Second marriage I married a gambler in debt and now I am pregnant, what should I do

Here are a few ways you can do it.

Divorce him. If he doesn't agree, then you have to get a divorce and you can take it to court, so the judge will definitely defend your rights. After all, it is a democratic society, and women also have a certain degree of dignity.

Knock the child out. If you don't have children, you won't have a burden, so things will be easier to manage, and you can choose to stay with him or you can choose to divorce. After the divorce, you can be a strong woman and work hard to make money, and no longer think about emotional matters until you meet true love again.

You can talk to him about it. If he doesn't reform and give up gambling, you divorce him and get rid of the child. Live a life on your own.

If he agrees to live well with you, then you will have the baby. Then the ordinary life pays off all the gambling debts.

When you have a problem, be sure to stay calm or discuss it with others. Women must be happy, not compromised. If it doesn't work, get a divorce.

I advise you to get rid of the child, because he won't change, a person like him who is addicted to gambling, you can only pay off the debt with him with him, even after giving birth to a child, the living conditions will not be good, you can only let the child suffer with you.

Hello dear! The choice of a girl's marriage is very important, talk to your husband about whether you can have a stable life, say what kind of life you are looking forward to, think about it, what kind of life you really want!

Knock out, divorce. This is the best, and if you keep going, you will lose to other men.

Pornography, gambling and drugs are not allowed. So it is advisable that you leave this person as early as possible. If you don't have feelings for him, don't have this child.

Beat and decisively divorce, don't trust gamblers.

In this case, divorce is the best option. Children should not be born either.

How old are you and how old is your belly? Find a responsible person for divorce.

I think it's all crazy, red-eyed madmen, it's terrible. I don't want to remarry.

One is divorce, but if there is a divorce, the child will be born without a father. Unless you're ready to face this outcome. Second, if you still love him very much, then you can choose to help him quit gambling, you can seek professional people, with effective methods, I hope to help you.

It is recommended that you divorce, two people are together for a lifetime

It's already a second marriage, and they should be more mature, why are you still so bad at picking people, and you still pick a gambler.

I don't think it's a big deal to be in debt, it's the gambler. Because as long as people gamble, no matter how much property they have, they will be wiped out, and gambling is very harmful. So you have to inform the gambler that you are pregnant and let him know that he is about to become a father.

This will make him feel more pressure, and his sense of responsibility and pressure for his family will be stronger. At this time, ask him to stop gambling, publicize the harm of gambling, and show him how many wives have broken up because of gambling. Tell him well, say that it doesn't matter if you are in debt, you will work hard with him to repay it, as long as you don't gamble anymore and work hard to take care of your family together.

I believe that if he is not bad in nature, he must be reasonable. If he agrees, you will take advantage of the victory and pursue him, and have a three-chapter covenant with him. If you are caught gambling again, what will be the punishment?

If the setting is serious, you can directly say that if you gamble again, you will divorce and kill the child. I believe that in the face of such pressure, he may have more concerns.

If he still gambles after doing this, then this person must be hopeless. If you can leave early, he will leave early.

First of all, you first think about how much gambling debt your current husband has, if you can't afford it, or your life will become very bad in the future, then you need to consider getting rid of the child, or choose not to tell your husband, let yourself have the courage to raise the child to grow up, when you feel that you can escape from the marriage with zero debt, you can consider your current situation, if you are younger, you may not be able to have children in the future, you need to give birth to the child, But your husband may not have the ability to raise the child, and you need to be prepared to raise the child on your own.

Secondly, if you want to have a showdown with your husband, you can also tentatively tell him the news of pregnancy to see what your husband's reaction looks like, if your husband is more surprised or repulsed, then you have more reason to ask for a child or divorce, and if your husband wants you to give birth, you must tell the other party about the debt about the child.

In fact, I feel that the average man, if you are pregnant, he may care more about the family.

Then it's about being self-motivated, not obsessed with gambling.

