An unhappy marriage, divorce does not get rid of the pain, can you talk about it?

Sisters, there is a concept that divorce is not the same as getting rid of pain, why? Divorce means that you end your marriage with the other party, and it does not mean that you will be relaxed and happy in the future, which is not the case.

First of all, you are alone with children, and you have to take care of work, then if you say that no one will help you, you will definitely collapse, and you also need to deal with the psychological damage of divorce to children, you still need to recover, and divorce has the identity of children, and will limit your mate selection circle, even if you meet a good opposite sex again, then do you have to go into the ** sense again, and then deal with the problems in this relationship, even if the child is not with you, will the child's torment be more painful? There are many, many more problems that are very real, so divorce cannot solve the essential problem.

Secondly, many people just feel that they can't live this life anymore, and they are divorced in a daze, and they still can't live with another person. Divorce is not terrible, if there is no way to solve the problem of two people, they have the ability and courage to divorce, and they can live better after divorce, but divorce is a good choice, and a big premise for judging whether they want to divorce is whether this marriage problem can be solved through management and hard work. But when many people look at this marriage problem, they often can't see their own problems clearly, and they will only excessively magnify their feelings and attribute all the problems to the other party.

So how to do it? I think we can analyze your problem from three aspects. The first is yourself, the second is the other person, and the third is the relationship between you, the connection between you.

It's not that you simply blame each other, it's the other party who caused the failure of the relationship, when you learn to analyze rationally, you will find that in fact, most of the marital problems are actually possible to be solved, if you don't get along well, it's often that two people can't see what the marital problems are, and they don't know how to manage feelings.

In an unhappy marriage, divorce is not able to free oneself from pain, and the injuries and losses you have suffered will still be deep in your heart, and there is no way to let go.

I think that divorce cannot be shaken off, you must come out of your heart again, you can develop your career, make yourself financially independent, and you must be full of self-confidence.

An unhappy marriage is not caused by one person, but because both people are responsible. Divorce does not ultimately solve the problem, and if you want to completely change this impasse, both people need to learn to introspect. Be aware of the mistakes you have made, and then learn to correct them in your marriage, if both partners can learn to improve and have the courage to accept each other, then you can finally change the unfortunate status quo.

Marriage is painful because the life you are living now is different from the life you lived before, or it is different from what you imagined. Divorce hurts the most children, and if you don't divorce, it's you who suffers the most. Whether to divorce can be considered from your current marriage and living status, if the other party is a problem of domestic violence, gambling and other principles, then there is absolutely zero tolerance for such problems, and divorce must be made.

If the other party is still playing the role of a good father or mother, from the perspective of the child, then you should carefully consider whether the marriage and divorce are worthwhile. First of all, divorce do you want to raise this child? If you are raising this child, will you find another person to raise with you or alone?

If you are raising alone, will you be able to afford it on your own? Will your child grow up healthily with you? The premise of the child's healthy growth is that the child has an environment that can allow him to grow up healthily, and the biggest premise is that the father loves the mother.

There are always more ways than problems, the key to divorce or not lies in your personal thoughts, there is no specific fixed answer to this, it does not mean that you must not divorce if you have children, if you feel that the marriage is not necessary to maintain, you will divorce decisively. But at the same time, you need to bear all the consequences of divorce, whether it is about the words of friends and family, the strange way of looking at them, or the changes in your life that it brings. If you are in deep pain in this marriage and cannot extricate yourself, there is no guarantee that there will be no problems if you endure it for a long time.

In recent years, China's divorce land chain malpractice rate has risen, and in order to alleviate the rising divorce rate in China, China's civil code grass early family case will be introduced"Cooling-off period for divorce"As the name suggests, it requires that when both spouses want to apply for divorce, if one party is unwilling to divorce within 30 days, they can withdraw the divorce application. So this 30 days gives you the space to think and calm down, and think about it before making a decision. Because the only person responsible for your life is yourself.

I will. In life, there are many people who always feel that their imaginary marriage is happy, so when they encounter a little family conflict, they feel that their marriage is unhappy, and they feel that their lover is useless, and they will have the idea of divorce. If at this time, there is an extramarital affair outside, coupled with the sweet words of the other party, and the alliance is made, so I feel that I have found true love and happiness, but some people are disturbed by the fetters of the children, and repeatedly weigh the pros and cons, and finally choose to continue the marriage for the sake of the children.

Poor. But there are still some people who are carried away by the fantasy of a happy marriage, and finally ruthlessly abandon their children and choose to divorce! However, these people he did not actually understand the essence of marriage, what is marriage? Marriage is a couple of men and women living together, facing oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, pots and pans, facing a common livelihood, facing the trivialities and contradictions of life, and ignoring anyone's marriage.

