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Then we can only tolerate them as much as possible, give them more understanding, accommodate them more, and don't compete with them.
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I think it's very important that we get along harmoniously and don't communicate too much as much as possible, so I think it's natural that there won't be so many conflicts, and that everyone understands each other when there are conflicts, which I think is also very important.
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Try to endure it if you can, because they live together for a short time, after all, they are also the man's parents, and if you can tolerate it, you and the man may have to live a lifetime.
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If you live with them for a short period of time, I think you should accept them and treat them well, and be more tolerant and understanding of them.
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Try not to accept this situation, and you still have to have a full understanding before you can live together.
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If you really don't want to live with the elderly, you can discuss with your husband first, and after the two people agree on it, your husband will tell your parents-in-law and mother-in-law, which can reduce conflicts. Most young people don't like to live with the elderly after marriage, because the living habits of the elderly are different from those of young people, and young people have their own way of life. Most of the relationship we see between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is due to different concepts, and living separately after marriage can effectively avoid this contradiction, since you don't like to be with the elderly, you can communicate with the elderly, but the daughter-in-law directly said that the old man may misunderstand, and the best way is to communicate with the old man's son.
If the elderly do not have a temporary place to live, they can help the elderly solve it, and they can't ignore the elderly if they don't live together.
If your husband disagrees with you, it may cause internal conflicts and affect the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, you should try to discuss this matter with your husband first, find a way to convince your husband, and then have the next action.
After convincing the husband, the matter is much simpler, and the husband can directly communicate with his parents. If the daughter-in-law talks about this, the old man will think that the daughter-in-law dislikes them, and if it is the son, he will say it, and the old man will not think much about it even if he is uncomfortable. And pushing the matter to the husband himself is one less thing to worry about, as long as he can solve it well, it doesn't matter what the way is.
If the elderly have no place to live, we must solve the problem of accommodation for the elderly, as a daughter-in-law, you can not live with the elderly, but you can't let the elderly have no place to live. If it is only temporary, you can rent a house for the elderly, and there is no problem to live for a few months, if it is long-term, you should consider the problem of buying a house for the elderly.
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Personally, I think that if you want to refuse, then you can tell the man's parents that the house is too small and it is very inconvenient for too many people to live together.
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You can talk to your boyfriend, I hate it, and I can choose to rent a house for his parents outside.
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Tell the other person what you think directly, so that there will be no difficulty, and if there is anything to say.
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You can talk to them directly about some of your concerns, and they may understand some of your thoughts and make the right choice.
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If the man's parents want to live together, and he and the man are not married, I think there is no need to get too close to the man's parents, so it is also necessary to keep a distance, so if you are renting a house, you can also communicate with the man, so that his parents can live in a hotel, if it is the woman's own house, you can also completely refuse the man's parents to live with you, because after all, the two people are still not married, so it is very inappropriate to live together.
1. Clearly inform the man that he does not agree.
When encountering this kind of thing, we also have to make a decision, and we must clearly tell our boyfriend that we don't agree, if your boyfriend also has a big opinion on your statement, then the two people are not suitable to be together.
Second, you can also communicate with the man.
When encountering this kind of thing, you still have to communicate with your boyfriend, tell your boyfriend that you don't want to live with his parents, and then look at your boyfriend's attitude.
3. If two people get married, there is nothing.
I think it's okay if two people are married, and then the man's parents want to live here for a while, because this is also respecting the other person's parents.
So in life, such things also depend on their own thoughts, and if you really don't want to live with each other's parents, you can also bring it up to the other party. If the two people are already married, the other party's parents are also their own parents, so it doesn't matter if they come to live for a while, as long as they don't live for a long time.
So for many young people now, they also don't like to live with older people, because living together like this, there are a lot of contradictions, and when two people are not together, it is also very good, so for young people, it is not recommended to live with older people, each has their own life, which is very good.
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Then he should agree, because this is also considered to be respectful of his parents.
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I think the best thing to do is to live with them, get used to them in advance, and it will be easier to get along after getting married.
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It should be warmly welcomed, because the man's parents are elders, and if they are good to them, they will be happier in the future.
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With the advancement of rural urbanization and the continuous development of commercial housing, it is becoming more and more common for two generations to live in one room, and the cost of living separately is much higher.
The weather is a barometer of mood every day.
However, I believe that many young people do not want to live with the elderly, saying that there is a generation gap in the vertical tassel. But with children, working women are bound to work together to take care of the children, so it is much more convenient to live together. Convenience is convenient, but everyone knows that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been difficult to reconcile, mainly because of different positions, and the mother-in-law can not really regard the daughter-in-law who has just entered the house as her own child, what about the daughter-in-law:
At home, free and capricious, accustomed to not fitting in the new family.
The sunset is infinitely good, but unfortunately it is close to dusk.
Coupled with the differences in childcare, when there are many contradictions, it is difficult to have the best of both worlds, especially men, who are caught between their wives and mothers. After a long time, a man's patience will gradually wear out, and the balance will fall to his parents, and after 30 years, the balance will fall to his wife, why do you say that? This is both a sociology and an economics, because at this time, the man's interest community is the wife, and the marriage has not been stabilized before, and the interest community is the mother, I don't know if you have resonance.
