There is no overnight feud between father and son, why is the atmosphere in many families not very h

As the saying goes, it is said that husband and wife do not have an overnight feud, in fact, this sentence also applies to the relationship between the father and the child, after all, they are all a family, and the father and son naturally do not have an overnight feud, but even if it is so, there are still many family atmospheres that are not harmonious because there are some problems between the father and the child, so what is the reason for the disharmony of the family atmosphere?

Fathers spend too little time with their childrenFor most children, from the time they remember, fathers have very little time for themselves, and very few fathers will have time to spend with their children every day, after all, the role of fathers in a family is naturally to go out to work, only in this way can they give their children and wives a better life. However, for children, what they need most in childhood is the companyship of their father, and once they are without the company of their father, children will naturally have various views on their father in their hearts, and the father also has no time to spend with the child, so he knows very little about the child, so there will be dislikes between two people in life, these dislikes are not temporary, but accumulated over time, which leads to the reason why many families are not really harmonious.

Another major reason why my father is not good at expressing and communicating isFathers are a relatively silent character in everyday lifeUsually the mother is communicating with the child unilaterally, and the father obviously loves his child very much, but he is ashamed to say things like I love you to the child, so when there are some problems between the father and the child,Many fathers will choose to overwhelm their children with their father's majesty and refuse to communicate with their children. However, some things need to be communicated, even with children, if you are not good at expressing and communicating your emotions, then after a long time, the natural family atmosphere will be disharmonious, and the relationship between father and child will become very tense.

Fathers love face and do not admit mistakes For parents, it is natural to put the elders on the shelf in front of their children, and many parents think that they must maintain the majesty of their elders, so that children can respect themselves, and it is precisely because of this psychological motivationAs a result, many parents never apologize to their children when they do something wrong, but when their children do something wrong, parents can criticize them unscrupulouslyIn the eyes of the child, this behavior is very unfair, after all, the child is young, it is a normal thing to make mistakes often, and parents as an adult, but also as an ordinary person will make mistakes, so when they make mistakes, when they are brave enough to admit to their children, they can make the parent-child relationship harmonious, if they blindly cover their mistakes and do not bow to the child, then the parent-child relationship will become tense.

Because there are many family conflicts, family members will not be humble with each other, their personalities are relatively strong, and they will not realize their mistakes, they may quarrel over a little thing, and the atmosphere is rarely harmonious.

Because today's fathers don't know how to educate their children, they will be estranged from their children after they have conflicts with their children, and they don't know how to deal with them, so many family atmospheres will be particularly tense.

Because in many families, parents and children do not communicate much, resulting in further escalation of conflicts.

First, fathers and sons are not natural enemies, but many parents are new parents and don't know how to be parents, so many parents are not very clear about how to communicate and get along with their children more harmoniously, and how to raise their children scientifically. Just like many parents who go to Tianzi's emotional intelligence parent class to share that they don't want to have disputes or tantrums with their children, but sometimes they really can't think of a better way to deal with their children's conditions. If you know how to get along with your children, your relationship will definitely be closer and more harmonious.

Second, there is a folk saying that father and son are enemies by nature, which means that this is the case, and as a mother, I have to constantly mediate between my son and his father. From a psychological point of view, there is a competitive relationship between a father and a son, so it is said that father and son are enemies. In general, the deeper the contradiction between the father and the son, the deeper the connection between the father and the son, the more similar the father and son, and the greater the father's expectations for the son.

On the other hand, if the same man is not good at words, the communication is not good, and the conflict may be deeper. However, with love, the contradiction can be resolved. Communicate with your father frankly, and you can even have a drink like with other men, and after you wake up, the conflict may be resolved.

First, the mother's intermediate role can also be used, and the mother can build a bridge of communication in the middle to promote father-son communication and alleviate father-son conflicts.