My husband and I have completely different lifestyles, what should I do?

Updated on psychology 2024-02-26
18 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Each of us has our own way of life, when you live with others, you will find some differences and commonalities between getting along, you feel that you and your husband's lifestyle is different, and you don't know what to do, in fact, to solve many of the problems that plague us in life are very applicable to these six proverbs, that is, accept, change, leave.

    1.Accept, as the saying goes, the path you choose, you have to go down on your knees. The husband you choose, even if the lifestyle is completely different from your own, but since you have chosen, you should accept him, blindly questioning, can not change the problem, let alone solve the problem.

    Everyone's lifestyle is definitely different, the key is how you look at it and deal with it, you should find the right balance between your and your husband's lifestyle, find a way that makes you feel comfortable and doesn't change both. Or you can go beyond the existing lifestyle and find something new that is acceptable to both, so that everyone will be happy.

    2.To change is to change oneself or to change one's way of life. If there is no other better way to replace the lifestyle of couples, then it will only change for a long time.

    There is always a concession between the two, and a step back from each side, or a step back from one side is the solution to the problem. Don't feel that whoever gives in will give in. Because you are husband and wife, you are two people who want to live together until you are old, and appropriate concessions are just to make the relationship between both parties more harmonious and make your life more comfortable.

    Compared to the fact that you can live happily together in the future, this change and concession is only insignificant.

    3.Leave, this is the last and most brutal solution. I also don't recommend that you choose this way, after all, it is not easy for two people to know and get married together, and they should cherish and understand each other.

    When you feel that you can neither accept your husband's lifestyle nor change his or your lifestyle, leaving is the only way. After all, everyone knows that it will be impossible to last a lifetime, and instead of making the two of us uncomfortable, it is better for everyone to separate and get together and disperse. Go your own way of life and find a way of life that you are comfortable with, and maybe sometimes leaving is the best option.

    Everyone broke up, divorced, and started their own new lives.

    Therefore, you and your husband's lifestyle is different, in fact, the final choice is in your own hands, and the solution to the problem is nothing more than these, I hope you can do a good job in your own psychological construction, you can talk to your husband about these problems, see if he has any better solutions to your current lifestyle, or can you change his lifestyle, and finally wish your problems can be solved.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Two people live together, their living habits are completely different, this time is to test whether you are true love, if it is true love, you can give each other a step, let yourself slowly adapt to each other.

    When I was in junior high school, our teacher's surname was Ha, she was a female teacher, she was a Muslim, and she was looking for someone whose surname was Wang Han, and there was a huge difference in the lives of the two people, completely different, how to adapt to each other.

    The man made a choice, since he liked it, let her do it, and everything was up to her. But Hermes-Epitek always doesn't eat pork and is hungry, and our teacher Ha told him that he can go home and eat pork once a week, but he said:"From the day I got along with you, I said goodbye to eating pork and switched to beef and mutton"This is true love, changing oneself for the one he loves.

    Can he not, can't you? Differences in living habits are not individual but universal, since you have chosen him (her), you must be obedient or adapt and tolerate, so that you can live happily together.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Unlike your husband's lifestyle, how have you come through all these years? Didn't you get to know each other well before you got married? What is it about you that attracts each other, and does it still exist today?

    In fact, two people have to live together, firewood, rice, oil and salt are indispensable, these are things you must accept, if the lifestyle is different, you have to change.

    Nowadays, marriage, both domestic and foreign, two people with very different growth environments abound, and people also advocate that people of different ancestries can raise more high-quality offspring together. ** will also pay attention to what is right, as long as two people are willing, they can get married together, and taking the hukou together to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for 9 yuan proves this fact, and does not need the approval of any other person and organization.

    However, when two people come together, they have to think about living together for the rest of their lives, no matter what kind of life you were in, you were one person, you are living together now, and there may be three people or even more people in the future. It is a common phenomenon that you have to change your lifestyle with the presence of someone else in your life, and both of you need to change. If you still do your own thing like the original, only caring about yourself and ignoring others, your performance will still be very immature, and you still need to hone among yourself.

    The two of them still need a seven-year itch, that is, the process of running-in, the living conditions of the two people are not the same as the original, in the current living conditions to live the current life together, no matter what kind of lifestyle you originally had, the current lifestyle of your life depends on the living conditions you have together and determined, now your lifestyle should be the same or similar, at least you have to accept the new way of life.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The traditional approach to marital conflicts is to persuade and not to separate. As the old saying goes, a hundred years of repair can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can be slept together. Being able to get married is the fate of cultivation.

    It should be cherished. But if, as you say, you and your husband live completely different ways. are two planets on different trajectories.

    That is, you can't synchronize your life and have no intersection. Feelings will slowly fade and will be worn out by time. Being together is also an ordeal.

    It is advisable to have a heart-to-heart talk with your husband. Can you make a change for the sake of the other party? If not. Separation is not a sensible choice.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Since you and your husband are married, and you married him at the beginning, it means that you also like the advantages of him, and there must be something you like. As the saying goes, it is easier to fall in love and get along with each other, but it may mean that the lifestyle is different.

    When two people have been together for a long time and have different lifestyles, they will slowly feel that the other party has affected their lives, they will feel more irritable, and they will see each other's shortcomings. After a long time, you may get a little bored with each other.