What kind of mood to see what colors of the world.
On the other hand, the old people think traditionally, everything is the first choice to save water, save dirty water and reuse it, paper products can be saved, eat overnight dishes, repeatedly hot and hot, buy more and are reluctant to throw away, young people look tired, although it is just some trivial things, quarrels will become big things, and some may become the fuse of divorce.
There is also an extraordinary beauty in dusk.
So whether to live together with two generations, young people generally choose to deny, elders should also want to be enlightened, for children to help as much as possible, can not feel that not want to live together is unfilial, in fact, most of the life has to carry their own, life can not take care of themselves, children will not stand by, unpleasant but become a rival, can not draw. Although the juniors live under great pressure, they must also know how to be grateful, first the old people are worried and worried, and then the old people are happy.
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In the past, after marriage, they had to live with their parents and live together. Nowadays, with the change of people's attitudes, there are many people who no longer live with their parents after marriage. For me, it's perfectly acceptable for me to live with my parents after I get married, but I want to keep a certain distance from my parents in my life.
The reason why this is so is that living with your parents after marriage allows you to take better care of your parents. Differences in living habits and attitudes make it difficult to live with your parents after marriage. and the three reasons why maintaining a moderate distance from one's parents after marriage is most conducive to maintaining a harmonious relationship.
1. It is the obligation of children to live with their parents after marriage, so that they can take better care of their parents.
It is the duty of children to support their parents, and after marriage, children must take care of their parents in their lives. Let them live happily and happily. And the way of living with your parents is obviously the most conducive to taking care of your parents.
Therefore, I can fully accept the lifestyle of living with my parents after marriage.
2. Living with parents after marriage may cause conflicts due to differences in living habits and concepts.
After getting married, they live with their parents, the family is happy, and the children can take better care of their parents. It all seems perfect, but there are problems, specifically, there are very big differences between parents and children in terms of habits and attitudes, and these differences can lead to the time when both parties live together. There may be conflicts between each other because of some specific problems, and such a state is obviously not conducive to the emotional harmony between family members.
More appropriate measures are therefore needed.
3. When you get married, keeping a certain distance from your parents is the most beneficial to the harmony of your relationship.
While I am completely comfortable living with my parents, I think the best way to do this is to live at a distance from my parents. Specifically, you and your parents can live on different floors or in different units of the same building. In this way, the lives of both parties can maintain a relatively independent space, and at the same time, when there is something, they can also rush over in the shortest time, so I think this lifestyle should be the best choice between myself and my parents after marriage.
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It is acceptable to live with your parents after getting married, especially if you live in the same place with your parents, and it is much better to live with your parents in a house big enough. It is possible to take care of each other, parents can help with the children, etc. However, young people now have a different perspective on life than their parents, and it is better to live separately from their parents when they do not have children, and each has its own living space.
Extend. If contemporary young people still live with their parents after marriage, there will be some pros and cons, young people live with their parents, so they don't have to let young people do laundry, cooking, and housework. Most of these things are done by the elderly, but in fact, there will still be great disadvantages with the elderly, because the two generations are prone to conflicts in the process of getting along together, especially the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
There will be you who don't get used to me, I can't get used to your behavior, although there are many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who get along very well on the surface, but in fact, they will always dislike some of each other's behaviors behind the scenes.
For some contemporary women when they are considering marriage, they will first ask the man for a house, and the woman will ask for a house in order to be able to live separately from the elderly. No young person wants to get married and continue to live with an old man. Although the elderly can help young people share some housework and take care of their children, it can be felt that young people nowadays pay special attention to the way they educate their children.
I don't want children and the elderly to spend too long together, after all, the elderly will have the problem of doting on their children.
And young people are also to reduce the conflict with their mother-in-law, living separately will be of great benefit to both people, young people are used to sleeping until 10 o'clock in the morning every day when they are not at work, and then get up to eat. But if you are with your parents-in-law, your parents-in-law will shout at the young people to get up and have breakfast every morning when it is six or seven o'clock. Because after breakfast, the mother-in-law still needs to do some other housework at home, as long as the young people do not eat, there will always be a lot of leftovers in the house.
The elderly are more disgusted, the young people often can't sleep, and the young people feel that they finally have time to take a vacation, so they should take a little more rest. There will be disputes with each other over many trivial things, and many young people would rather go to rent a house outside than stay with the elderly. And for the young couple, they should have their own time alone.
Each family's situation is different, and it is still necessary to treat them differently.
Brothers and sisters working together should live separately, even if they live together, they should live in separate rooms. Although they are brothers and sisters, there are differences between men and women, and sometimes it will be inconvenient.
Personally, I think that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not suitable for living together for a long time; If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, they need to pay attention to their words and deeds at all times, and they must also show due respect to their mother-in-law.
If you live with your mother-in-law, I think you can bear it, after all, there will be a certain generation gap between people in the two generations, which is a normal thing, and I guess there will be, so if you feel unhappy, then take a look at whether you can bear it or not, just reason with him, right? If not, forget it.
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