My wife wants her second child to take her surname, should I agree?

I think I can agree, in my opinion, it is okay for a child to follow either party's surname, after all, the child is biological, there is nothing wrong with following the woman's surname, how difficult it is for a mother to conceive a child for ten months, and a woman giving birth to a child is really like a ghost door is closed, and the man should follow the woman in all aspects.

Nowadays, many families will have conflicts about the issue of children's surnames, and you should discuss them before marriage. You also have to consult your parents about this, and you can't let there be conflicts in the family, you can agree.

Yes, I think that no matter who your child has and whose surname it is, it is your child, and your wife has also bore you two children, so it is acceptable for this child to take her surname.

I think you should agree, as long as you don't mind, in fact, it doesn't matter who the child's surname is, as long as the two people are happy, I think it's okay to follow whoever the surname.

I think you can agree, as long as you have one child in the family to inherit the family's incense, it doesn't matter if the other child has the wife's surname.

It should be agreed that your wife is an only child, and her family also hopes that someone can inherit the family's business.

I think if you don't feel uncomfortable, you can agree, in fact, the child has the same surname.

I think you should agree, in fact, it doesn't matter whose last name it is, it's all your children.

First, your family doesn't have a royal succession, what's wrong with the child with the woman's surname, isn't it your child with the woman's surname? Why are you afraid that you are old, and your children can only feed their mothers and not you? As long as the child is yours and born healthy and healthy, what does it have to do with the mother's surname?

Second, you must think about it before giving birth, see if the economic conditions allow, if the second child will make you have a financial burden, then it is best not to give birth. Because there are many divorces because of having a second child.

Traditionally, most children are born with their father's surname, but only children account for the majority in society. Now the state supports the birth of a second child, some of the woman's parents hope that the second child can be surnamed the woman's family, in fact, this requirement I think is reasonable, should be supported, in order to show fairness, the man is a good family, can promote the family can be harmonious, friendly, happy. Since the child is husband and wife, he can follow the father's surname, and naturally he can also follow the mother's surname.

Besides, women now can hold up half the sky.

The contribution to the family and society is not inferior to that of men, and most of the contributions to the family are more than men, giving birth to children and letting women go through the ghost gate, raising children and spending more effort than men, for the family, children, work like robots, why can't you let the child follow her surname. And let one of the children follow the mother's surname, so that the husband's love for his wife can be seen, and the relationship between the husband and wife will be happier. Especially if you already have two children, even if you have the idea of "incense", one child is enough.

From this point of view, there should be support for unity. The woman's family will also be grateful to the man's family, and the family will be more harmonious and happy, and the warmth will last forever. If you want a stable and happy family, you must get rid of the ideas of the past, machismo, and authoritarian selfishness.

It's nothing. No matter whose surname the child is, it is also the child of the two of you. As the one-child generation grows up, the problems caused by the lack of children are becoming more and more apparent.

It is a blessing to have more children, think about the word "prosperous people", it is a compliment, right. In fact, the answer is already in your heart. Mr. Kid came down and talked.

Of course, you should agree, after all, the child is common to the two of you, the first child already has your surname, and the second child has his surname is very fair.

I think I should say yes. Who said that the child must have the same surname as the father, and the mother also has the same right to the surname.

should be agreed, because the child was born by her hard work, and the previous child has taken your surname, and this is also okay with her surname, which is also very fair, a child with a person's surname.

Of course you should agree, because your wife is very hard when giving birth, so it should be understood that she wants a second child with her surname.

I think you can say yes, because no matter what your child's last name is, it's still your child, and that won't change, so it's okay to say yes.

No, consider the problem from the child's point of view, because the first child has taken the father's surname, and if the second child takes the mother's surname, it will increase the trouble for the child in the future, and I think why the surname is different between our brothers and sisters, and whether one of them is not biological, will make the two children feel alienated.

should not agree, this is an eternal truth in China, children should follow the man to sex, and the two children have a man's surname and a woman's surname, which is not very good.

You have to respect your wife's ideas, it doesn't matter who the child has or whose surname it is now, in such an open era, don't be so feudal, if the wife wants the child to have her surname, then you can agree.

should be agreed, because it is also very hard for a wife to give birth to a child, and it is not too important for the child to have the father's surname or the mother's surname.

If you don't think it's okay to do this, you can say yes, and these things can be discussed by the two of you.

Of course it should, after all, two people are husband and wife, so everything should be discussed and each other's ideas should be respected.

The topic is actually very common, I will negotiate with my wife, after all, from ancient times to the present, the son follows the father's surname, of course, there will be an example, if the wife has a conflict with me for this, then I think the best solution is: put my wife and my wife's two surnames into the child's name, for example, my surname is Fan, my wife's surname is Hua, then name the child Fanhua.

As a generation born and raised in modern society, self-consciousness awakening.

Names are more of a social identity code, and the focus is no longer on the inheritance of traditional collective consciousness.

The source of our thinking about "surnames" should be on the basis of abandoning the old traditional thinking that imprisons each individual, for our parents who were born in the old era and grew up in the new era.

Seek a balance between old and new ideas.

Instead, as a matter of course and without speculation.

Stepping on new land, holding old flags, and seeking practical interests in the name of tradition. As a man, if I agree to let my child take a girl's surname, there are only two possibilities for me.

The first is that the woman's family is very strong, out of the house, out of the car, out of the dowry, and I, I can't take out the fart, I can only be honest, afraid that people will kick me out, what the woman's family says is what, not to mention the child and the surname, in fact, I can also be regarded as a dog raised by others, only quietly. But well, I won't be a useless person and go to the door to be a son-in-law. Therefore, when choosing a mate, I will always bow my head and marry.

