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Because sleeping late in separate beds will have a great impact on the healthy growth of the child, you must know that the child grows the fastest at this stage.

I saw a lecture by Professor Li Meijin on the Internet, the topic of which was "Why children under the age of three must sleep with their mothers". In fact, in real life, many mothers also have such confusion: when the child is old, is it more appropriate to sleep in a separate room with the child?

Ms. Zhou, a neighbor, has a 2-year-old daughter, Lili, and when we met downstairs today, Ms. Zhou talked about the experience of sleeping in a separate room with Lili a week ago. In order to train Lili to sleep independently, Ms. Zhou ignored Lili's sedan orange crying and insisted on letting Lili sleep alone in a room.

After the next day, Lili should have misunderstood, thinking that her mother was going to abandon her, and she stuck to Ms. Zhou almost all day, which was so well-behaved that Ms. Zhou felt sad and guilty. Since then, Ms. Zhou has not dared to sleep in a separate room with her children.

Although sleeping in separate rooms is conducive to cultivating children's independence, if the time of separation is too early or not handled properly, it is likely to leave a lot of damage to the child's young mind.

When the child reaches this age, he can sleep in a separate bed with his parents, and do not advance it.

Professor Li Meijin analyzed that the child stayed in the mother's womb for 10 months, during which time, he has become accustomed to the heartbeat and sound from the mother, and the attachment to the mother will be very strong. Attachment relationships usually develop in the first 3 years of a child's life. Therefore, children should sleep in separate rooms with their parents at least after the age of 3.

1.Parents sleep in separate beds with their children in advance, which can make children feel insecure.

Some parents may come home late because they are busy with work, so in order not to disturb their children's normal rest, and also hope to let their children learn to sleep independently as soon as possible, so they sleep in separate rooms with their children before they are 3 years old.

Even if the child is very young, but the heart is usually very sensitive, parents sleep in separate rooms with children in advance, which will make children have a terrible desire of "Mom and Dad don't want me anymore", over time, it will hurt the child's fragile mind, resulting in a serious lack of children's sense of security and self-confidence, and there will even be suspicion and distrust of others in the future.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents try not to sleep in separate rooms before the child is 3 years old, and if it is really a last resort, they should also spend more time with their children at ordinary times to increase the interaction between parents and children. If the critical period for establishing an attachment relationship is missed, the relationship between the child and the parent becomes more and more alienated.

2.Separate beds and then rooms.

When the child reaches the age of 3, parents can try to sleep in a separate room with the child gradually, but remember not to share the room immediately, which will make the child feel scared and panicked. If possible, try to keep your child in sight of their parents.

For example, keep your child's cot close to an adult's bed and sleep with your child. Even if you want to sleep in separate rooms in the future, don't force your child to get used to it, as your child grows older, you will soon get used to it in a day.

Parents' companionship and love for their children can not only affect their children's character formation, but also have a deep impact on their future lives. Therefore, it is recommended that you do not ask your child to sleep in a separate room with her parents too early.

When the child is 4 years old, he can sleep in a separate bed with his mother, and this can also make the child more independent, and at the same time, it can also enable the child to master some self-care skills in life.

Preferably at the age of six or seven. Qi Mao has a certain understanding of the child's gender high school at this time, and at this time, he should not sleep with his mother, and should go to sleep in separate rooms.

Children and parents sleep in separate beds is a "labor pain" that must be experienced sooner or later, and some children are more clingy to their parents, and it is difficult to coax them when sleeping in separate beds; Some children are more novel about sleeping in separate beds, and they can happily accept and get used to it.

Although parents love their children, most of them understand that sleeping in separate beds is for their children's future life, and even if their children are reluctant, they will ruthlessly let their children adapt to sleeping on their own. But at what age is it appropriate for a child to start "sharing a bed" with his parents? There are also a lot of exquisiteness.

Sister Chen's colleague's child began to sleep separately from his parents at the age of two, according to his colleague, in order to exercise the child, and many children abroad also sleep on their own because the road is unstable. Sister Chen's daughter is only two and a half years old, and when she heard her colleague say this, Sister Chen ruthlessly let her daughter sleep by herself.

After sleeping in separate beds with her daughter for a week, Sister Chen went to the nursery to pick up the child, but was left behind by the teacher, saying that her daughter has not been as lively as she used to be recently, and she always follows the teacher in the nursery, and she is about to become the teacher's little tail.

