I don t want to remarry my ex husband, but I m struggling with the children, what should I do?

Updated on parenting 2024-08-14
23 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-16

    I think I should communicate with my ex-husband in a timely manner so that the child's problem can be solved.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    Personally, I think that marriage cannot be compromised because of children, if the two are unhappy together, even if they are together, it is a harm to the children, and divorce does not mean that the children will lose their father's love or mother, so don't be entangled, follow your heart's wishes, and don't force yourself because of the children.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    Then choose to remarry temporarily, and when the children grow up, they can choose to divorce, so that it will not cause too much harm to the children.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    In this case, the two people can communicate well. If there is a chance to get back together, it's better to get back together. After all, the child is very innocent, and you will feel very sorry for the child.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Divorce is easy, and those who involve you are completely cut off and cut continuously, and the damage will definitely not be less than not divorce. Think it out for yourself, go back when you should go, put it when you should put it away, how to choose is up to you, others can't help you.

    Your happiness in life is not the responsibility of other people. Your life is miserable, and no one else will carry it for you. You live your life, you make your own decisions.

    When you are a husband and wife, your children will have warmth and love. There is no affection between you, and even remarriage is only a solution to financial problems and sexual needs. And did not give the child love and warmth.

    These are two different things. Don't use your weakness, that child, as a shield. This is not responsible for the child.

    Others, just talking about it.

    This is the reaction of all those who are not in the whirlpool of events, they advise you to be normal, because they don't understand your pain in this marriage, your happiness or not, they can't understand it.

    So they instinctively feel that seeing the child so pitiful, they still hope that for the sake of this family, you choose to take a step back and endure it and restore the integrity of the family. But why should you really listen to them? Or are you yourself shaken, so tangle here.

    The reason for your divorce is unknown, but in your previous marriage, you must have been unhappy, otherwise you would not have had children again, and you chose to divorce. So, go back to that unhappy marriage, you are miserable and don't want to.

    Why should outsiders care about your feelings? They're not you, it's you. Do you yourself want to go back to that marriage? If you really don't want to, then you really don't have to force it. For the sake of the child to be reunited, it will not last long.

    Ask your heart what do you want? Don't think about others, think about yourself first. Only when you satisfy yourself first can you satisfy others well.

    Does the child need a complete family? No, what he needs is a healthy, loving parent. Instead of looking like a detached family, hard together pretending to be a loving family atmosphere.

    The child feels it.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    You can't remarry him for the sake of the child, this man is not worth entrusting at all, he won't treat you well, don't get back together.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    You should first ask about the reason for your ex-husband's remarriage with you, if your ex-husband and you remarry just for your money, then you should not remarry your ex-husband.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Since your ex-husband has remarried, and he wants to remarry you, although it is said that it is for the sake of the children, I don't think you should remarry him, after all, there is no affection between you, and you will have conflicts if you remarry, so there is no need.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    There is no need to remarry for the sake of the children, if you still have feelings for your husband, you can accept it, but you and your husband are very uncomfortable and wronged to live together, and you can't go together, you don't need to remarry for the sake of the children, so you are not happy and the children are not happy.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Since the other party has remarried, it is not recommended that you consider destroying other people's families If the other party is really not doing well, for the sake of the child, I suggest that you return to his side, because the child wants a stable family after all He may have regretted it, he feels that the current marriage is not as good as the original you, it is more in line with his mood to know that mistakes can be changed, and it is also a joy in life If possible, I suggest that you remarry as soon as possible.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If your ex-husband wants to divorce and remarry you after remarrying, under the preconditions, you must negotiate clearly and make clear guarantees for the conditions at the time of your divorce, so that you can get married again, because for the sake of the children, I think it is necessary to remarry each other, but you must completely abandon the past history and accept each other again.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think if your ex-husband wants to remarry you after remarrying, for the sake of the children, you should not remarry him, but also for yourself, if he still retains some love for your marriage, he will not choose to divorce you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    If your ex-husband remarries and then asks you to remarry, you have to think about whether you still love him, and if you still love him, you should remarry for the sake of your children.

  14. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It should be refused, because the two are now divorced, and the ex-husband has also remarried, so he must understand that it is too late to regret it now.

  15. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Everyone wants to have a happy marriage, but there will inevitably be divorce, but if the parents have always wanted to remarry their ex-husband, but they don't want to remarry, what should they do?