Most divorced people in life eventually have remorse! They found that after the hypothetical marriage, the new marriage is nothing more than that, and sometimes, it is not as good as the original marriage! The successor is not as good as the predecessor, because it is a halfway combination family, if both parties have children in the past, it must be a family where you quarrel and quarrel, and the contradictions are constant, it is simply hell on earth, life is better than death, and what happiness can be said.

But who do you blame? You brought it on yourself! Suffer as much as you want!

Therefore, love is sweet, marriage is bland, you don't think about marriage too ideally, if it is too ideal, you can only go to Ma Yun, Liu Qiangdong, and what other rich tycoons, they will give you food and clothing without worry! But it's also impossible for these people to give you sweet love, why? You should know.

In the world, in general, marriage is still good! Because the original marriage is a seamless whole that is fused by the feelings of the husband, wife, and children; What's yours is mine, and what's mine is yours; The child is biological, your child is also my child, my child is also your child, the family is emotionally integrated, regardless of each other.

But the remarried family is different, between them, yours is yours, mine is mine, your child is your child, my child is my child, there is a gap in the heart, there is a rift in the feelings, and the feelings are difficult to melt, so that a family can never form a seamless and perfect whole with each other! But it can only be a family, people together, half-hearted, divided, each with a ghost! In the end, quarrel for the children, quarrel for their own interests, quarrel for trivial matters, quarrel for each other!

In such a family, you can only be miserable, depressed, depressed! What about happiness!

Once you give up your children for divorce, the children's hatred for you will not be eliminated for life, and even if you make up for this family affection in the future, it will be useless. Because there has been a rift in the blood relationship, it will never be restored! Don't forget!

Yes, I will get a divorce! I want a loving home, not a loveless and unhappy family, marriage, and each other.

Legal analysis: It mainly depends on whether the relationship between the two parties is indeed broken, and there is no possibility of reconciliation. If so, you can consider a divorce.

Where the husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Legal basis: Article 1076 of the Civil Code Where a husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

I think it's a very happy thing for two people to get married. From acquaintance to marriage, the journey between two people must be very difficult. However, when you get married, the marriage may not be as good as we imagined.

I recently saw such a message on the Internet, if you can't maintain a marriage well, will you choose to divorce? If I don't have a good marriage, I won't choose to divorce. Because, this kind of thing is not something you can do right away, you have to adapt to it slowly and learn.

1. How to maintain a marriage?

It is not easy for two people to go from acquaintance to marriage. However, after marriage is not the same as before marriage. Therefore, after getting married, you should maintain your marriage well, so that you can grow old together.

If you want to maintain a good marriage, two people must respect each other and be considerate of each other. Don't keep quarreling when you encounter things, you must learn to communicate, quarreling will make us lose our minds, and it will also make the relationship between two people worse and worse. When you get married, you will face all kinds of pressures.

Therefore, as a woman, you must be considerate of your husband and think about your husband. Also, to honor your parents, you must have a good relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and you must be filial to your mother-in-law. Also, women must live their own wonderful lives and must be financially independent, so that they can have a voice.

However, if you want to maintain a marriage, it is a matter of two people, and two people have to work hard together. <>

After getting married, two people must cherish this relationship, don't always quarrel over some trivial family matters, and also communicate, each other must pay for the family and trust each other. After getting married, the pressure is very high, we must correct each other's mentality, don't compare with each other, and don't worry too much about gains and losses. What do you think?

I will choose to divorce because I feel that I have done my best, and if I really can't maintain it, I think it is better to get rid of it as soon as possible.

Of course I would choose to divorce because if I continued to persevere, both of us would suffer a lot of mental torture.

I will study hard and try different ways to maintain our marriage, after all, marriage is not child's play, so you can't divorce easily.

If I don't maintain a good marriage, I will definitely choose to be cold for a while, I don't divorce for these things, so it is a great loss to both parties and themselves, I think it can be recovered, it is not necessary to say that divorce is the best enchantment.

Divorce will not be an option. If you don't maintain a good marriage, you can try to change yourself and try to adapt to this marriage. It is necessary to pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for maintaining a bad marriage, and if you find the reasons, you will naturally know what to do next.

It's easy to still not choose to divorce, it's not good to maintain, I want to try to maintain it, try to keep this marriage, keep this family.

Hello, if I say it on the road to marriage, there are no principled and substantive problems, there are no particularly big contradictions, and a dull marriage, I will not choose to divorce.

If I didn't have a good marriage, and I was exhausted and very tired, I would have chosen to divorce.

In marriage, two people need to pay and manage together, so when a marriage can't go on, you can only choose divorce to get rid of it.

Yes, marriage has to be managed, if it really can't be operated and can't be maintained, divorce is a rational choice.

Yes. Because you are too tired and your heart hurts, you will become unreasonable, and the best state is to love yourself.

If you don't have a good marriage, and you don't have children, I think you should choose divorce.