage when it is easy to fall in love, if your child has this situation, you should not talk about him, it will only make him more rebellious, you can occasionally talk to him about the ideal or something, let him realize what the purpose of the current stage is, and when he matures a little more, he himself will realize that this is not good, it will end, so the key is how you can keep his mind on the right path, instead of restricting his freedom too much, you can combine your own examples, etc., If you are interested, you can talk to me, I have experienced a lot.

It is normal for adolescent boys to be like this, it is very important to communicate well, reduce the element of preaching, and try to help him from the position of a friend; What you need to express is that you care about whether he can live happily or not, and not emphasize the impact of learning. Learning is something that needs to be done throughout life, and cultivating a good character and psychological state is the most important job in adolescence and will benefit you for a lifetime.

There are many changes in the first year of high school, the learning ability is required to improve, and the thinking changes from concrete to abstract, so you have to pay attention to these. In addition, in terms of psychology, parents can read some relevant magazines related to high school students, and may find a good way to communicate.

Mathematics, physics and chemistry should have been learned in junior high school, and if the junior high school grades are still in the past, it means that he has started. I really don't know how to say this.,I shouldn't be interested.,I learned English very well in high school.,But when I went to college, it was a mess.。 The main thing is that there is no interest.

In fact, the child's academic performance is not good, and he is quite stressed, so parents should not put too much pressure on the child, mainly to give him a relaxed environment.

This is because high school is different from junior high school, and the knowledge is better, as long as you study hard and ask more questions.

The parent-child communication between parents and children should pay attention to the communication time and communication methods, so how to communicate with the children in the first year of high school? You may wish to take a look at the relevant content I pushed to communicate with the children in the first year of high school, I hope it will help you!

1. Care more about children

For high school families, it is often because parents do not pay attention to it in the morning, and the real point of concern is the first year of high school, parents hope that through a year, the time to solve the problems of their children in the past few years is too tight, and they are too eager for quick success, and they are anxious to speak sharply, many times parents and students do not communicate with each other, and the result is naturally tragic - students have obvious flaws in their personalities, and the distance between parents and students is getting farther and farther away.

2. Transform from a leader to a guide

Students are not employees or subordinates, and parents communicate with students with the attitude of talking to employees, most of the cases are ineffective, and students have not yet been exposed to society, and sometimes they cannot understand. The motivational drive between students and parents is not money or status. To correctly express the square bending style, we can give the following examples.

a. When you want to help students, Tong Ju is bored:

You should go. You have to do what I say.

Is there anything you need from me? Can you talk to me?

b. When students are going out for solo activities:

What time do you get home? Who to go to? Do what? Go studying?

c. When a student expresses a negative (e.g. I don't want to.)

I'm all for your good, I'm all for you.

It's good that you do this, you have your own ideas, but don't forget to learn, in addition I think. Maybe that's good, don't you think?

3. Respond more to encouragement than to blame and command

China's various resources are uneven, such as educational resources, job opportunities, etc., so many Chinese families have very little time for parents and students to spend together, and students often adopt a residential lifestyle. In this mode, the formation of children's worldview values may be different from their parents, and there will be differences in behavior patterns, at this time, parents need to do not let students perform one thing according to their own thinking mode, but encourage students to do the right thing, cultivate their own way of doing things.

In response to the fact that students hold student council positions in high school, the results of the general survey show that most of the parents who choose the option of delaying learning and having no substantive role have not had a similar experience in high school or college; Parents who choose to support their children and have a helpful option for future work have served in the student council.

From the point of view of this incident itself, it is a very good thing to exercise students' social communication skills and language skills. But on the other hand, it does take up students' time (about 3%-5%). When communicating with students, parents should first consider whether they have a correct understanding of such issues, and then guide students and help them understand.