I ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, I broke up for more than a month, and I have a lot of doubt

My ex-boyfriend is even cheaper, we were both ready to get married, he didn't agree to let us break up, he chose his parents. We broke up, and they told me that they loved me the most in their lives, and they kept pestering me, sending me messages and asking me to go out. He is now with a woman introduced by the family, and he also asks me out to play, and tells me not to think about it, which is really funny, as if he is very fond of me.

He can't see me with other men, he is with other women and wants me to miss him and dream

I would like to summarize a few points for you based on your question above:

1. Your boyfriend has a bad personality, which may be innate, so many times he may promise you to change, but as the saying goes, the country is easy to change and difficult to change, and he may make the same mistake in the future, you have to prevent it. But this does not affect his sincere love for you, to quote you.

He took me through the streets in search of authentic snacks; He went to the library to bring me fragrant Peking pancakes and asked the boss to put 2 more eggs; He searched all the streets to buy the corn I loved; He gave up on buying a suit and bought a coat for me that I had loved for a long time. When we were students, we were poor, but he gave me the best for fear that I would be wronged. When I quarrel with him, you don't scold back, he knows that I will put down my chopsticks and walk away when I am in a hurry, and when I eat, he agrees to whatever I say, he is afraid that I will be angry and hungry.

Take me to Guangzhou to Xiamen to buy things to relax, and I went to Shanghai to buy a neck pillow for me. He often travels to other cities on business, and the first thing he does when he arrives is to help me buy things, help me step on something, and say that he can take me here to shop next time. ”

He can understand what you want, care about you more than himself, he can be so careful that he buys pancakes and asks the boss to put two eggs, and the main purpose of going to every city on a business trip is to help you step on the dots and buy things, this plot that I can only occasionally see in TV dramas happens to you, this is a very ordinary and simple thing, but this is also something that most men can't do.

2. You want to find the ideal object, you want to have someone you like, you want to have your own freedom, and you hope that you will love someone seriously. You express the hearts of all of us women, we all want our lives to be harmonious, comfortable, free and quiet, and to have a good husband and children. How did these come about, it was built by two people hand in hand.

It is in our human nature to enjoy and compare materialism, and it is not right for him to say this, and you have to argue with him. Everyone wants to be better off than others, which will motivate you more, but don't get obsessed with it.

I made up my mind to break up with him again", "We just got together and separated", "I have made a decision again now, break up with him", it is not difficult to see from these two sentences, you have proposed to break up with your boyfriend many times. Why? Have you figured it out yourself?

Did he not give you the life you wanted? Objectively speaking, you have been enjoying this kind of life from the beginning, we can't know what you really think in your heart, and from your expression, it is not difficult for us to see that you are a happy woman, which is enviable.

In short, both of you have something to give, and you both have your right and wrong. If you are testing him, accept it if you want to see it, and a good marriage may leave regrets because of a joke or rashness.

I wish you all a speedy reconciliation, a complete circle, and happiness is created by two people!

The above remarks are purely personal opinions, if there are similarities, it is a coincidence!

If it's confirmed.

Then there is no need to be together.

He has another her, he doesn't love you anymore, he can let go.

One. Take the initiative to find the other person.

Two. Learn to hold on to your love.

Many people say that love has an expiration date, and when the expiration date is up, it needs to be thrown away. If a girl loves very deeply, she is not willing to break up easily. In fact, people who are immersed in love tend to become more and more stupid, and they are not very clear about what they do, if one day, your boyfriend wants to break up with you, but you don't want to break up, what should you do?

1. Understand why your boyfriend broke up with you.

In fact, there must be a reason for the boy to break up with you, if you don't know why the shoot has dragged on for so long, and he wants to break up with you suddenly, then you have no way to get the man back. Therefore, it is recommended that you can find a café with a more comfortable environment and talk to the boy calmly about why today's situation is caused. If it's just a few small problems and spur of the moment, in fact, these can be reversed.

2. Get rid of your bad habits.

When many girls fall in love, they will want to take each other as their own, but in fact, this kind of thinking is quite dangerous. This will make a girl easy to be jealous and lose her temper, for boys, of course, they don't like such girlfriends very much, so many people will break up with each other because they can't stand it.

If you want to get your boyfriend back, the first step is to learn to get rid of your bad habits and short temper. In this way, it will make people more comfortable to get along with.

3. Work hard to enrich yourself and meet a better self.

Many girls will think that as long as I marry a good family, I can live this life in peace, in fact, such a comfortable idea, for some boys, will only feel that you are dependent on him, not independent at all.

As a woman in the new era, you should have your own career, and you must also have a skill, so that it will be easier to attract the attention of men and make his eyes inseparable from you. Therefore, girls should learn more practical things in their spare time, which is not only helpful for trapping boys, but also quite beneficial for their future careers. 4. Show your good side in front of your boyfriend.

When two people get along for a long time, a lot of bad habits will come out. Most couples will feel that the other person has changed after patting and dragging. And after falling in love, everyone's eyes on the other half will become more and more strict and critical, so girls should let boys see your shortcomings at the same time, but also show that in fact, your strengths are more dazzling than bad things.

5. Choose to give up and forget the other person.

Sometimes the reason for breaking up is not that you are bad, but because the boy has a third party, in this case, be more decisive and don't drag your feet. Since his body and mind are no longer in you, then don't waste time, looking for a new marriage, it will be better for you. Maybe your next relationship will make you happier than your ex-boyfriend.

Learning to forget can make you better involved in a new relationship, and don't give up a good forest for a tree, which is both childish and useless.

