Why is it said that the closer you are, the less you can see you ?

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The closer you are, the more you can't see you, does this sentence make sense?

iihbrrhiv lv76 months ago.

Satisfied with the answer. Hi yingying.

lv106 months ago.

Many times in life, we will find a very interesting situation, that is, the closer the relationship with us, the more we can't see us, is this sentence reasonable? Personally, I think this sentence still makes sense, why do you say that? In fact, it is very simple, because although many people have a good relationship and are very close, but people have a comparison mentality, and when they are inferior to others, jealousy will arise.

Relational proximity to people's thoughts.

When the relationship is very close, in fact, we will find that many people can still accompany us in life, but at the same time, we will also find a problem, that is, if we live better than the people around us, the other party will have a kind of jealousy psychology, this jealousy psychology is not necessarily malicious in many cases, but it will naturally arise, so it is not very strange that people close to the relationship will have this kind of thought.

What should I do if people close to me don't see it well?

In fact, this kind of problem often arises, because when you are better than others in a certain aspect, you will be jealous of the other party, and this jealousy does not matter whether your relationship is good or bad, in fact, the result is the same, so for people who are close to the relationship, what we can do is try not to show these so-called superiority.

Or we are better than others in these aspects, try to keep a low profile, when we keep a low profile, this so-called good does not exist.

Summary of the problem. The more people who have a good relationship, the more they can't see the good of others, this sentence is very reasonable, but this sentence is not absolute, because the more people with a good relationship, the more they need to maintain their feelings, many people have high emotional intelligence, so the feelings are naturally well maintained, and this situation will not occur, but many people will have such problems when their emotional intelligence is not so high, so this problem can be solved, it just depends on how you want to solve it, so people who are close to the relationship can not be in this state,

They are envious, jealous, and hateful. You have nothing to do with outsiders, and when people close to you see you, they are jealous and embarrassed you everywhere.

Because strangers don't care about us, and the person who hurts us is often the person closest to us, and when we get better, we will compare him to him

Mainly because we always think that we can unconditionally tolerate or attack the people close to us, so we will subconsciously leave the worst temper to him, in fact, this approach is wrong, to change, to warm people

Life is not easy, and we are eager to meet warm-hearted people.

We are at home, and we hope to have a warm-hearted lover who thinks about you in everything, speaks in a measured manner, and never makes you angry, how good.

In the unit, there is a warm-hearted group, who don't care about everything, don't laugh or talk, and never talk to you, how good;

Outside, there is a group of warm-hearted people, there are people to help them in everything, everyone is kind, and they never blush with you, how good.

If there is such an opportunity, I am afraid that he will be the happiest person in the world. I would like to be such a person, and I don't think anyone would want to. However, looking back, is it a person who thinks about his lover in everything at home?

I always want my lover to treat myself well, but do I treat my lover well!

The ancients said that respecting each other is like a guest, do you treat your lover as a guest?Perhaps, it was okay when I got married for a while, but after a long time, my lover's face became wrinkled, not beautiful, and her speech was vulgar, so I got tired of it.

Quarrels are frequent, and it is not pleasing to anyone who looks at them.

So when you ask people to be nice to you, first you have to be nice to people. Those who love love to return, and the love is deep. On the contrary, complainers complain and ...... when they are distracted

In the unit, you are eager to meet a group of warm-hearted groups, everyone is a group of harmonious, empathetic, do not care about things, the overall amount of others, every day smile at you, never quarrel with you.

But have you done that?Do you give your brightest smile to your colleagues every day?

Do you think about your colleagues and leaders every day?Don't you ever take your anger out on others?

If so, congratulations, you must be the most popular person and the happiest person.

But the fact is that you always put your emotions on your face, one will be sunny and one will be cloudy, one will be bad, one will be bad, and one will be bad, saying right and wrong in front of colleagues, although it is not a big deal, but it makes people feel that you are always a little wrong, colleagues are alienated from you, and the leader does not trust you, such a day can be called a good day.

As the saying goes, clay figurines also have earthy nature, and each of us has our own little temper. ......In the process of interacting with people, we will find an interesting phenomenon, that is, the better our temper will be when we associate with people who are more distant, and the worse our temper will become when we associate with people who are closer to ......The reason why this is the case is that we dare not fully release our feelings when interacting with people we don't know, we can have no scruples when we associate with people close to us, and we vent our frustration in front of those closest to us when we are hurt.

