Do you think you should still be in contact with your ex boyfriend after a breakup?

Updated on psychology 2024-08-11
26 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    If you can afford it, you can keep in touch with it, and you can be friends when you break up. It should be a minority. The key is to see why the breakup and what the mentality of the two is, if the mind is peaceful, you should be able to be friends, if one of them loves the other deeply, and there is still no love, you can also be friends, but the one who has not been in love will be more painful.

    Because remembering the intimacy and words spoken when we were together will become an arrow to hurt ourselves. So if you can't let go, it's best not to contact.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    However, I believe that if I don't like you, I won't get in touch, so my personal advice is not to contact, don't believe that you can be friends after breaking up, because you can't do it at all.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    At the beginning of the breakup, the majority of people were still in contact with their ex. Because there is always one side that still wants to redeem it. With no hope of recovery, this connection becomes less and less, and eventually disappears, and it is no longer connected.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    After the breakup, they live separately, they don't have to deliberately contact, and they can still be friends, either they don't love deeply enough, or they still love after the breakup.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    No, it will be a kind of trouble to break the thread even if it is not good for yourself and him, and it is best to love yourself well.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Personally, I don't think there's any need to get in touch, I want to have a boyfriend in the future, and I definitely don't want you to still be in touch.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Don't get in touch, his attitude may hurt you. Let's forget about each other. Don't let yourself be so humble, start another relationship.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Since you decided to break up at the beginning, you should completely break it off and look forward, which is also responsible for the next term, and don't get entangled.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It shouldn't be, empathy: if your other half is in contact with your ex, it is estimated that you will not feel good, and you will be heart-to-heart.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If you still like it, it is recommended to control yourself from contacting, because the more you contact, the more you want to have him, and it doesn't matter if you don't like it.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Not necessarily. If the other party doesn't let you go, they may come back to you, but if the other party is tired of you, they shouldn't come to you!

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Not necessarily, only those who can't forget their ex will come to find it. If you want to break up, then it is estimated that there will be no more news of him in this life.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    This is not necessarily, if your boyfriend still likes you, he will take the initiative to come to you at that time. He loses faith in you, he won't come to you on his own initiative, and the two of you are completely separated.

  14. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Not necessarily, if the other party also has the intention to break up with you, isn't it just what he wants, he won't look for you again, and he can't wait to get rid of the relationship immediately.

  15. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Not necessarily. It depends on how you feel? If you have a deep relationship, he may come to you after the breakup. If you don't have a good relationship, I guess he won't look for you. Now that you've broken up, don't expect anything from your ex-boyfriend and live well!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    After a breakup, if you don't find an ex-boyfriend, then the guy won't necessarily come to you, the main thing depends on which of you cares more about this relationship.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Hello, your question has been sorted out. Can a guy really like a girl and can't resist looking for her? Two months after the breakup, my ex-boyfriend sent me a small essay that began: "Although I still like you, I won't come to you." "I feel like I'm being down again.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Let's get to know each other.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I wouldn't choose to contact the other person, because there is no need to force the relationship at all, and besides, the relationship shouldn't be so humble, so I don't think I would choose to contact the other party.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I wouldn't choose to contact each other, because the two of us have broken up, and I don't think it's necessary to contact each other, and it will also make the other party look down on me.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you break up with your ex-boyfriend, there is no need to contact again, and if you are still entangled, it will only bring trouble to yourself and your current one, so why bother?

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    If it's just ordinary contact, just talk about it. If the conversation isn't normal, try to break it, otherwise you'll be sad not only now but in the future. It has been repeated over and over again.

    How many chances are you going to give him? If it's too much contact, you should choose to leave! It's understandable that a boyfriend has contact with an ex, but it's unforgivable that there's ambiguity!

    That is, eating from the bowl and looking at the pot, leaving early, maybe you can get rid of your troubles as soon as possible! As for your ex-boyfriend saying that he still loves you, whether he agrees or not, and you choose to leave your current boyfriend, I don't think there is a necessary connection.

    I can't accept my lover's past because I'm looking at each other from a static, fixed perspective. will always nail the other half to the groundless, unwilling to give her a chance to mend her ways. People who stubbornly believe that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change" and do not attach enough importance to intimate relationships will inevitably succumb to deception and lose trust in their partner forever.

