Some people say that it is best to have only one daughter in an ordinary family , what do you think

In the past, our country's population was swollen, and social development could not meet the needs of so many people, and many problems were prone to arise. Later, the family planning policy was implemented, advocating the only child, and promoting "only one child is good". Many families have obeyed the national policy and have only one child, resulting in most of the post-90s generation being only children.

Now, according to the needs of development, the country has liberalized the two-child policy, and many families want to have a second child to make the family more lively. However, some couples feel that having a second child will definitely distract their attention and be unfair to the boss. Of course, there are also families who do not want to have a second child out of financial considerations.

Jiajia is such a mother who is hesitant to have a second child. Her daughter, who was just three years old and had recently gone to kindergarten, came back clamoring for a little brother or sister. It turned out that some of the children in the kindergarten had two children at home, and they said that they could play with them, so her daughter thought it would be good to have a younger brother or sister.

But after listening to it, Jiajia felt a little embarrassed, after all, having a child is not buying a toy, and you need to think carefully before you can make a decision. Jiajia and her husband feel that there are two children at home, and it will indeed be a little more lively.

But with that, there are a lot of worries. For example, whether the two children can live in peace, whether the couple has the confidence to raise the two children together, and so on.

However, some old people also said that in the previous era, there were several children in the family, and it was not a normal life. So, give birth to one, or give birth to two, listen to what people have to say.

1. The cost of raising a single-child family is lower than that of a multi-child family.

This is particularly obvious, after all, there is only one child in the family, and the cost must be smaller. Especially in today's society, which attaches so much importance to education, raising children is no longer just about food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also about all-round training. Therefore, in terms of education and entertainment, the expenditure is very large.

And if all the resources in the family are concentrated on one child, then this child will be nurtured in more ways. However, if there are several children in the family, and the family's financial situation is only ordinary, then parents will consider reducing some types.

2. Families with many children have a lower burden of old-age care than single-child families.

When the parents are old, the issue of support is the main problem of the family. If there is only one child in the family, then the burden of providing for the elderly will be concentrated on one person, and the pressure on the child will be greater. And if the elderly are sick and need their children to take care of them, then it is difficult for the only child to take care of his work and his parents.

Families with many children are more relaxed in this regard, and the maintenance costs of the elderly can be shared equally. If the elderly are sick, they can take care of their free children, or several children take turns to take care of the elderly, and the pressure on everyone is relatively light.

3. No matter what kind of family it is, there are "difficult scriptures to read".

Siblings in families with many children are also prone to disagreement with each other. Everyone thinks that if there are more children, it will not be a problem to provide for the elderly. But there is also a lot of news about the tragedy of children shirking each other.

A child is good. Many people can't treat two children equally, there will always be people who prefer it, and they can't treat the child who is not favored, and they can't treat it fairly, and that one is fine.

I think it's good to have only one child. Because if you only have one child, the family will not be so financially difficult, and then you can concentrate all your money on educating this child.

I think it's better to have a son and a daughter, so that both children and daughters will be complete, and the child will also have a companion, and parents should treat their children with a bowl of water and not be partial.

In today's society, I think it's better to have a child at home.

The economic pressure is too great.

If nothing else, let's just say that the cost of a child's kindergarten is not low. In the kindergarten in our village, the monthly tuition fee for a child is 780, and the kindergarten also often buys textbooks for children, such as picture books and the like, and our kindergarten here costs 200 yuan every time they buy textbooks. You also need to order school clothes, order milk, etc., which are all charged separately.

In other words, the monthly fixed expenditure of raising a child will slip by more than 1,000. This is still a kindergarten in the village, and if it is a big city, the cost of kindergarten for children is higher. If a family has two or three children, then the pressure is greater, and one child is just right.

If the in-laws don't help take care of the children, then one of the couples will always have to sacrifice their jobs to take care of the baby full-time. Then there is one less income in the family. If you have a child, after three years, the mother or father who is full-time with the baby can return to the workplace.

If it is two or three children, then at least 5-6 years can only work alone to support the whole family. That's too much pressure.

Waiting for children to go to primary school and junior high school, although it is compulsory education, but how can children not need money for food, clothing, housing and transportation? One child can barely afford it, let alone two or three children. Now a child's clothes and shoes cost two or three hundred.

You have to get new clothes all year round, and this cost is not a small amount. It is also necessary to enroll the child in tutoring classes and interest classes, so that the child cannot lose at the starting line. These classes are charged by the hour, and a few more children really can't afford to raise them.

In the future, when a child marries a wife or a wife, he must also prepare a bride price or dowry for the child. It's no joke either. Buying a house and a car for children can easily cost hundreds of thousands of millions, how can two or three children afford it?

So from the economic point of view, I think it is better to let the world have a child for the family.

Limited energy. If it is a mother with a baby full-time, one child is just right. Without the help of her in-laws, it is good for a mother to be able to barely eat with her children alone.

If two or three children come, it is estimated that the mother will not even be able to drink saliva. My sister has 2 children in her family, and others envy her for having both children and daughters, but only we know how difficult her life is. She is in dire straits every day, either the boss beats the second child, or the second child robs the boss again, either this illness or that fever.

I could feel my sister's almost broken down from her tired face, and we were all very distressed to see her emaciated body. She doesn't seem to have smiled in years.

If the in-laws help take care of the baby, it is better to be a child, after all, the old man is old and has limited energy. In addition, the concepts and thoughts of the elderly may not be in line with the current society, and their care for children is limited to life. Parents still need to worry more about education.

Nowadays, many parents tutor a child to do homework until eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening, if there are a few more, then parents don't have to sleep at night, and the energy is really not up to it.

I'm adamant about having only one child, and there are a few reasons:

1.Economic reasons.

At present, the family's economic situation is okay, they have a car and a house, and their income is okay, but if they have another child, the ensuing expenses will be doubled, and the standard of living will be seriously reduced.

2.Physical causes. On the one hand, I am afraid that it will not be good for the child, and on the other hand, I am also worried that my body will not be able to bear it, and it will not be easy to recover later.

In addition, the morning sickness was very severe when I was pregnant with my first child, and I gave birth for 24 hours when I gave birth, so I had a shadow psychologically and didn't want to experience it again.

3.Take care of the problem.

After the first child was born, he took his father-in-law and mother-in-law over to the stool or to help take care of it, although it was said that they got along well, but they often had some friction because of the different concepts of parenting, and they didn't want to experience it again. Besides, my mother-in-law is getting older and older, and if I want a second child, I have to go to work myself, and I have the boss, so I am afraid that my mother-in-law will not be able to bear it.

4.Personal development.

It's more than 30 years old, the eldest is only two years old, if you want another one, then the basic best years are used to bring the baby, and after the age of 35, it is unlikely that you want to have a lot of development in the workplace, so you don't want to spend a lot of time on having children.