I m struggling with whether to get a divorce, what do you think about that?

The first one, everyone pursues the perfect marriage, but there is really no perfect marriage in this world, sweet and romantic, all of them are the first few years of marriage, and the rest are trivial three meals a day and everything is rising, salary and moonlight, children are still disobedient, mother-in-law is still nosy, husband plays games is the wife loves to complain, some couples, they always quarrel, and some hold back the cold war. We eat all cereals, in fact, no one can escape these trivialities, from a distance, it is glamorous, let's look closely, it is full of holes, broken mirrors, although it is difficult to round, but think about it, it does not affect the use of it, this life, it is basically a chicken feather, but it depends on who will clean it.

The second thing is that there is no perfect partner, and it is like there is no perfect self. God is very fair, if he gives you a happy little day, he may not give you a lot of money, and once he gives you a lot of money, he may have to take away the happiness. Those who live apart yearn for reunion, and those who live together yearn for freedom.

Married to an honest person, you hope that she is very interesting, and when you have interest, you hope that she is very single-minded, single-minded, and you want her to earn more money, and you hope that she really earns money. I hope he can accompany me more, how good it is, the pain in marriage is because I can't ask for it, anyway, I don't want anything, and the only way to get rid of marriage is to compromise, in fact, one day you really see through it, you will find that no matter who you live with, in the end you are with your own feelings.

The third, really don't be too confident, say that you will find a second marriage that will be a better woman, especially if you have given birth to a child's second marriage, the value must be discounted, and the same is true for men, if you say that you have not made a fortune, or have any special talents, there is a high probability that you will not find a better condition than the current daughter-in-law, the older the woman, the more realistic she is, and you have points in your heart.

The fourth ha, marriage, is a mirror, let us see our own problems, marriage is also a practice, with the help of our partner to make up for our shortcomings, are we all envious of the gray-haired two at sunset. Old man, their undying love, but don't forget that when they were young, it is very likely that there is no difference from how we feel now.

First of all, I think you still have to think clearly, if you get divorced, will it be good or bad for your children, and will it affect your life in the future? Of course, if an unhappy marriage ends early, it is definitely the best.

I think that when you think about this question, you may have a certain answer in mind, you have developed a skeptical attitude towards this relationship, and now you need someone who can help you really choose. I guess the reason for your hesitation is nothing more than the children, the parents, these factors. If all of this is distracting you, you might as well put aside and think about what you would do without these external factors.

After thinking clearly, in addition to these external factors, list and compare, relatively speaking, which is more important, and you can't let go, if these can be thought out clearly, I guess, you should have a certain answer in your heart.

I think you should do it according to your heart, if you want a divorce, then just divorce, if you have always had such thoughts, life will not be too easy, if you don't want to divorce, then just get along with each other.

Feelings are wonderful things, and some couples will love each other more and more; But some couples will keep arguing until they get divorced. Of course, in real life, most couples' married life is dull and trivial. Because of this, we often say that life is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and plain is true.

In marriage, independent feelings are a symbol of maturity. As a husband and wife, your financial ** is your parents, and your financial backing is your parents; As a husband, you are obedient to your wife, lose your principles, and let her go her own way; As a wife, on the one hand, she did not fulfill her filial piety to her elders, and on the other hand, she did not achieve considerate understanding to her husband.

How can you tell if the relationship between husband and wife has really broken down?

First, we need to look at the foundation of marriage.

Marriage is not only a blend of feelings, but also often has strong social factors, such as whether the basic conditions of both parties, cultural level, family background, etc. are comparable. Although these conditions are not absolute factors in marriage, but an important content that cannot be ignored, often some young men and women because of their youth, the rationality of judging things is relatively weak, if there is a deviation in the foundation of marriage, although the marriage is sworn to the alliance, after marriage, if there is a big difference in the personality of the two parties, and can not tolerate each other, it is likely to lead to the breakdown of the marriage.

Second, it depends on the emotional run-in after marriage.

Post-marital relationship, as husband and wife, mutual concern, loyalty, respect, affection and other conditions during the period of living together are important factors that express and reflect the quality of marriage, and are important aspects of judging the breakdown of feelings. Looking at the relationship after marriage, first of all, we should see whether the husband and wife respect and love each other, care for each other, support and support the parents of both parties, whether they have a sense of responsibility for the family, whether they jointly raise their children and take care of their offspring, discuss things together, and pay attention to democracy and equality in the family. In addition, it is also necessary to comprehensively analyze the ideological quality, life style, personality and habits of the parties and the life of the husband and wife, and grasp the feelings of both parties from the trend of the development of the relationship after marriage, that is, to look at the past, but also based on the present, and to look at the future, so as to better determine whether the relationship between the husband and wife has indeed broken down.