But before getting married, I will try to improve myself.

Second, I'm an orphan and I'm alone in the world. I don't need to face my parents, I don't need to face my relatives and friends, and I don't have to go up the mountain to worship my ancestors during the New Year's Festival. Then it doesn't matter who the child's surname is.

It's a pity, I'm not, the bottom line that the child and my surname are not negotiable, I have to face a lot of people, I want to straighten my waist and don't want to be pointed at by the people around me, I want to be worthy of the ancestors and ancestors to give me a male body, I don't want to go out with my son and explain to curious people why my son's surname is different, so, if you want to die or live, you have to have a child and a woman's surname, then please divorce the marriage first, if the child is awarded to the woman, if you have the ability, you can change the child's surname, then change it.

Hello friend, with the development of society, such a thing as equality between men and women will be accepted, but he may also need a good attitude, rather than a tough demand.

In real life, there is now such a question, that is, "Do husbands want their children to take their wife's surname?" Actually, the answer to this question is yes.

For the husband, he doesn't mind his children, take his wife's surname, in this day and age, men don't mind this, many men can think about it.

For many husbands, what they care about is the relationship between husband and wife, and what they care about is the relationship between the family, so if the wife wants her children to take her surname.

Then the husband will not mind, as long as the wife and the husband talk and the two of them have a good discussion, then this matter can be successful and will not cause a big dispute.

Second, the husband's attitude.

It may have been difficult for a husband to accept his children taking his wife's surname, but in this day and age, many husbands can think of it.

They don't mind this, even if the child takes his wife's surname, then the child is still their own child, and the relationship between the two will not change.

Just like in real life, many of the children of the son-in-law take the wife's surname, and some of the wives are only children, so in many cases, the wife's parents will ask for a child to take their surname.

This is understandable, and many husbands will agree, and it will not cause conflicts because of this, and it will not affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Third, the solution of the husband and wife.

Therefore, after entering the marriage, if the husband and wife have some quarrels because of whose surname the child has, it is not necessary at this time, and the two people can discuss it carefully.

Tell each other what you think, and then find a way that is acceptable to both of you, so that both people can deal with the problem reasonably.

If both husband and wife want the child to take their surname, then the two can have a second child, one of the children will take the father's surname, and the other child will take the mother's surname, and that will be fine.

It will not cause other problems for two people at all, and it will not cause problems in the marriage of two people, which is something that both husband and wife should pay attention to.

In short, in this day and age, husbands don't mind their children taking their wife's surname, and sometimes they don't take it as a big deal at all.

Damaged self-esteem of men: Children with their mother's surname hurt men a lot, men are still face-conscious, if relatives and friends know the child's surname and wife's surname, he will feel discredited and undignified. Men have to bear most of the financial burden of the family, and in the face of financial work pressure and self-esteem damage, men are easily depressed or short-tempered, which is very detrimental to the body and mind.

Affect family harmony and stability: As mentioned in the first point, the child's mother's surname damages the man's self-esteem, which in turn leads to the man's temper or depression, coupled with work pressure, he will have a disgust with his wife after a long time, and he will be full of ambivalence in the face of cute children. Because the son follows his mother's surname, the father of the child resents his wife and parents-in-law, and the resentment is so deep that he can't see it out of sight after a long time.

Women are under great pressure: As mentioned in the second point, the child takes the mother's surname, and the man will be unwilling, and after a long time, the man's self-esteem will still be damaged and his heart will be distorted. No matter what the woman does, the man complains, because the son becomes a thorn in the mother's surname, and seeing his wife and children is tantamount to reminding him of his failure and guilt, and the woman also feels indebted to the man, and she is accommodating and tolerant everywhere, and may encounter all kinds of violence (cold violence) without happiness.

Although modern society pursues equality between men and women, how can it be psychologically completely equal between men and women? Men's earning power is mostly better than women's, and the economic base determines the superstructure, so how can men treat women calmly? For a man, this is a lifelong humiliation, and this humiliation will turn into resentment towards his wife and parents-in-law, and as a wife who is not happy, she will suffer from cold words, and she will be caught between her parents and her husband.

Of course it's acceptable, a woman has gone through a lot of hardships in order to give birth to a man a child, and even her life hangs by a thread in the operating room, and she is completely fighting for her life, so why can't she let her child follow the woman's sex?

In fact, many women are reluctant to have children now, because after giving birth to a child, the child does not say the man's surname, and it takes a lot of hard work to raise the child, and the child's father is the same as being single, as if everything is a woman's and has nothing to do with him. After giving birth, men should play with their mobile phones, watch TV, and socialize, while women lose everything and can only revolve around their children all day long.

Having a child seems to reverse all his fate for a woman, but it has no effect on men, on the contrary, men feel that they are particularly tired from working outside, and they should play with their mobile phones or socialize outside when they get home to relieve stress. But is it really that men are more stressed than women?

Isn't it much more difficult for a woman to sleep all night with her hair that is about to fall out, and I will never be satisfied, and then the pain in my body after giving birth to a child? But how did the woman complain, it was not diligently pulling her own child, this child was of two people, but in the end it became a woman alone.

So what's so bad about having a child and a woman's sex? Why should the hard-earned child follow the man's surname, and the man did not take good care of it, nor did he give the child a complete childhood, let alone tutor the child's homework, so why should he follow the man's surname?

To be fair, a woman's child also has the right to follow womanhood, after all, a woman gives birth to a child, raises a child, and pulls the eldest child with one hand, it is really not easy for a woman.