The teacher learned that after Sister Chen and her daughter slept in separate bedsLet Sister Chen go to see a lecture by Professor Li Meijin, which mentioned that children and parents should sleep in separate beds, at least after the age of 3, and not later than 5 years old, too early to sleep in separate beds.

After Sister Chen returned home, she carefully read the ** recommended by the teacher, and only then did she understand the inappropriateness of letting the child sleep by herself too early. In order to let the child adapt to sleeping on her own, her daughter cried and knocked on the door Sister Chen ignored it, but now I think about it, it really shouldn't be.

1.Insecurity.

Children who go to bed alone too early are prone to uneasiness and fear of the dark, and if they are not eliminated in time, this emotion will follow the child until he grows up. Many adult handimen have to turn on the night light and always check the door lock when they sleep, which stems from the feeling of uneasiness when sleeping when they were young.

2.Personality changes.

When the child's psychological tolerance is not enough to accept that he sleeps alone, sleeping in separate rooms and beds may lead to psychological problems in the child, thus showing timidity, cowardice, fragility and sensitivity, or easy to search for anger early.

3.Not close to parents.

Children sleep separately from their parents too early, and the time spent with their parents to cultivate parent-child relationship is reduced, and after children get used to being alone, it is more abrupt and difficult for children to accept that they want their children to be close to their parents.

1.Separate beds and then rooms.

Sleeping in separate beds in one step is difficult for children to understand in a short period of time, but if it is divided into several steps, the child will not be so resistant. You can add a small bed next to the parents' bed for the child to sleep in, and then go to the child to sleep in a room by himself, and the parents gradually reduce the time they spend sleeping together.

2.Familiarize yourself with the environment.

When many children hear that they are sleeping separately from their parents, they will shake their heads and say no, but in fact, they are afraid and resistant to the unfamiliar environment. Parents can take their children to familiarize themselves with their rooms in advance, and choose furniture and decorate the room with their children, so that children can eliminate the fear of the unknown and naturally not be afraid to sleep by themselves.

Other people's education methods are not necessarily suitable for their children, each child has a unique personality, parents don't copy other people's education methods, their own education according to the characteristics of the child is the most beneficial to the child.

From the early stage of pregnancy, every parent will have endless expectations, hoping that they will have superior IQ and will have greater achievements in the future, create an earth-shattering guessing karma, and supplement a variety of nutrients in their development process.

Xiaomei is the mother of a three-year-old baby, since the child was born, the child is still relatively honest when he sleeps within 100 days, and after 100 days, he either kicks the quilt or flips his head to hit the target, and sleeps very peacefully when he falls asleep, and when he wakes up, the child is at his feet.

It turned out that the child had such dishonest behavior when he was sleeping, which actually showed that his brain was developing very well, which made Xiaomei secretly surprised, and the future baby may be a little doll with a superior IQ.

When a child is sleeping, if these three sleeping positions appear, it means that their brain is running rapidly, and they may have a high IQ in the future.

Sleeping position 1: Moving around, always dishonest.

Children do not have any regular sleeping position, indicating that they are very lively, this type of children, although their behavior is not controlled, but their mobility is very strong, and their IQ is relatively high among children of the same age.

Sleeping position 2: The expression is very rich when sleeping.

Many children are very rich in facial expressions when they sleep, this type of children, their EQ is relatively high, the older they are, the more obvious the effect will be, children with higher EQ will have the ability to accept new things more quickly, which also means that their IQ will be higher than that of ordinary children.

Sleeping position 3: Unable to enter a deep sleep state.

When children are always moving around and dishonest when they are sleeping, it means that they have been in a state of light sleep, have their own thoughts about various things, and even when they are sleeping, their brains have not stopped working, and their IQ can naturally be improved faster.

When the child has the above three sleeping positions, it means that the child's brain is in a high-speed state even in sleep, and the IQ is naturally not bad.

01. Balanced intake of nutrition.

Being dishonest during sleep means that the body is running fast even at night, and it needs enough nutrition as support at this time, so parents should pay attention to the allocation of nutritionally balanced meals, not only as nutrition for brain development, but also to ensure physical development.

02. Adequate rest and proper exercise.

In order for children's IQ to develop rapidly during sleep, they must be given sufficient time to rest, so that their brains can run quickly in the process of resting, and proper exercise can also promote the development of the body and brain, and the improvement of their IQ also has indescribable benefits.

Jen Matthews once said: A person who has received more education than his own intellect is learned. Although it is largely affected by genetic factors, however, in the process of children's growth, there are also many external factors that cannot be ignored.