My mother in law has been living with me for 7 years, and now I don t want to live together anymore,

As a daughter-in-law, honoring your mother-in-law is the most important thing and should be. You and your mother-in-law have been living together for seven years, and it may be that some of the habits of young people are different from those of old people, so there will be a lot of friction between each other, which is also normal. But if you really don't want to live with your mother-in-law, then you should buy her a house, even if it's a little smaller, it doesn't matter, arrange her well, so that the old man has no worries, but you must visit her often, don't let the old man lose the warmth of home and relatives.

Then talk to your mother-in-law, after all, we have lived together for seven years, and it is inconvenient in life.

It may be that her son has become accustomed to relying on her since he was a child, and he has a mother-love complex, you should use practical actions to show kindness and virtuous gentleness in family life, and slowly your husband will definitely be able to transfer the mother-love complex, and the mother-in-law will also be very relieved to offer to go back to her own home.

It may be that your husband thinks that the old man is old, and it is convenient to live together to take care of it. And you've all lived for seven years, and your children are a little older, so why do you have to leave, isn't it good to have old people to help take care of the children.

Even your husband drove away.

Why do you want to separate, if you have a bad personality, this can be run-in.

Oh, don't bother yourself

To be honest, after listening to that, my heart stopped for a while. Nowadays, many sensible old people do not want to live with their wives and children, and they say that it is reasonable to want happiness. Just like her family, that's really a minority.

However, all families have difficult experiences, and the elderly want to live with their children, so they have to think for themselves for fear of loneliness. The increase in the number of people who do not want to live with the elderly after marriage is actually just these reasons, and it has nothing to do with honoring their parents. If there is a contradiction between two ideas and concepts, try to communicate as much as possible.

Because the elderly do not want to be too strong, they can reduce the burden on their parents through an independent portal**. In fact, many young people want to live alone after marriage and do not want to cause trouble to their parents. As a result, if you continue to live with them, your parents will have to cook for them, clean their clothes, buy food, etc., and do chores all day long.

When you're late from work, it's necessary for your parents to worry about that. In short, as long as the parents are under their eyes, they still treat themselves as children.

But after separation, the elderly simply take care of themselves. You don't have to work hard to do household chores. In addition, there is no need to buy groceries and cook on time every day.

Occasionally, I want to go shopping, square dance, and when I get home, I don't have to worry about no one at home. Avoid mother-daughter conflicts and keep the peace with your family (root cause). Especially after the birth of a child, various conflicts may arise between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law.

This is directly related to the unstable family and can even threaten the marriage relationship of the two.

But after living apart, distance can sometimes produce beauty, not living together day by day, but becoming closer. Moreover, there is no need to change each other's habits in order to adapt to this new life. Parents don't have to change decades of cooking and lifestyle habits.

In addition, young people feel satisfied with themselves and do not have to grieve for becoming tolerant.

Because they are different, a lot of conflicts and frictions can be avoided, which will further promote harmony and peace in the family. In this way, young people who live alone will become more comfortable.