Why do some people nag so much when they reach middle age?

Good people don't live long, and disasters last for thousands of years.

Generally speaking, we tend to be the healthiest and happiest Zen masters who are as calm as water and have no quarrel with the world. After all, the kind of red-faced and red-eared ** who scolds on the **, and the second-hand ** broker who has been divorced twice will definitely not live to be 50 years old!?But, wake up, dear, that's not the case.

1. Burst coarseness to reduce pain.

Most linguists agree that human language is rude because it's so useful, but why do we do it in times of pain?

For example, when you are making coffee in the lounge or kitchen, you turn around and find that the cabinet door is open, just to give you a good look on the face. It hurts you, doesn't it?But it seems that when you shout "I x", it doesn't hurt so much.

Second, gossip about people has a longer life.

A study at a university in Michigan found that gossiping is good for women's health. In this study, college girls were divided into two groups, one of which was assigned to proofread a botany** and the other group was encouraged to inquire into the personal problems of other people who intended to make friends.

3. Live longer with a mouth full of complaints.

We all hate people who complain all over the place. These people who make us nervous break down spend all their time crying, making trouble, hanging ourselves, or seeing who sprays whom, and often leads to us having to complain to other people as well, about the people who make us complain more than they are about complaining, and we don't like the feeling of burnt out that we've been going through all week because we've been drinking too much Pepsi lately, but what the does it have to do with the weather, is this rain going to be going to happen for a lifetime?!

Fourth, low blood pressure in anger.

Everyone will encounter all kinds of angry silly x in their lives, whether it is your boss or wife (husband) or Internet trolls, although trolls usually hide their anger and will constantly switch their own when discussing the "battle of Fang Han".

Fifth, the life of young wives and concubines is prolonged.

At cracked, we've already talked about "how getting married can make you live longer". You may be able to figure out the person who best matches the conditions and will benefit the most. Happy couples who share common interests, life goals, and are of a similar age will be happier than Martian and Earthling's marriages.

Surely they are much better than the creepy old men who abandon their loyal good wives and mothers and get together with young girls in their little skirts, right?

Sixth, heart disease also requires brain residual doctors.

Type A personalities, often referred to as "2B youth", are radicals who are beaten up like chickens and usually rampant with those around them. While most of us follow a 9-to-5 schedule to make ends meet, Type A people start flying around at 5 a.m., ready to toss anyone to the point where they can't take care of themselves. Brother Chun bless the poor creatures who have suffered them.

Because, when I was young, I was busy doing things.

There could be a few reasons why older people like to nag:

Experienced: As they grow older, older adults accumulate a wealth of life experience and knowledge. They want to pass on this experience and knowledge to those around them through nagging to help others avoid similar mistakes or dilemmas.

Seeking attention and care: Older people may feel lonely or neglected, and nagging can attract attention and care from others. This behavior makes them feel valued for their presence while also satisfying their need for communication and interaction with others.

Memory loss: Older adults may have a decline in memory as they age, and nagging can help them remember important things and maintain coherence in their thinking.

Reduce anxiety and restlessness: Older adults may feel uneasy and anxious about the present and future, and nagging can be a way for them to ease their mood and reduce stress. By constantly repeating certain topics, they can gain some comfort and security.

The need for social communication: Nagging can be seen as a way for older adults to socially communicate with others. By sharing and discussing with others, they can make connections, participate in conversations, and feel fulfilled and happy in their communication.

Although we may get bored at times, it is very important to understand the needs and emotions of the elderly. Respecting and listening to their nagging can not only enhance mutual understanding and relationship, but also help them feel the warmth of being respected and cared for.

First, the old people have rich experience, and it is a good thing for the old people to tell their experience about the impermanence, and the young lovers should listen to it with an open mind and absorb the value. Having said that, experience is priceless, and if you absorb it, you can avoid some detours!

Second, some old people are a little unaccustomed to the practices of young people, which may be the generation gap! After all, the ages are different, and the way things are done is different. But it's nothing, young man! Mingju just listens to it, and it doesn't hurt!

Third, some people are good teachers, not only the elderly, but also a few good teachers, including me who are a bit of a good teacher, this habit is not good, but it is not easy to correct!

Fourth, some elderly people are just annoying, and they can't see what you do, and they don't care if it's wrong. As the saying goes, old children and young children can get a little bit of it, who hasn't got an old day? Who knows what we'll be like when we're old?

This is the reason why the older generation likes to educate people.

It is said that singles are useless when they are old, which is also the reality of rural areas. The old man who used to eat tea, when he gets older, if he doesn't pay attention, he will be looked down upon by others, and he won't be able to get off the stage if he doesn't do well, and he will lose face, which is really not worth it. To sum up, there are ten mistakes that rural seniors are most likely to make:

1. I like to nag.

At home, my son is 40 years old, and he is still a child who can't grow up, and he always likes to give thousands of instructions; In society, he can't help but point fingers, and others are too lazy to pay attention to him.

2. I like to talk about things in the past.

Young people have their own experiences and insights, and their views on things are often different from those of older people, and the clichés of older people can only be tiresome.

3. Nosy.

It may be that there is no big deal all day long, no matter how big or small, as long as the old man knows, he has great interest, likes to inquire and discuss, and other people are unwilling to pay attention to him.

4. Rely on the old and sell the old.

Young people are sometimes forced to ask him for advice for the sake of face, and they always like to sell guanzi and talk about it as elders, but they don't know that these people are going to sleep and can't listen to it at all.

5. Reluctant to old objects.

When the countryside moves to a new house, the old people are reluctant to throw away anything, and the house is stuffed to the brim, the juniors are not easy to say directly, and the others look uncomfortable when they come in.