But if he is still unrepentant, even if you are pregnant, I think you should divorce him, after all, there is no hope for you to be with such a person.

You can't see the future of the two of you at all, especially if you give birth to a child in the future, then the child is in this environment, which will have a great impact on his life, and it is also an irresponsible behavior for the child.

Even if it's a second marriage, it's nothing, it's a big deal to get married again after a divorce, even if you have a child, it is possible to get married.

But if you really are, have been wasting your youth in this man's life, then your future can be said to be hopeless.

So I think the most important thing for you is to talk to your husband first, that is, to make him a little self-motivated and make some changes.

If he is willing to change, the two of you can move on, and if you don't, then I think it's better to divorce.

If you don't beat the child now and leave this man, then you are also a gambler, are you betting on whether this person will change, whether he will work hard, whether he will be a good father?

Don't you know the casino rule of nine out of ten bets? Isn't that how your current husband owes debts?

Think about it from the neck up, if you stay here and get pregnant and give birth to this child, then you will be connected with this person for the rest of your life.

The money you worked so hard to earn was used to pay off your debts, and in other words, it's not scary, people who demand gambling debts can do anything.

The child you give birth to with all your might, there is no good example of the father since childhood, the psychology itself will be missing, and the life is embarrassing, and you can't provide the child with a good growth environment, so it is better not to give birth to it.

You may feel that after a failure in marriage, this time it will not be said. In fact, it doesn't matter, the character who dares to love and hate will be happy, and it's not that you haven't been divorced, and then you will be familiar with the road, hurry up, immediately beat this child, leave this quagmire, don't regret it when you can't get out if you want to come out.

Although it is said that it is better to destroy ten temples than to destroy one marriage. But I still advise you to get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible.

However, you are pregnant now, and if he still ignores you and goes to gamble, then quickly get rid of the child and divorce and start over. Don't feel like you've been divorced. Everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness.

Take 10,000 steps back and say, if you can accept that you have been divorced, you will naturally accept that you have been divorced twice, and if you can't accept your divorce, what is the difference between you divorced once or twice?

So, if you still think that there is a real relationship between you, then look at how he behaved during your divorce, if there is a hint of him wanting to continue gambling, break up, and beat the child if he can. Because giving birth to a child is not only a burden for you, but for the child, it is better not to give birth if you can't give him a good environment.

The first question that comes to my mind is: why would you want to marry a gambler? Or is it that you already knew that the other person was a gambler before you got married, and then you insisted on marrying him?

If that's the case, I'm really worried about your IQ.

Many times, life's troubles and failures are self-inflicted, and this is vividly reflected in you. Knowing that the other party has bad habits, you still have to marry someone else, and get pregnant with someone else's child, and then ask yourself what to do, this practice is really despicable.

Taste the bitter fruit you have sown.

If you say that you are married for the second time, so you can only find someone to pay attention to, then this is a typical small-scale peasant thinking. Now the phenomenon of second marriage is very common, and it is rare that you need to always put yourself in the right position, measure happiness and marriage by consistent standards, and never think that a woman in second marriage is cheap and just finds someone to marry.

When others don't look down on you, you look down on yourself first, what a terrible and sad thing.

If you were a normal person before you married him, and after you got married, you became unprofessional and addicted to gambling, then I advise you to stay away from him as soon as possible.

You've already been hurt by your ex-husband once, do you want to be hurt by your current husband again? Wouldn't that be too irresponsible to yourself?

We all know that gambling is very difficult to quit, and you should not have illusions about your child in the hope that one day his prodigal son will come back. He is gambling on money, you are betting on the happiness of yourself and your children, it is clear which is more important, and it is better not to take such a big risk.

Divorce knocks out the children.

Keep sober and don't be confused, divorce is your best choice, you continue to live with him, there are many hard days waiting for you in the future, you have to pay off gambling debts with him, gambling is very addictive like drugs, he will not give up gambling for you and your children.