    1. Although she went all the way from happiness to happiness with the help of her mother, it was herself who played a decisive role. She took the initiative to make choices and changes, and finally met true love, which is not only her destination, but also her own heartfelt feedback.

    Second, for other divorced women, it would be great if you had your own ideas. If you don't have an idea and are confused, then it doesn't hurt you whether you're referring to the way out for divorced women that I'm talking about, or the way out for divorced women that this reader's mom said. It's for your own good, anyway.

    You can learn what works for you and take the initiative to make choices and changes.

    3. Although divorce is scary, you can't be afraid. It is useless to be afraid. If you have time to think about it, it's better to think about how to go in the future.

    No matter how you keep yourself in a good state of mind, you must know in your heart what kind of state is good. Then command yourself to be in a good state and not to be in a bad state all the time. You can do it.

    4. "Nothing is right, as long as you are responsible for yourself and make decisions that are responsible for yourself, that's enough." Actually, throughout the whole process of your marriage to your ex-husband, before you marry him, what you should think about is to be responsible for yourself. At that time, he was not sincere in his feelings.

    As the saying goes, he is so cold to you on the outside, but he can't be satisfied with you on the inside. He said he was happy with you and was just an excuse to get married. After you got married, his insincerity was very blatant, and you couldn't bear to divorce him in the end, which was a very correct decision.

    In the end, your mother-in-law asked you to remarry your ex-husband. As you say, he is not sincere with you. If you can't see the sincerity of his remarriage, there is no need to remarry.

    >5. Marriage is always a matter of two people. Whether two people get married or not, how to treat each other after marriage, and whether to remarry after divorce are all two people's affairs, and it should be decided by two people. If someone else is involved, things can get messed up instead.

    For example, before getting married, if you are not satisfied with the other party, but follow the encouragement of your family and get married, then you will always have conflicts in your heart; For example, after getting married, you obviously find that the marriage is very bad, but you hear others say "endure it a little longer", then you will be very unhappy; For example, whether to remarry after divorce, this kind of thing can't be mixed with others, otherwise you will still be unhappy if you remarry because of the encouragement of others. Therefore, both men and women in a marriage should make their own decisions and be responsible for themselves at different stages of marriage and when facing different problems.

  16. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You should directly talk to your parents about your inner thoughts, or you can talk about some of your ex-husband's shortcomings, or you can choose to find a new other half.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    In a relationship, only you can know whether you need to remarry, and your parents have no right to interfere with you. You have to stick to your opinions.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    At this time, you can directly tell your parents what you think, you can tell your parents that you don't want to remarry now, and don't let your parents force you.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    You shouldn't be with a man like that, and he said he came to you to remarry for the sake of the child, so I don't think it's necessary for you to be with such a person.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I don't think I should be back together with him, the marriage of two people is not just for the children, but also for the feelings of two people.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I don't think so. Because the two of you no longer have feelings, there is no need to force it, and you should not be back together for the sake of the child.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    This is a very complex and personal question, so the answer may vary from case to case. However, I will try to give some useful guidelines to help with this issue.

    First of all, the happiness of parents has an important impact on the well-being of children, as happy parents can provide a more stable, warm and supportive home environment, which can contribute to the development and health of their children. Therefore, if remarriage can bring happiness and stability, then it can be a good option.

    However, simply remarrying for the sake of children is not always the best option, as it can lead to more problems and tensions. If there are ongoing arguments, distrust, frustration, or other issues between parents, even if they remarry, the family environment may still be unstable or unhealthy, which will negatively affect the child.

    Also, before deciding to remarry, parents need to make sure that they have addressed the fundamental issues that led to the separation and that they are very clear about each other's expectations and values. If they don't make these preparations, remarriage may just delay the breakdown of the marriage, which will have a negative impact on the child's development.

    Finally, another factor to consider is the child's feelings. Parents can still provide support, love, and care for their children, even if they are not living together. Therefore, remarriage may not be the best option if it causes upset or apprehension for the child, or if the parents do not think they can provide them with a better family environment.

    In conclusion, remarriage is a personal issue that requires careful consideration and careful consideration. Most importantly, parents need to think about their children's well-being and ensure that they have made all the necessary preparations to ensure a healthy, stable and supportive family environment.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    First of all, it can be said that since you ask such a question before the wheel, it means that you want to give your child a complete family.

    But since La Xiqing divorced her ex-husband, it means that there is already a gap between you, and if you sacrifice yourself for the sake of your children and then get back together with your ex-husband, your life will still be difficult.

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