I ve been complaining all the time, how can I change my complaining mentality?

1. Lack of sense of achievement; Because there is an aspect of life that is not satisfied, there will be repeated frustration in this regard, and after the frustration is generated, there are generally 3 ways to vent:

One is to attribute the cause to oneself, which is what we call inferiority.

The second is to attribute the cause to the outside world, that is, to complain about the heavens and others.

The third is that he does not have a correct cognition, he is too demanding of himself, and he feels that the reality is too far away from his expectations, so he is not satisfied, so he complains.

2. The characteristic of "small self" is that it wants to strengthen itself. Complaining is the means used by the "ego" to strengthen itself. Complaining and blaming can make us feel superior, so whenever the ego has the opportunity, it will complain.

People who love to complain are dominated by the "ego", and those who don't like to complain are controlled very well.

3. When any complaint arises, there will be a premise: I am right and others are wrong. When people want to complain, they want someone to know, either to say it for others to hear, or to write it for others to see, so that they can feel comfortable.

4. Once a person starts complaining, he will find many reasons to prove that he is right and others are wrong. At this time, people will no longer think about the good of each other, and even if someone reminds them, they will be ignored.

Ways to debug complaints:

1. Left brain exercise method, when you want to accuse people of searching mountains, start counting: gold, pink, green, white, brown, black, six kinds. On the one hand, counting colors can ease emotions, and on the other hand, because to distinguish colors, you also have to count the quantity, and when the left brain starts to work, it will suppress the mechanism of the right brain.

2. Strengthen self-confidence and enhance enthusiasm for work and life. With self-confidence, you can face all kinds of situations in life, whether it is good things or setbacks, with a cheerful mood.

3. Live with a positive and positive vision in the world.

4. Correct view of success and failure: Correct your attitude towards success and failure, no one can always be undefeated. If you succeed, you will prove that your efforts are enough, and if you fail, you will not be able to cultivate enough.

Failure is nothing more than a temporary insuccess, nothing more than starting all over again. Find out why, recharge your batteries, and get ready to go.

5. Learn to regulate emotions: Everyone has times when they are in a bad mood, and this is normal. Let the past pass, don't think about it anymore, go out with your friends for a walk first, and let go of the depression in your heart.

1.Don't dwell on things you can't control or change.

There are many things in the world that you can't change or control, no matter how hard you try. You can't change the weather, lunch choices, or management decisions, so don't think about those things all the time. There is always a silver lining in the darkness.

So don't let yourself be depressed because there are some things that you can't change or control.

2.Be grateful for what you have.

We often complain about not being able to have everything. Without noticing what we have gotten. Be grateful for what you have in life, because you are lucky to be yourself.

Make a list of the things you're grateful for, and you'll find that you don't have any reason to complain. Complaining is a bad habit and it won't help anyone. Try to turn your complaints into action, and you will see how your life will change.

3.Maintain a positive attitude.

I know it's hard to keep a positive attitude when you're complaining, but one of the best ways to break the habit of complaining is to develop a positive attitude. Learn to accept that nothing is perfect. Don't be afraid to make mistakes and failures because all your mistakes and failures will help improve your life.

Don't dwell on the haze of your mistakes, learn from them and move on.

4.Learn to adapt to change.

We must learn to take responsibility and admit our mistakes, but we must also learn to dare to conflict, dare to speak our minds, so that we will find that we can also act in the face of dissatisfaction. We can do it for ourselves.

The most important thing is today's heart, why lose the current mood for painful regret, why worry about inexplicable worries and not be able to live all day. Your heartache can only be healed by yourself, why bother to lose your current mood for painful remorse, and it is also very necessary to vent your occasional complaints, but endless complaining will only add to your troubles, and you can only show others your incompetence.

The past is gone, and no amount of regret will help. The future is still out of reach, and no matter how worried you are, it will be empty and sad. Today's heart, today's events and current people are real, and they also feel good.

Complaining is a fatal negative mentality, once your own complaining becomes a bad habit, then life will be dark, not only your own good mood is completely gone, but others will also be unlucky. There is no benefit in complaining, optimism is the most important thing.