Then you should have a good talk with your husband, I don't know how long you have been married, and you have no children yet, is it not long enough to be married? So how did you get married? Isn't there a love thing?

I don't care about each other, your husband is like this, I really think it's necessary for you to divorce? When the time comes, it will be difficult enough to divorce if you have children.

There are already problems in your marriage, there is a lack of communication between the two people, so they will go further and further, you need to talk to each other well, and if it is still necessary, you must understand and tolerate each other.

Don't think about divorce because of this, having a lover, having children, being together is a very happy thing, just take care of things at home and work, don't worry about your husband's own work, it will be better to teach each other children in the family, so don't be awesome.

Although he is right. After all, he has to solve his own problems, but he has this attitude...A marriage without a desire to communicate and a desire to share will be happy. You can feel unhappy through your words. If it's really going for a long time, you can have a good chat.

Seeing that the foundation of the relationship is not strong, and the communication between the husband and wife is not submissive, should indeed consider what to do in the future?

Your husband is also a wonderful man, and I can't tell from your description that he has a little love for you, I really don't know why you came together in the first place.

You need to have a good talk with each other, and if it is still necessary, you must understand and tolerate each other.

Your heart is already inclined to divorce, and the expression is also your wife's problem, so I suggest that it is better to divorce, Xiaojing will touch your spine and carefully calculate that you communicate in time and solve the problem, and the conflict between your father and her mother is not easy to solve.

Negotiate with the other party, consider the facts, and advise you to leave.

You ask this question, in fact, there is an answer to the psychological model, but you are afraid that you will bear the pressure of divorce morality, so you seek the support of foreign aid, and there is also a trace of the idea of wanting to get a solution in your heart, but as adults, we have to quietly face up to our true thoughts in our hearts, make choices, and bear the consequences.

You first have to deal with these problems with which to consider your own original call paragraph code cause, don't blindly make a conclusion in advance, we have no problem ourselves, and the long-term life is not harmonious, you can burn the circle to choose to chat with them often, don't be impulsive, divorce is not as simple as eating and drinking, there are many things behind, and finally you have to think about the problem of divorce

I think that since I asked like this, if I should be inclined to divorce in my heart, I will choose divorce.

Whether the marriage can be maintained depends on whether the two parties still have feelings.

His laziness and family financial power are the focus of your conflict, but not enough for a divorce. Have you ever wondered how his lack of responsibility for home was caused? Do you know that there is a saying:

A family is an equilateral triangle, and the rupture of one side is caused by resistance caused by the stubbornness of the other.

Think about it, if you quarrel with him, he will run away, don't listen to your nagging, don't listen to the fact that you move out of the old rotten sesame seeds, you must know that there is oppression, there is resistance.

Can you understand it this way, you are a woman with a clear personality and strong principles. With such a personality, you are often prone to put yourself in a passive situation, your original intentions are good, but because your personality is too upright and you don't know how to be flexible, you often get half the effort, or even get no support. For example, in the case of family accounts, it is normal to ask both spouses to share the household expenses - I believe that you are not asking for his salary for the sake of control; But have you listened to your lover's thoughts, arbitrarily thinking that he is selfish, and you categorically refuse the AA system, so that now the household is all your responsibility.

God took a rib from a man and said that a woman should make a man hurt, not annoy him. You have to learn to communicate with your lover in a different way, with the gentleness that a woman is good at and the wisdom that you are good at - you can, don't ask him what he does. You can ask him if he'd like to help you tidy up the coffee table while you're mopping the floor, ask him to hold the hanger while you're drying your clothes, and don't forget to reward him.

You've only been married for 2 years, and you have a lot of days to live and a lot of fun things to go through. Excite him, don't provoke him.

Teach another trick - dress yourself up beautifully, and let the puppets outside meet ghosts! When you buy clothes for yourself, don't forget to bring one to him, and in the same way, buy something for his parents, so that the next time you complain that you have "no pocket money", he will be happy to give it to you.

If it's not a matter of principle, try not to leave, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, not to mention how much energy can people have in this life to toss repeatedly. If you really can't stand it and you don't have children, you can also consider it, after all, there is nothing wrong with pursuing happiness, I wish you happiness!