Why do I feel so lonely and scared at work?

Because you may not be good at taking the initiative to contact new friends, fear is a manifestation of self-confidence, the landlord should not have an inferiority complex, it is all psychological trouble.

What I wrote below, you must take a look, patiently try for a few minutes, experience the psychological feelings, you may find the ultimate method of all mental illness, of course, it can also be used as an aid. Well, my real experience, when the heart is uncomfortable, I will recite the four words of Amitabha, and experience the feeling of touching and peaceful and soft in my heart when I recite the Buddha, and the mood will slowly become relaxed, full of hope, and I will think about it with one mind, try not to think about anything, I will experience the change in my heart, from melancholy to happiness, and feel that everything is indifferent to the kind of relaxation, just get it by reciting Amitabha, first recite it for 10 minutes to try, and you will feel it yourself. Don't think about anything else, just recite Amitabha Buddha with all your heart.

Slowly, your heart will be calm and strong.

psychological factors, get along with colleagues as soon as possible.

You don't have good relationships.

I have a deep understanding that when I get home from work, my in-laws cook a meal and go directly to the table to eat, my husband swipes his mobile phone all the time, my mother-in-law feeds the children, and my father-in-law asks my husband to say something about work (also talking to himself), and I eat helplessly. After dinner, my husband Ge You lay down and continued to brush his mobile phone, I played with the child for a while, I felt bored, and I also brushed my mobile phone for a while, and I planned to read some books or do something else before getting off work every day, but the child was sticky, and one night passed like this. The more this happens, the more I feel a sense of crisis that comes from growing older, a panic that nothing can be accomplished.

It means that you are not popular.

Me too. Because of the nervousness. Timid.

We try our best to make ourselves perfect at work and at work, we want to be able to meet the kind of colleagues who cooperate well with us at work, and we want to make ourselves successful in our careers, but what I am most afraid of at work and work is the kind of colleagues who are irresponsible at work and shirk their responsibilities at work. Because the work I am engaged in is not the kind of purely technical work, nor is it the kind of job that can be completed by myself, but I need to cooperate with my colleagues to be able to complete my work goals and tasks. But if at work, my team encounters the kind of irresponsible colleagues who are always lazy at work, it is a terrible thing for my team and for me personally, because the unit's assessment of us is based on the results of our team and the standard is fast, and having such a colleague will drag our team back, which will affect the performance and salary income of everyone in the team.

Although it is a terrible thing to meet such a colleague at work and work, but even so, we will try our best to communicate with such a good relationship with Dongchang, try to find a way to make the other party change their work status, and use their thoughts and energy in the work as much as possible. Make more efforts to absorb and eliminate the negative impact of such colleagues as much as possible, and not let such people get rid of our work team. What I am most afraid of after going to work is the work assigned by the leader, which I cannot complete, and some of the work that is even beyond my ability, which is what I am most afraid of. Because we all have our own position in the work, most of the things within the scope of our job responsibilities can be completed independently, and we don't need to ask for help.

But sometimes the leader will arrange you to do something outside of your job responsibilities, and it is very difficult for you to complete, for example, some time ago we encountered such a situation, because of the company's business difficulties, the leader sent us a sales task, which itself is my weakness, because I am more introverted, I like to do a thing that I can do in a down-to-earth manner, for this kind of thing, I am very bad at it. I don't want to deal with other people, and this time I'm going to pull down my face and sell things that people aren't very interested in. For this reason, I was really worried, and I couldn't sleep at night.

Later, I still had the courage to say good things to others, and I paid for a card for others, which is equivalent to spending money to let others cooperate, and the task was completed. I'm afraid that the leader will give me another task, so I won't be able to afford the money at all. So this kind of work is what I fear the most, and I don't think it should be done in this way, putting pressure on employees.

Not only me, but everyone was afraid.

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, but how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Come on.

Because that's trying to avoid going to work.

We should cultivate our enthusiasm and love for our work.

That way you won't shy away from your work.

I just started working like this, trying to do my job well and relax!

Maybe you don't like that job.

Take it easy and try to give yourself a bottom line, such as "I don't change my hairstyle when I go to work."

It soon became clear that the bottom line was breached, and it was only a day or two to be sad.

Sensitive points: You will find that in fact, when you grow up, life is full of compromises.

If you have the guts, be an unusual person. ）

Find a job that interests you.