Parents are not happy in marriage, how can they have happiness as a child?

Parents are unhappy in marriage, and as their children, marriages are often unhappy, which is the influence of the original family on children that cannot be ignored. My friend Xiao Min grew up living in her parents' endless quarrels and endless cold wars, and she once watched her father pull her mother's hair and bang against the wall; I also watched my desperate mother rush out with a kitchen knife to fight with my father. As a young child, she was so frightened that she curled up in the corner and shivered, she couldn't escape, she didn't dare to stand up, she felt that the world was terrible.

Xiao Min thought that her parents would divorce, but until she finished college and got a job, the family was still as war-torn as ever. Mother said that when she is old, she has been playing and making trouble all her life, and she is used to it. But you, you must marry a good man in the future, don't be like me, don't ...... meBut Xiao Min's first marriage was almost the same as her mother, her husband was short-tempered, he would break the pot and bowl when he didn't agree, and he would add fists and feet, Xiao Min resisted and struggled, and every time she saw the frightened eyes of her young daughter, she seemed to see her childhood self.

Later, Xiaomin divorced and lived with her daughter by herself, she said, the shadow of the original family is too terrible, I can't fix myself for the time being, but at least I can stop the loss in time, escape with my daughter, and give her a relatively peaceful living environment, I don't want my daughter to be like me anymore. Children who grow up in loveless families tend to crave love more, but don't know how to love. They tend to crave more security, but they don't know how to get it. The shadow of childhood is like a dark wound in the years, which will ache faintly when it rains, and often require people to spend their lives repairing.

The marriage of the parents has become a foregone conclusion, and the childhood will not come back, but the child will eventually grow up. When you feel the pain, it begins, as an adult, when you have an awakening awareness about your parents about marriage, and you want to face and try to heal the trauma of the past, this is definitely a good start, and you must seize this opportunity to grow yourself. The unhappiness of one's parents' marriage should never be the only reason for one's own unhappy marriage.

Let go of accusations and complaints, and learn to accept your imperfect parents; Put aside your inferiority complex and timidity, let go and embrace the insecure child in your heart, and learn to reconcile with your parents, with yourself, and with the world. Love and forgiveness will make your days bloom again. If you want to do one thing, the whole world will make way for you.

From now on, try to make yourself happy, after all, only you can call the shots in your life.

If you already feel the unhappiness of your parents' generation, don't let the ideas instilled by your parents influence you.

The meaning of family misfortune in the title should be: When a child's childhood is full of noise and insecurity, will he really be happy when he grows up? <>

First of all, I would like to say that children from unhappy families grow up with the right to happiness and the possibility of happiness. It is impossible to say that it does not interfere with the next generation, but it will definitely not affect the happiness of the next generation. Everyone's concept of happiness is different, so everyone's concept of happiness is also different.

Children with unhappy families may grow up to want to be happy and want to create a happy family. On the other hand, some children are very afraid of creating a family, which is caused by a lack of security. For a child who wants to start a family, his happiness is to maintain his current family and satisfy his happiness at home.

A child who is afraid of getting married will place his happiness on other spiritual or material things, such as friendship, and he will cherish friendship more than others and get happiness from his friends. For example, when I was in high school, my parents often quarreled over money and different personality habits, and the more they quarreled, the more fierce they were, even until two or three o'clock in the morning. At that time, I complained very much that they didn't care about my mood and my studies.

Now that I'm about to graduate from college, I often think about those days, but I still feel happy in my life. Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. When I went to college, I learned that my classmates and roommates also had some family problems, even more troubled than me, but they still had a good laugh.

Children from unhappy families will feel less secure and have more inferiority complex than others. But I still want to say that happiness is created by envying one's own hands.

Second, children are understandably and even justifiably afraid of getting married. This means that children from unhappy families have high standards for marriage and believe that marriage requires a sense of responsibility. This is not only not a form of resistance, but also a manifestation of responsibility.

Like I'm actually very afraid of getting married, but not to the point of resisting. Because I still believe in love, I believe that there is one person among more than a billion people who will protect me, cherish me, and care for me, and at the same time I am waiting for that person to appear. If there really is such a person, I am willing to give my trust in the family again.

There is a high probability that it will not be happy and poor. First of all, because the influence of the original family on the children is very large, and they will also be very resistant to the matter of marriage, because they are afraid that the marriage of their own pants is the same as the marriage of their parents.

Children whose families are not empty and happy will not be very happy when they grow up and break up, and they will also resist getting married, and even many children have certain problems in this aspect. Socks are in deficit.

will be happy, they will grow up to form their own outlook on life and values, they will not be very resistant to marriage, and they also have the right to pursue happiness because they count Qingyan.

If the marriage of the parents is not happy, the child may not feel the kind of loving family in this family, the feeling of selling branches full of love, so he will think that marriage is like this, and some children may become like this, but there will be a part of it that will learn in the society, and then make their own marriage very happy, so this is not absolute.