If you really love each other very much, I think it's okay to make appropriate concessions, in the process of falling in love, you don't have to be a boy to take the initiative, and a girl showing weakness is also a cute performance.

You should have a good talk with each other, after all, the two of you have been together for so long, don't break up because of some small problems, you can solve this small problem.

Two people should communicate, and if they have feelings, they should continue to be together, and don't separate because of small things.

The moment I proposed to break up, I didn't feel relaxed in my heart, because I knew that sooner or later we would come to this day, it was just a matter of time. The gap between us is too big, about the future, about tomorrow, about many, many more.

It's really uncomfortable, and my heart is like a knife. Although I know it's just a simple year. A year isn't a long time, but it's enough to change a person.

From the beginning of thinking about him and crying silently, to the later found his own thing, I stopped thinking about him.

Control your emotions:

1. Consciousness control. When the anger is about to explode, use your consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself to be rational, and also self-suggest: "Don't get angry, getting angry will hurt your body." People with self-cultivation are generally able to control.

2. Self-encouragement. Comfort yourself with certain philosophies or certain quotes, and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will make your mood better.

3. Language adjustment. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions. If you are sad, reciting funny phrases can take away the sadness. Using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestion such as "anger control", "forbearance", and "calmness" can also regulate one's emotions.

4. Environmental constraints. The environment plays an important role in regulating and restraining emotions. When you are emotionally depressed, taking a walk outside can play a regulating role.

When you are not in a good mood, you can go to the casino to play games and relieve your worries. When you're feeling upset, the best thing to do is to watch a burlesque movie.

5. Comfort. When a person pursues a certain goal and fails to achieve it, in order to reduce the disappointment in his heart, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox who can't eat grapes and says that grapes are sour. It's not self-deception, and occasionally as a way to ease your emotions, it's very beneficial.

A woman's decade is more important than a man's. Since you broke up bravely, it means that you don't love at all, so I hope you don't regret it in the future. At the same time, your behavior also makes your boyfriend.

This unforgettable time will accelerate his growth. Maybe after a year of separation, he will be very different. Of course, don't be impulsive, do it rationally, and don't let your boyfriend go overboard.

<> if you feel like you're doing it, you're doing a good job. All women have something in common. You can't reflect on yourself.

You are always wrong about others. In fact, when you think about a problem, you should also be very suitable and easy to get along with in front of outsiders, because you know that outsiders will not get used to you, you only dare to do it in front of specific people. What's going on?

Doing something means that you don't think about the consequences. In other words, you don't dare to do anything. As long as it really annoys you, you'll never do anything.

The reason is that the other party is forcing you to do it. In fact, have you ever wondered what benefits it will bring you? You always have to think about you.

When it comes to love, as long as you don't have a playful attitude, you will really be together and have fate. If you have other problems or think that it is a long-distance relationship, considering that the two will be together in the future, you are worried that there will be a lot of inconvenience in your married life, and your heart is conflicted. After half a year of love, you will feel a little tired, and then have a happy, relaxed party and easy calculations, do not delay each other's future.

Don't wait until you want to separate. If you don't separate, you'll feel tired together, what's the point of being together.

If you can't hold the sand, why not lift it up naturally? Give yourself some dignity! Life is not easy for everyone.

Because you don't live for Him. Wake up, you have to live for yourself. Live to love your family and friends, not only to live an ordinary life, but also to live a better and more wonderful life!

Let me make a few suggestions:

First, if you really love him, go to him and fight for it. Don't be overlooked.

Second, if you really think it's impossible, then you forget about him and ask your friends to accompany you to the night market when it's okay.

Don't ruin yourself for an impossible hope.

I've had that experience with you.

I was also uncomfortable at first, and I wanted to die. However, once I went to the night market with my friends at night, I found that I was walking on the road with my friends, feeling relaxed and breathing in the fresh air. Then after a few days it doesn't hurt as much.

Slowly, the feelings faded. Let go of your relationship.

The landlord wishes you that you can find a man who loves you and is willing to do anything for you in the future.

In fact, how much money is a false proposition, the key is that you can face it together, and the older generation can also spend it You think about the lines and then communicate well with him seriously, and let go of his face.

If I were your boyfriend and I really had my helplessness, I would choose to let go of you slowly, or even find a man to love you. Try not to cause you sadness, pain, discomfort and then leave you with a smile. But then again, I might as well die if I want to live a life like yours, you call it irrational love for someone.

Do you know what the scales weigh? The more you give, the deeper you fall, and you can see that you have sunk in, and if you don't choose to give up, you will be forgotten at the bottom of the scale. To be sensible, people live for reality, not for feelings.

Reality includes family, relatives, friends, ideals, feelings, and so on. If your ideal is to see the sea with your beloved, then he can't realize you, you have to fight for him, it's another him. I'll just say that your boyfriend is not a good thing, and you have to make money and run outside???

I really don't understand.

Hello, I've read what you wrote, and I also understand your current situation, if the man really left you because he wanted to go out and work hard, you don't have to worry about anything, after all, your hearts are together, but, then again, the outside world is very complicated, maybe, maybe going out to make money is just an excuse for him to leave you. I think you have to do it, talk about it in person, and if he gives you your future, or you feel that he is not worthy of your dependence, solve it as soon as possible, because the longer the relationship drags on, the more difficult it is to separate. Also, if you and he really love each other, you should go to the city where he works to accompany him, a man needs to be independent, but he also needs a woman to take care of him.