    Underestimating the plasticity of lovers is actually a mechanism for self-preservation. It's like being bitten by a snake once, no matter what others say, its fangs have been pulled out, it's gentle and harmless, and you may not dare to reach out again.

    Because I believe it has changed, and if I try to get close again, I risk being hurt again. This time, it will not only be physical pain, but also psychological trauma: "How could I be so stupid to believe in someone with a criminal record?"

    I was doubly saddened because of the wrong choice. To reduce the risk in intimate relationships, we are willing to cling to each other's past and choose not to believe it from the start. I have a bad feeling about my lover's past, and it is also because I unconsciously compare it to his ex, which provokes the insecurity of "I am not good enough, he will not like me".

    Many people have established their own values in social comparisons. In their evaluation system, being better than others has the value of being loved and respected. If you lose in a game, you're nothing.

    It seems that the emotion is to go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and if you see a more watery Chinese cabbage, the lover will not hesitate to give up. But think about it another way: if you met a better suitor, would you not hesitate to abandon your boyfriend?

    Perhaps most people still think about their past feelings, their tacit understanding with their subjects, and the warmth and care he gave them. When we understand that intimacy is not a competition, and the first place must be chosen, the idea of the relationship history of lovers will gradually fade.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    I would choose to break up, because this kind of man is very unreliable, and he has no sense of responsibility, and he is determined not to be together.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    will choose to break up, because the boyfriend is still in contact with his ex, which means that the two are still disconnected, and he can't accept his boyfriend's approach.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    I would choose to break up because I feel that such a boyfriend is not worth paying for myself, and such a boyfriend should stay away from each other.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Personally, I don't think it's necessary to keep in touch with each other after the breakup, because the affection between you no longer exists; Of course, if you are still living in the same circle, then you can just nod your head when you meet, and there is no need to continue to have a deep friendship.

    1. After the relationship ends, it is difficult to become friends again.

    If I have been in a relationship with the other person before, but in the end the two people can't go on, I will choose to stay away from the other person instead of continuing to maintain a friend relationship with the other person, let alone have any contact. Because in my own concept, it is better to forget about the past directly, and there is no need to block people from thinking about the love that could not be fulfilled before. Love is gone, only by saying goodbye to the past can we meet the new life in the future with a better attitude.

    Therefore, I personally believe that if we make our hearts pure, our lives will be better.

    Second, seeing each other easily reminds us of the sad past.

    If we continue to keep in touch with each other, then it is very likely that there will be opportunities for contact and meeting, but as long as we see each other, we often easily remember the time when two people were together in the past, and it is not good for both parties to be entangled like this. Therefore, it is better to soberly cut off contact, rather than continue to break ties after the breakup, otherwise it is likely to affect each other's next new relationship. After all, if we can't really say goodbye to the past, how can we start the next relationship wholeheartedly?

    3. It's easy to forget this person and the lost love.

    If we still have contact with the other party after the breakup, when we learn that the other party has not yet liked a new partner, we may have fantasies in our hearts, thinking that there is still a possibility of getting back together with the other party, so it is easy to waste our years. Therefore, I personally think that if we continue to contact after the breakup, it is easy for us to forget this person and the relationship that should have been buried in our hearts a long time ago. Such people are easily obsessed with the past and cannot extricate themselves, and such a life can easily make us lose the source of happiness.

    Break off contact so that you don't do stupid things that demean you anymore.

    If we don't set a rule for ourselves to "cut off contact" in advance, we are likely to be swayed by remorse and hopeless pessimism, and do some stupid things on the spur of the moment.

    For example, constantly calling, sending messages, begging for forgiveness and reunion from the ex; For example, liking and commenting on every social dynamic of your predecessor forced your predecessor to block you; For example, following your ex, appearing near your ex's home or company, meeting your ex by chance, and begging to return to your ex.

    In an irrational state, you will do such crazy things like a demon, and the more you do it, the more you can't control yourself, making your self-esteem and image even more unbearable and ugly. Therefore, it is necessary to use the method of "severing contact" to pull you back from irrationality and extinguish your heart.

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