We are often unable to change the perception of others, only ourselves. A bad life is not about the sins of others, but about how bad our mood has become. The golden key to making life better is not in the hands of others, give up our resentment and sighs, and a good life is within reach.

A person who is always complaining is actually evading his own responsibility.

While complaining, they will externalize the objective problems in themselves. In doing so, you are giving up your autonomy, refusing to solve problems, closing your mind, and losing the opportunity to improve yourself and improve.

If you complain about your work, it is better to calm down and think about what details need to be improved and optimized, or it is also excellent to go to a training class.

If you complain that you can't communicate well with your elders or your other half, it's better to ask others what to do, or stay away from this environment and be more distracted.

If you complain that your child is not good at studying, it is better to think about what you are doing wrong, read more books, and learn more about the methods ......of education

There are more solutions than difficulties.

On the other hand, complaining is that your needs are not being met.

Ask yourself: What do I complain about because I want to get something? What do I value that isn't being met?

Ask yourself more questions, and you will calm down and think more and have more opportunities to take control of your life.

And complaining will only make you in the quagmire of negativity, unable to extricate yourself.

Love life, love yourself, and hope to bring you some positive brew.

Hello buried! When a person is dissatisfied with external things, he will complain. In this case, how can the complaining person change?

Here are four steps to complete: The first step is to face up to the matter. Because there are two sides to things, we try to see the good side of things first, so as not to let the actual good side be buried by our own dissatisfaction.

The second step is, imagine what the consequences of complaining? We can exaggerate the consequences appropriately. Sometimes, things are already bad, and when we complain, it only makes things worse.

The third step is to take a look at what you have. Focus on the good things you have. The fourth step is to experience the good situation after not complaining.

128 ways to change yourself.

1. Don't be aggressive, don't be lethal, don't boast about your ability, and don't praise others.

It's because you're dissatisfied with the society and the people and things around you, and you're unbalanced. Keep a normal heart, don't like things, don't feel sorry for yourself, and deal with all the entanglements of people and things calmly, and you won't complain.

Learn to take full responsibility for all the choices you make. Learn to take responsibility for yourself.

Listen to songs, play games to vent your emotions, and come back and think about it and you'll figure it out.

It's the same as I used to, as long as you get in touch with more pleasant things and think more and think less.

Relax things a little, what's the point of a little thing! There are more people who are more unlucky than you

If you want to complain, then you must hold back, for example, you see something that is not going well or you are not used to it, and so on, you must first take the initiative to do it or find a way to solve it, instead of blindly complaining about why others did not do it, complaining about why things are so bad.

How to change? Then stop complaining, if you want to complain, then you must hold back, for example, you see that it is not unpleasant or unaccustomed, and so on, you must first take the initiative to do or find a way to solve it, instead of blindly complaining about why others did not do it, complaining about why things are so bad, you consider this problem from the perspective of the other side, of course, come up with a solution to the problem. Because complaining doesn't solve anything, it only adds to your annoyance.

You have to realize that your "love to complain" is not really "love", but there are many wishes and demands for the interpersonal relationships around you, you want to be cared for and loved by others, and hope to be understood and liked by others.

7. Learn to distract and be good at adjusting yourself. If we can still ask ourselves what can be done more effectively, in fact, we will switch ourselves from victim mode to responsible mode, we begin to have the strength to create and change, stand on a new height to see the problem, and be willing to be the master of our own life.

Complaining is not only a matter of mentality, but also a problem of a person's understanding of the problem, as well as the fact that his own requirements are not met. Personally, I would suggest that you should study Buddhism (not become a monk). Look at more things about the Buddha and it will definitely change.

Relax and look at things calmly.

Think about yourself when complaining about others.

7. Learn to distract and be good at adjusting yourself. If we can still ask ourselves what can be done more effectively, in fact, we will switch ourselves from victim mode to responsible mode, we begin to have the strength to create and change, stand on a new height to see the problem, and be willing to be the master of our own life.