1. When interacting with unfamiliar people, we dare not fully release our feelings and will be cautious.

When we interact with unfamiliar people, because we are not familiar with each other and do not understand each other, we do not dare to fully release our feelings in front of each other, but will be cautious, for fear of making the other party angry and hurting ourselves because of our bad performance. ......Because of this, we tend to have a good temper when we interact with strangers, and we don't have seizures even if we are unhappy.

2. In front of the closest people, we have no scruples and can fully reveal our true feelings.

When you interact with the person closest to you, because the other party is your closest person and you know each other best, you will have no scruples about trembling, dare to fully show your feelings, and if you are unhappy, you will show it unreservedly, even if the other party is unhappy, you are not afraid. ......It is precisely because of this reason that when we associate with the people closest to us, we tend to lose our temper and calm down.

3. When we are hurt, we tend to vent our frustrations in front of the people we know best.

In daily work, study and life, we will encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory. ......For these things that make me unhappy, I don't dare to say or do anything in front ......of outsiders, I can only hold my unhappiness in my heartBut when we are with the people closest to us, we can vent our dissatisfaction without scruples and release all the grievances we have suffered. Such an approach can cause harm ...... to those closest to youThis is the most fundamental reason why I always give my bad temper to the people closest to me.

Because the closer the person knows that you are good, the more jealous he will be, and he feels that why he can't become good, but if you become good, it is normal to wish that you are far worse than him, so even if you are very rich in front of the closer person, don't act very rich, it's better to keep a low profile.

In fact, this sentence is not particularly accurate, because as long as you and this person have a particularly close relationship or the relationship between the two of you is getting better and better, the other party will definitely sincerely hope that you are well.

There is also a possibility that the relationship between you and the person itself is not particularly good, or that the relationship between the two of you is not the real relationship, so the other party definitely does not want you to live better than him.

Therefore, there must be two situations, so you should still look at what kind of situation you belong to in order to have a better response.

This sentence should not be practical, if the person who is closer to you has such thoughts, it means that the person you meet is not a very good-hearted person, and he himself is very jealous of you, which also means that his mind is relatively narrow-minded.

Since he is very close to you, it should be that the better you are, the happier he is, and he is satisfied with your happiness and joy, and at the same time should also play a role in helping you, when there are difficulties, he will be the first to lend a hand, and the dedication to you is selfless, if the people close to you can't see you well, it means that he has betrayed your feelings, and has never been sincere to you.

Because you are getting better and better, the distance is getting bigger and bigger, the generation gap is more, and the contradictions are increasing, so it causes the closer people to see you, the more they can't see you, if everyone walks in the same way, it won't be like this.

Many times, because people become jealous, so the more they will hate you, resentful of you, it is precisely because of acquaintance, so our hearts are easy to stir up "a thousand waves", the closer the person, the easier it is to "compare", the more you want to be higher "own family" first.

How do you say this? If someone close to you is not happy for you but wishes you were unlucky when your life was getting better and better, it can only mean that this kind of person is not really a person who is good for you. No matter how close the relationship is, it is not suitable for intersecting with hearts, and it is enough to maintain a face-free relationship.

This kind of person may be jealous that others are better off than him, and he resents him who is better than him. Those who are inferior to him go to trample and degrade. In fact, there are people with such narrow hearts and bad thoughts. As long as he is not affected, the better he is the best contempt for him.

You don't have to worry too much about living your life.

In the workplace, why do the closer people are, the less they want you to be good? The sooner you understand these 3 points, the better.

I think that's right, because people tend to be jealous of those close to them. When you tell others about your luck, they will become jealous.

This sentence is still very reasonable, such people's hearts and eyes are very small, they don't want to live a better life than him, which has a lot to do with their character.

In fact, this sentence is very correct, because only people who are familiar with you will be jealous of you and alienate you, those stars and great people who are better than them, they will not be jealous, because they deviate from their lives and have nothing to do with them, because those people are not in their lives, neither visible nor touchable, so there will be no such mentality.

It makes sense that the closer people are to see your success, the more they will feel unbalanced and jealous, because they are afraid of being compared to you.

There is no truth to this sentence, for example, husband and wife or parents are the closest people, but they both want you to live better and better.

It doesn't make sense. They all hope that the people close to them will live better and better, and there is no such thing as not being able to see him well.

What can really hurt you, and what really can't see you is not an outsider, but the closest person around you.

Outsiders generally don't compare each other, only relatives will stare at each other, thinking that you are good, I am bad, and God is how unfair. That's human nature.

Only when you are old can you understand who is the best for you in this world, and only when you are old and have experienced some things can you understand that it has nothing to do with whether you are good to you or not, whether you are close or not.

However, I hope that everyone can see through all the injustices in the world and still face them with a smile, because this is life.