How far apart I am from others now

It's not bad, as long as you do it, you're not worse than others, believe in yourself!!

Oh Introverted and timid sometimes it may be a fear of meeting strangers and reluctance to talk and deal with people These are caused by the influence or blow you received when you were a child Serious will cause communication barriers In addition to family and acquaintances are reluctant to contact anyone you don't know will cause great harm to your own life But it doesn't look like you look like these things can be improved The objective environment sometimes forces you to change Don't put too much pressure on yourself to take your time and go with the flow The key is to stay away from the people and environment that are influencing your behavior, and try to have as little contact as possible for a short period of time, so that the changes will be faster.

The main thing is not to put pressure on yourself, to relax slowly and you will get better, to give yourself confidence that you will be able to do what others do, and not to be too anxious.

Now that you've done it, then everyone is the same, and who cares about how you used to be all day long. Moreover, this society is like this, there are both those who are stronger than you and those who are worse than you, please believe in a truth, any person, there is always something outstanding, anyone.

In fact, this is a very normal phenomenon, because people's talents themselves are not the same, everyone has their own good things, if you feel that you are very different from your peers, then it is likely that you are inferior to your colleagues in a certain talentBut equally, you are likely to be higher than your colleagues in some talents, but you have not encountered the relevant job, so I suggest that you do not be presumptuous, and work with confidence and wait for opportunities, which is the only possibility that we can get good development. Of course, in addition, we can also take the initiative to improve our abilities through some things, such as the following methods are better:

1. Improve your professional level

From a college graduate just entered the enterprise to work, we are often the first contact with a certain field of professional work, at this time, if we want to improve the ability to work, then we must improve the level of their professional field, so instead of watching others continue to be excellent, it is better for us to work hard to improve ourselves in these professional fields.

2. Improve your expression skills

The greatest invention of human beings so far is language and blind writing, because language and writing carry the art of communication between people, so no matter what field we work in, language expression skills are very important, so I suggest that you improve your ability at the same time, don't forget to improve your language skills, if you really don't know how to improve, you can find those professional training language skills in your spare time to learn it.

3. Enhance your own cohesion

The last point we need to pay attention to is that if we want to continue to rise in the work until we rise to a more important leadership position, then we need to start to improve our cohesion now, because if you don't have someone to support you, you can't get into a leadership position, so if you want to be a leader, cohesion is very important.

Summary. Everyone is an independent existence in this world and has their own advantages and disadvantages. What makes us happy is that we don't compare ourselves to those who are stronger than us, but to those who are weaker than us, or to our own past.

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You're no worse than anyone else. Why do you say that?

If everything doesn't go well, it's not as good as others.

Everyone is an independent existence in this world, and they all have their own advantages and disadvantages. What makes us happy is that we should not compare ourselves to those who are stronger than us, but to those who are weaker than us, or to those who are sensitive to our past.

Yanqing, do you know that the gap between yourself and others is?

My friends may say that I am not as smart as him, I am not as highly educated as him, and I am not as ...... as him

Actually, I don't think that's the most important thing.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People in Zen Cha Cha talks about a lot of excellent and successful people, and they all have some very good commonalities. For example, they have good habits, waking up early, exercising, reading, ......

We who learn time management have such a habit, which is to wake up early. When everyone else is still sleeping, we get up early to read books, make a delicious breakfast, review, make plans, practice yoga, meditate, have meetings, everything is done before we go to work.

I remember a very realistic picture of us on the left, our time management partner, we got up at 5:30, then read for 30 minutes, exercised for 1 hour, made breakfast, and went to work at 8:00.

Everything is done without panic. The picture on the right, that is, get up at 7:30, then brush your teeth in a hurry, and then go out to catch the car to go to work, but you forget this and that, and then, you are criticized by the boss for being late, in a bad mood, and low work efficiency, which is not a very common phenomenon?

What kind of person are you?

Then when you are sleeping, others are reading, others are studying, others are exercising, day after day, year after year, others have higher skills, better and better, and their bodies are healthy. And what kind of state will you be, it may be that you often work overtime and stay up late, often late for work, resulting in the collapse of your body, which is one of the reasons why you are far from others.

So the second point is that the reason why you are far apart from others is that you are always chased forward by others, and others are proactive in doing things. If you are proactive and reactive, the results will be completely different.

If a proactive person does it voluntarily and has a strong will, then it is easy to accomplish it, because the success of a thing is mostly determined by a person's beliefs.

The third point is that attitude is everything.

What kind of attitude you have will determine whether you can succeed in this matter or not.

If you say that I have to do this, I have to do this, then you think how do you do this?

If you deny yourself in advance, saying that I can't finish this thing, then whatever, there are many reasons and excuses, and as a result, it will be difficult for you to complete the task.

This is a little personal insight.