How do you look at the people around you who don t want you to be good, and how to adjust your menta

Aloof. Alienation, don't let the other party into your own life circle, you know not to take him in your eyes when you are strong, don't take the time to deal with it will be very energy-consuming, such people are estranged even if they are relatives, otherwise it will only hit their self-confidence.

Those who don't want me to be good are just jealous, because they can't get used to thinking that people on their level are better off than them. The best thing to do is to get better and better, because when the gap widens, they will not be jealous of you, but envy, and this envy will not be able to catch up with them for a long time.

I've never cared about this kind of person, he wants to go, and I can't lose meat. I will care for myself, only by caring for myself more, can I have more energy to care for others, if I have enough ability, I will try to help the people I can help, so that what I get is a few happiness, help others more, treat yourself well, is also a way to reduce stress.

There are many such people, and there are not many of them, and there are not many of them. People should establish a positive and optimistic and tolerant and open-minded attitude, so that they can obtain peace of mind and happiness in life, and bring career achievements and happiness in life.

There are so many of them that I don't have time to deal with them. When I encounter an irritable situation, I drink a glass of white water, put a soothing light **, close my eyes, reminisce about the people and things around me, and slowly lose the new future, which is a kind of rest, but also a kind of calm forward thinking.

She's whatever, what's the matter with me. When people live in the world, they must look at everything, look far, look down, be open-minded and generous, and believe that "anything that happens will be beneficial to me" and "there are always more ways than difficulties", so there is no water that cannot flow and mountains that cannot be moved.

I don't think much of it, and it's not my husband, so I don't have the leisure to worry about him. I would quiet myself, immerse my mind, and slowly lower my desire for things. Reset the self to zero often, every day is a new starting point, there is no age limit, as long as my desire for things is appropriately reduced, I will win more chances to win.

The person who doesn't want me to be good proves that I live better than him. To live happily, people must have a good attitude. No matter what happens, learn to think differently, and you will feel happy.

When we can't change the environment, we have to adapt to it. If you can't change others, you can change yourself, and if you can't change things, you can change your attitude towards things. This kind of person should be treated as if he were transparent.

His thoughts, his thinking, and his way of dealing with them are not something I can change, so don't worry about it. In life, we must be able to accept ourselves and others, and we must be good at accepting reality.

It doesn't matter, it doesn't affect me anything. I appreciate every moment of life, love life, love life, and believe that the future will be better.

I don't know if everyone has this mentality, but I think this should be the mentality that most people have, because you want others to live well, indicating that his current situation is definitely not as good as yours, once he comes to a shocking reversal, he suddenly becomes a rich man, the quality of life suddenly improves, better than your life, you will definitely be unwilling, because you are used to looking at him with sympathetic eyes, if he suddenly exceeds your opinion, you will definitely have an unwilling mentality, which many people have.

Everyone should have watched the TV series "The Legend of Miyue", the two princesses of Chu State, Mi Shu and Mi Yue, were born with different statuses, Mi Shu, as the princess born to the queen, is naturally a collection of thousands of favors; Miyue, who is also a princess, does not have such treatment, she is a princess born to a concubine, and she was born to be avoided by everyone. Except for the closest people around her, only Mi Shu treats her sincerely, gives her all her good things, and protects her. But when they all married into Qin, Mi Yue was more loved by the King of Qin, and her status was about to surpass Mi Shu, Mi Shu's feelings for her changed suddenly, and she even had a bad heart.

I remember that Mi Shu later said: "I used to give her things, but now she gives me things." Although there is nothing in this sentence, but it can be seen that Mi Shu is unwilling, she used to look at Mi Yue with superior eyes, she hoped that Mi Yue could live a better life, but now Mi Yue's life is better, even more than her, but she is unwilling.

This situation is the same as what you said, so it's not that you alone have this mentality, since TV dramas are all broadcast in this situation, it must also reflect social reality, we have to control our mentality and try to live our own lives.

I live in a low-level society full of negative energy, surrounded by a group of decadent friends who eat and wait for death.

My efforts, my motivation, are an outlier in their eyes, and they will feel a kind of panic and pressure.

Actually, my friends want to be like me, but I'm too lazy to really do it.

So jealousy is at work, and they are desperately dragging me back, trying to make me a person like them, so that I can continue to live with peace of mind.

In fact, I don't think it can be said that all the people around you don't want you to get better, I can only say that most of the people around you don't want you to live better than him. Because people always like to compare, they definitely don't want the other party to be better than others, they always want to be the best, the best one. When I was in high school, I was basically ranked in the top three in my class every time I took a test, and my table mates didn't talk to me much because of this, and told me that top students and scumbags were not all the way.

Once when he didn't do well in the exam, he was very happy to go around telling others that I had failed the exam.

That's right, I feel the same way, especially between friends, when I see my friends soaring, I will have a particularly sour feeling in my heart, as if I swallowed two lemons raw.

In fact, this is because of jealousy, seeing a person who was not as good as himself suddenly one day better than himself, he will feel uncomfortable.

It is easy to form a phenomenon of comparison between people, no one is willing to admit that they will be worse than others, when they can't catch up with others no matter how hard they try, there will be a kind of jealousy in their hearts, and even pray, that is, they hope that others will not get better. In the final analysis, in fact, you are unwilling to admit that you are inferior, and you want to be on the same level as him.

I don't think that's the case, you use your point of view to summarize all people to be one-sided, maybe people who are not good with you will think that you have all kinds of bad, hope that your life can only get worse and worse, such thoughts will be there but not much, and you may have a very serious comparison psychology, no matter what aspect you like to compare with the people around you, when you drive to others better than you, you will be jealous, there will be some crooked thoughts, such things can not be ruled out, but you can't just focus on these things, You should throw yourself in a good direction, I believe that there must be a minority of people who don't like you badly, as long as you can see that you start from yourself, such people will not have a "foothold".

The reason why we don't want to be good may be because we don't need to pay attention to them, how do we put in our own efforts to pursue the life we want to live, why should we care about what they think, what they say? We should know this and not be confused.

You can't say it all. Real friends around you will be happy for you when they see you getting better, only those fake friends, or your competitors, don't want you to be good. Therefore, each of us has to go through our own efforts to train ourselves, improve our own connotation, and make us stronger and better, so that we can ignore those who are hypocritical.

Live your own life without looking at other people's eyes.

It shouldn't be, it should be a very small number of people, a little holiday with you, or someone who doesn't like you very much, I don't want you to live well, jealous, afraid that you will compare him, friends around you must want you to get better and better, how can there be this kind of thought, he is really happy for you when you are good.

Because if he is better off than you, you yourself will have no sense of existence and superiority. It should be said that many people have this kind of mentality, not to mention dark and selfish, human nature is like this, but most of them will not affect each other's relationship, so that's enough.

It may be a trait that is common in society, and not just between people. It may be the same between nations and between countries (e.g., the latest hot spots: China and Asan).

For the individual, someone will be very concerned about this. But some people don't care and seem more "selfless".

For those who care, some people will learn to emulate or even surpass through hard work. And some people will slander and destroy it through other means to achieve the goal of living better than you.

And for those who don't care, some people will feel comfortable doing their own thing. Some people don't want to make progress and feel that it doesn't matter. This kind of indifference sometimes reflects a kind of numbness, and sometimes it is self-deception like "Ah San", which is not advisable.

So, in general. It mainly depends on who the person, and the different personal circumstances and environment of the person often cause differences in mentality, emotion, and morality, probably like this.

Comparison psychology, you are better than her, she feels that she is not as good as you, she must be unhappy, this is part of human nature.

This is the psychology of human comparison.