    So what you have to do is for the two of you to sit down and communicate well, and you can sort out each other's lifestyles. See if you can try to make changes for each other, after all, life must have more running-in, mutual understanding, and mutual tolerance.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If you want to move on with your life, then the two of you should be tolerant and considerate of each other. Instead, let's live separately.

    In fact, no two individuals in this world are exactly the same. It's normal to have different lifestyles, but because two people have lived together for a long time, they definitely have to change their lifestyles according to each other's habits.

    It must be that both people have to change, and if only one person changes, then this person will be very aggrieved and will have a lot of complaints, which is very detrimental to married life.

    So, it depends on how deep the relationship between the two of you is, as long as the two of you love each other enough, I believe that no difficulty can stump you.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It doesn't matter if you have different lifestyles, as long as you both respect each other's lifestyles. For example, the man likes to eat spicy, the woman doesn't like it, then the woman When the man cooks, he first takes out half of the dish, and then puts it spicy, and the woman can also put a piece of water in front of her and eat it. The man can put a serving of chili pepper in front of him and dip it when it is not spicy enough.

    Personally, I know that as long as I respect the other person enough, this is not a problem at all.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    In order for two people to be together for a long time, each other must make some sacrifices for each other, either he depends on you, or you depend on him, otherwise it will be difficult for two people to continue.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    All I can say is that you are amazing, you have a completely different lifestyle from your husband, so didn't you think you were not particularly suitable when you got married? After all, after getting married, you have to live together. I think everyone who gets married has to have a trial marriage process before, not to say that the two love each other after getting married, and find that you and his lifestyle is different, or what is not suitable, and then find a way, I think it's a bit late.

    First of all, you are already husband and wife, so what should you do if you are anxious that you have a different lifestyle from your husband? I'm sure your husband will think the same way, so I think you should first have a conversation, or a cup of tea in the evening, and talk about how you should live together.

    Sometimes the work and rest time of boys and girls is different, boys generally sleep a little later, girls sleep a little earlier, boys may eat a little later, girls eat more appropriately, in general, I think girls' life and rest is a more regular one, boys always hold a kind of full enough, more indifferent mentality. So when you get along as a couple, these problems can be big or small, and it depends on how you solve them.

    I think if it's because of the difference in schedule, I think you can arrange a schedule, a rough schedule is fine, and it doesn't say that you have to do this at this point. When you really run in, your work and rest time will be relatively similar, so that you will have fewer contradictions.

    Therefore, communication between husband and wife is the most important thing, and don't have a cold war because of a little contradiction between the two of you, which will hurt both of you very much. Then it may be some other aspects, such as boys are sloppy, don't wash their hair for three days, don't change clothes for five days, or don't like to tidy things up and clean the house.

    Girls may have some cleanliness habits, or prefer cleanliness, so there will be some conflicts between you. Take my brother's marriage as an example, he used to live a more irregular life, and then he was more sloppy, and then after he got married, I found that his home was also very clean, because my sister-in-law was a more clean person.

    It takes a long time for a real couple to run in, not that two people can be together if they really love each other, have a good life, and it is impossible not to quarrel.

    In general, it is necessary to communicate more, find out the root cause of the problem, and then solve it together.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Seek common ground while reserving small differences, as long as the big principles are not.

    Shake, you love me, think more about each other, and understand each other more. It won't affect you and your husband.

    Affection. It's still harmonious.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    After reading your narrative, I understand your troubles very well, your husband's lifestyle is indeed incompatible with a normal person, in the face of this situation, it is really difficult for you to change his lifestyle, because his work and rest time has been cultivated since childhood, and it can be said that it is deep-rooted and difficult to change, therefore, I advise you to give up changing his mind, and you don't have to worry about it, you and your child live in a normal way, eat on time, set aside some food for him, when he eats as he pleases, since he can't integrate, then they are fine, This is a last resort.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The lifestyle is different, you eat with your child, and when he likes to eat is his business, don't worry about him.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You shouldn't feel humiliated, your father is always good for you, he just doesn't know how to express it, so you have to try to talk to him about what you think, you have to have a strong heart that makes him trust you, and you must not conflict with your father head-on. Kids, try to put yourself down and tell them, it'll be fine.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    It doesn't matter, the main thing is to see if the two sides can respect each other and not perfunctory.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Since both parties are in love, what can't you say, just tell him! Trust him to understand you. Bless you!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Since you both love each other, sit down and talk about your thoughts and feelings. Don't change the other person just by thinking about it, you have to change it yourself. Learn to accept and respect each other's way of life, while also making as many changes and adaptations as possible for the sake of loving each other.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    If you can't adapt to the life of a rich man, marry a poor man, and I think that if you are the wife he is marrying, it is very dangerous to separate the two places, and the junior may have already existed, and what you need to consider is not frugality, but the problem is to end the separation between the two places.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If you can afford this kind of consumption, why don't you try to accept this lifestyle, you can also go to Singapore to work with him, everyone has physiological needs, this is normal, so I don't agree with the separation, about the change of clothes does have to be changed, three pieces a day is indeed a little more.

    I hope you are happy. Hey.

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