You give birth to a child, the child is your burden, you can't bear to let the child be born without a father, you want to start a family with a child is difficult, if you don't have children, you can still get married, form a new family, and give birth to a child that belongs to your husband and wife.

When you give birth to a child, gamblers will often come to you on the grounds of having a child, disturb your life, ask you to pay back the money, and even tell those who want to pay your home address, and constantly harass you.

The child needs a complete home, since he cannot be given a complete home, don't let him come to this world to suffer, in the next life he will meet parents who love him very much.

In your case, I advise you to divorce as soon as possible, a debtor gambler after learning that you are pregnant, do not change, this kind of person is hopeless. If you think that you have a child and make do with him, you will be the one who will suffer in the future. There is nothing to be ashamed of being a single mother, at least you have to give your child a healthy living environment.

Allowing your child to grow up in this smoky miasma can ruin your child.

And even if you're with him, he's still in debt, and he's not ready to make progress. You still have children to support, how can such a father raise your children. You still have to pay off the debt with him, in case the debt collector keeps asking you for money, and you can't find your gambler husband, and you are pregnant, those who ask for money will not want it because you are pregnant.

If it hurts you and your child, it will be more than worth the loss.

Divorced, find a job on your own, support your own children, and would rather let your children have no father than let an unenterprising gambler be a father. It is possible that you will also meet someone who truly loves you and will accompany you to raise your children.

My name is Xia Li (pseudonym) I am 29 years old, I had an unhappy marriage, my ex-husband found a woman outside, and he owed money, and he didn't go home yet, and we divorced. There is a daughter who is currently being brought by her ex-husband and his family. (Because the ex-husband's house was demolished, the daughter could get a house).

I've known my current husband for a year, and he's also divorced because he gambled before, and he has a daughter, and his parents are taking him. After getting to know me, he worked hard to correct it, and so far he has behaved very well, he has not gambled again, and the gambling debts are being repaid little by little, and there are about 300,000 left, of course, he did not tell his parents about this part of the debt.

Even he himself thinks how could I be willing to marry him. All I can say is that he doesn't feel the same way for me, and when I was with my ex-husband, I didn't even feel this way, I just had a feeling of identifying with him.

We just got our licenses last month, and now I'm pregnant, and suddenly I'm very confused, and I don't know if I should give birth to this baby. Here are a few of my concerns:

1. I feel sorry for my daughter if I have another one, although she follows her ex-husband, I go to see her every week. If there is another child who lives with me, I am afraid that I will give her less love.

Second, we are under a lot of financial pressure at present, we have just bought a house, and some of his debts, if we have a child, the expenses are bound to be greater.

3. When his daughter reaches the age of studying, it is also the time when she needs money.

Fourth, we just got married, I'm afraid that I will give birth to this child, what if he goes to gamble again? I've had a failed marriage and don't want my kids to be single parents anymore.

Fifth, although my husband is currently good to me, he doesn't care much about his daughter, his parents are taking care of it, and I'm afraid that when I am born, I will take care of it alone.

My husband repeatedly promised me that he would treat me and the child well, and having a child of our own will be good for our relationship and the remarried family, and I also understand how important it is for the two couples to have a child, but I am really hesitant, after all, after birth, I will be responsible for him for a lifetime.

Here's what netizens said:

Wanwan Little Monster: I think I still have to give birth. The child already has it, it is a life, and if you don't give birth, you will regret it for a lifetime.

Grilled squid with mushrooms: Eliminate any concerns and ask yourself if you want to have another child.

Vitamin: Since you have said that you have identified with your husband, and your husband has also said that it is good for both parties to have their own children, then how to be good for both parties, but before that, you still have to ask yourself, is the marriage of two people worth having at this point in time? Isn't it possible to slow down a little longer?

Of course, it's also a small life, it still depends on your own wishes, and I still want to bless you

Spicy Little Tofu: If you plan to manage this marriage well, I think it can be born, children are fate, pay more attention to life, in case your husband again? Debts during marriage seem to be paid jointly, so be careful.