What does real married life look like? Could it be the grave of love?

I don't know when people were willing to say that marriage is the grave of love, but in fact, real married life is not as pessimistic as we think。The real husband and wife life is full of joy, full of fun, full of mutual care and full of fireworks in the world I still can't understand, the grave of love is compared to marriage, that is because you don't know how to manage marriage, if you know how to respect your partner, know how to care for your partner, know how to listen to your partner's grievances, then your marriage is not only not the grave of love, but the sublimation of love.

There are many people who are willing to attribute their marital failure to the fact that marriage is the grave of love, which I think is a sign of extreme incompetence, and I think that marriage is not the grave of love. I think that if you can manage your marriage well, then your married life will be the beginning of a happy life, and an unhappy marriage is because two people cannot be able to be of one heart and one mind.

A happy marriage is when two people know how to respect each other's feelings, respect each other's choices, respect each other's living habits, and conduct standards. People who can say that marriage is the grave of love, his married life must be unhappy, so he will say such pessimistic words, there are many couples around us who live very happily, there are many couples who have lived for so many years, and they are still in love with each other, and they will still hold hands to find things to buy groceries, hold hands and go to the sports field to run together, can it only be said that their marriage is unhappy? Could it be that this is their grave?

Happy marriages are similar, unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, don't let the marriage carry the pot of love grave, this is not fair to marriage, is the married life of our parents' generation really like a grave? If the life of our parents' generation is really like a grave, how can we be able to treat others like a normal person? I don't deny that in life, in reality, there are many marriages that are indeed like graves, and husbands and wives are like a couple of living dead.

But we can't erase the happiness of marriage just because there are all kinds of existence, and we can't erase the most basic fact that a loving person can get a happy life in marriage! So don't say everything too absolutely. This is unfair to love, this is unfair to marriage, and it is also unfair to young people, middle-aged people and the elderly who are trying to manage their marriages, and the real meaning of marriage is to make two people feel happier and happier living together than living alone.

The real life of husband and wife is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, full of fireworks, it will not be the grave of love, but it will become more and more dull.

I think the real life of a couple is actually very bland. It is too exaggerated to say that it is the grave of love, you must know that many people do not necessarily have love when they get married.

It is said that marriage is a grave, but those who have not experienced it just don't believe it. Of course, there are also people who still seem to be in love for the first time after many years, and they can also walk hand in hand in old age.

The real life of husband and wife is to live and live as relatives, and they support each other and rely on each other, that is, they are the grave and the tomb is also a harbor for each other's warmth.

Not necessarily, if both of them have the heart to tolerate each other, do not quarrel after marriage, deal with things calmly, and the days will be happier and happier.

01 Everyone has a desire for love, and the ultimate purpose of love is to find someone who can give them a happy marriage. Getting married is not as simple as falling in love, and if you want to get married, you have to consider both the feelings of two people and whether they are suitable or not. You can't ignore the happiness in front of you because of the future, and marriage is related to the rest of your life.

There are great differences in attitudes towards marriage, and it is often said that "marriage is the grave of love, and after marriage, it is necessary to prevent oneself from moving one's own grave and to prevent others from robbing the grave." Therefore, many people are afraid of getting married, worried about being unhappy after marriage; But there are also people who believe that marriage is the continuation of unbridled love and the beginning of a happy life.

02 In fact, no matter what others think of marriage, it has nothing to do with your marriage, just like the truth of "pony crossing the river", marriage needs to be experienced by yourself to understand. Of course, you can learn from the experience and lessons of others, which will allow you to avoid detours. When the relationship between two people reaches the consummation, it is natural that there will be plans to get married.

However, there are many factors to consider when getting married, and you can't blindly choose to get married on impulse. If you don't want your marriage to become a "grave of love", you must consider these issues in advance to avoid marital misfortune. Considering the personality factors of two people, the relationship needs to be run-in before two people start to fall in love, they will naturally feel that each other is good at everything, and they will have the idea of wanting to be together.

Especially sometimes what he does for you will move you, and you will regard him as your ideal partner as soon as your brain is hot. The first requirement of the relationship is that each other's personalities are suitable, and if the personalities don't get along, he may tolerate you at first, but after a long time, his true attitude will be exposed. Your married life is prone to conflicts and quarrels, and it is difficult to maintain the sweetness of your relationship.

Whether you have common interests or hobbies, and the topic of getting married is not a simple matter, you must think about your future. The days of life are very long, and if there is no topic to talk about, the two people will seem very estranged, and the relationship will become weaker and weaker, and if there is a distance in the heart, the marriage should end. With someone who has the same hobbies as you, you can do things you like together, and you can talk together, even if two people sit there quietly, you won't feel embarrassed and can get along happily.

Marriage is the grave of love, because in marriage, because of the difference in personality or point of view of doing things, there will always be hail conflicts, which will escalate and intensify and destroy the relationship between husband and wife. Marriage is a happy life, and the reason for the quarrel is that in marriage, both parties can get along with each other, understand each other, communicate with each other, and achieve love as gentle as water, and happiness and love are stronger, which is completely a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.

It depends on how you define love. If the love referred to refers to the sweet heartbeat of the first love, the longing of the love, then, when it comes to the marriage stage, this enthusiasm must have slowly faded, and the said love has been replaced by another feeling, which is not so strong, but it is a kind of happiness that lasts for a long time.

The end of the old love, doesn't it have to be a piercing word like "grave", can't it be called "sublimation"? From one state to another.

Therefore, I think it should be said: marriage is the sublimation of love and the beginning of a happy life.