6. It is not the one who speaks of children in front of outsiders.

In any case, children are the closest people to them, even if there are thousands of bad things, don't let others know, anyway, it will not help anything, and it will not do you any good.

7. Always talking about children not going home.

If you keep saying that your children are hungry and don't go home, it will increase the burden on your children's minds, but because you are too busy and don't have time to go home, your children's mental pressure will be too great.

8. Frequent excessive drinking.

At any time, don't drink too much, not only will you suffer a loss, but you will also be hospitalized if you don't do well, which will not benefit anyone.

9. Pay attention to hygiene.

Don't be busy with housework or farm work and delay your own cleaning, which is not only bad for your health, but also affects a family's plans.

10. If you can rely on yourself, don't rely on others.

When you live to old age, you have to take care of yourself, do what you can, don't overwork, don't be unwilling to do anything, and gradually become a wasted person, without the slightest value, and feel that there is no meaning in life.

To be a respectable old man, it's best to pretend that you can't see anything, don't listen, don't know what to do, and other people are not stupid, they know that your heart is like a mirror, and they respect you more. If they really want to ask you for advice, and they all put on different postures, how can you not see it? In a word, it is better to talk less, participate less, and worry less about all happy.

Because I want to output my own opinions, I have a sense of victory in my heart, and a feeling of being on top.

Traditionally, this can be analyzed from two perspectives: physiological and psychological

One is the physiological level:

1. First of all, there is a saying that educating people makes people happy. The reason is that the educational process can cause people to secrete dopamine, provided that dopamine is recognized as a happy substance, but this claim has obviously been refuted by many parties and is not very scientific. At least the dopamine argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny.

2. Educating people is an instinctive response of physiological continuity. In fact, there is some truth in this statement, the continuity of living things is actually the animal instinct of human beings. From ancient times to the present, especially in ancient times, in order to ensure the continuation of the population, educating future generations has become an almost instinctive consciousness, and this responsibility often naturally falls on the older generation with some experience in production and hunting.

The second is the psychological level (this should be the most important).

1. The older generation thinks that it is their responsibility to educate the younger generations. Therefore, they will think that it is a dereliction of duty not to pass on the knowledge and experience they know to their juniors, so they will appear to be "good teachers".

2. Education also enables the older generation to gain a possible sense of achievement. By educating the younger generation, the older generation gains a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment after the younger generation avoids suffering losses or achieves certain achievements again and again. The common phenomenon of child comparison is to some extent the embodiment of this psychology, in other words, it can also be called vanity.

3. Educating the younger generations is a kind of self-salvation and self-improvement. The older generation has accumulated certain lessons and lessons, and hopes that young people will not make mistakes in the same thing and suffer losses, and also hope that the younger generations will accelerate their success and avoid detours.

4. Educate the younger generations to reflect their own identity. Some people in the older generation are influenced by certain ideologies and concepts, and will use education to brush up their sense of existence and gain control at the same time.

5. Educating younger generations can also be a manifestation of what adults think of as love. Education is a social activity that consciously cultivates people, among which family education and school education are basically the education of the older generation to the younger generation, whether it is parents to children or teachers to students, it is essentially a manifestation of love.

So don't always think that the nagging of the old man is an unbearable thing, sometimes empathize with it, although it does bring some kind of pressure, but at the same time, it is also necessary to realize that most of the content and circumstances in it are one of the key elements of human survival.

The elderly have the characteristics of being most afraid of loneliness, slow to accept new things, uneasy about young people, and memory loss.

Due to the above characteristics. It will happen to the elderly, when they meet young people, they will talk about what they have been talking about for a few days, they will ask them over and over again if they don't understand new problems, they will explain what they have asked young people to do, and they will explain what they have already said, and they will tell you many times what they have already said. This is the reason why the elderly always love to nag and do orange respect.

Don't dislike the elderly. They are the ones who raised you. The grace of nurturing is as great as the sky, and you will never be able to repay it in your life!

Be sure to listen with the utmost patience when they are nagging. Patiently explain what they don't understand. Your humility, your piety, is the greatest spiritual pleasure for them!

In fact, the elderly have a wealth of life experience and valuable experience in dealing with people. These can save young people many detours on the journey of life! The old man is a treasure. Young people should honor the elders in their families and let them live happily and prudently in their old age!

Preface: There are many people who feel that their parents are very nagging, especially mothers. When I reach a certain age, I become more and more nagging, and I feel that my parents' intentions are good.

Because I was afraid that my children would not be able to do things well, I repeatedly asked them to do things perfectly. But for young people, it can be very upsetting to hear their parents' nagging. I've already said it once, but I have to say it several times, which will make everyone feel very irritable.

For us, we must be patient, and when we are old, we will also become nagging like our parents.

We can find that mothers can really become very nagging when they are old, especially after reaching a certain age. I always talk about something several times, and I am afraid that my children will not listen. This is because mothers are very distressed about their children, and many children will be very upset when they hear their mother's nagging, and even get angry with their mothers.

Then it is suggested that we must suppress the anger in our hearts, for mothers, the love for their children is selfless, and they want their children to live a better life. Therefore, they will give everything they have to their children, so everyone must realize that the mother's intentions are good. When you encounter a situation where your mother is nagging, we must reassure them that only if they feel that their children have grown up, they will not be so nagging.

After parents reach a certain age, it is inevitable that they will become very nagging. Then we can empathize with us, and when we are as old as our parents, we will also become very nagging. Therefore, when you encounter such a situation, you must be patient, because it is inevitable, and everyone's intentions are good, so we must understand each other.

So if you don't want your mother to nag like this, we must reassure them, and in addition, when your mother nags, you must control your temper and never yell at them.