29 year old Zhang Ailing, why did she choose 65 year old Lai Ya as her husband?

Eileen Chang's pursuit is uniqueNo one can use ordinary people's thinking and logic to analyze and judge Zhang Ailing's pain and happiness, which is related to Zhang Ailing's experience, and Hu Lancheng's character and talent.

Whether in Zhang Fan's eyes or in the eyes of the world, this marriage always makes people feel estranged, Rhea is a German living in the United States, it can be said that compared with Zhang Ailing, Leia not only has no fame, no savings, and even the most basic health. However, Eileen Chang not only flourished for a while, but was one of the most famous female writers in China at the time. Because of this, a lot of people talk about it after they get married.

Almost no one can understand Eileen Chang's choice. Many people speculate that Zhang Ailing was injured because of her ex-husband Hu Lancheng's infidelity, so she finally exercised herself in this way. Zhang Ailing never responded to these suspicions.

Eileen Chang is like a riddle, always accustomed to living in the form of riddles.

For Lai Ya, Zhang Fan is always worried about him because there are too many "stains" in his eyes. In 1956, Zhang Ailing became pregnant with Leia's child. Because both of them faced financial difficulties and lived in a place where they had no fixed residence, Zhang Ailing was forced to kill her only child in her life.

According to Zhang Mi, Zhang Ailing eventually died alone and was found seven days after her death. She has a lot to do with her future, and the root of her future is Leia.

One of Laiya's "blemishes" is "disease". After Leia married Zhang Ailing, she suffered two consecutive strokes and fractured her femur, which left her paralyzed for two years before her death. She was taken care of by Eileen Chang.

During this period, Zhang Ailing had to go to seek medical treatment with the dying Laiya. Zhang Fan could not accept this medicine. He really doesn't understand why Zhang Ailing has to keep this "old bone" for the rest of her life!

If Zhang Ailing met not Leia, who was "completely incompatible" with her, but someone else at that time, then the rest of her life would be a different scene. Zhang Fan has such an assumption and hates Leia to the core.

Looking back on the relationship between Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya, we have to admit itZhang Ailing and Lai Ya, who have forgotten the love they have been holding on to in the years of poverty and illness, have transcended the secular world. Therefore, any worldly judgment is superficial.

She is a person who is not afraid of being scolded, and when she was with Hu Lancheng, she was infamous as a traitor, and she did not hesitate! Raiya was just another target she had chosen. Her credo is: do your own thing, and do his own thing.

No one can say anything about feelings, love has nothing to do with age.

Zhang Ailing's pursuit is unique, and no one can casually use ordinary people's thinking and logic to analyze and judge Zhang Ailing's pain and happiness.

There are many theories and suspicions about the relationship between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng, Sang Arc, and Lai Ya.

Zhang Ailing's pursuit is unique, and there may be some attraction between them.

It is related to Zhang Ailing's experience, and then it is related to Hu Lancheng's personality and talent.

Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng, one of the most prestigious female writers in Shanghai at that time, and a key member of Wang Pseudo-**.

When she was with Hu Lancheng, she was infamous as a traitor, and she didn't give up!

The reason why Zhang Ailing fell in love with Lai Ya and finally chose to marry him was because of his "kindness" The reason why Zhang Ailing fell in love with Lai Ya was because of his ingenuity. Lai Ya is undoubtedly not an ordinary old man, but a talented old writer with intelligence and writing experience, such two people, one is a talented woman, the other is a talented man, with spiritual and soul resonance and fit, Bi Songxiang is naturally together to appreciate each other, cherish each other, and support each other.

is because she is helpless, because her parents have been forcing her, and if she doesn't marry, she will be forced to die. It's not going to be possible to watch parents get hurt.

Zhang Ailing felt that the other party was a good Qing Brigade Duan Lu was responsible, unlike the few men she had met before who were all happy for a while, she felt that the other party could fight with her for a long time.

is because the two of them have been childhood sweethearts since they were children, and they know each other better, and Zhang Ailing has been heartbroken by a scumbag before.

Laiya (?-1967), male, originally a descendant of German immigrants, showed a dazzling talent for literary debate and studious when he was young, he had a rich and colorful personality, all-encompassing knowledge, and acted boldly and freely. Married once and has a daughter.

But he was unrestrained and free by nature, and he was very uncomfortable with the constraints of marriage, so he broke off the marriage contract with the feminist's ex-wife. In the years that followed, Zhang Ailing was introduced, and he also made many touching girlfriends, but none of them were willing or able to tie the knot with this man until he met Zhang Ailing at the age of 65.

On March 13, they met for the first time"Why do you have to know each other?"Sense. After that, they met each other, talked about literature, culture, life, experience, and fell in love with each other. By the beginning of May, it was almost inseparable, and the relationship was progressing rapidly.

Lai Ya wrote in her diary on May 12: "They"Go to the cottage and spend the night together"。On the third day, Laiya's deadline in the art camp reached and she had to leave.

When Zhang Ailing gave him away, she also gave him the only little money. More than a month later, Zhang Ailing was introduced, and Zhang Ailing also left the art camp. On July 5, Lai Ya received a letter from Zhang Ailing, saying that she was pregnant with his child.

At this time, Lai Ya felt that she had a moral responsibility, and felt that Zhang Ailing was kind, cute, and a good wife-type woman, so he proposed to her, but asked her to have an abortion and no children. On August 18 of that year, half a year after they met, they got married in New York.

Half a year after Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya came to Kangqiao, Lai Ya finally exhausted her energy. Accompanied by Zhang Ailing alone, Lai Ya walked to the kingdom of heaven he had longed for for a long time. He was finally relieved.

He quietly departed, and no funeral was held, only that Fez's ashes were buried. That year, Lai Ya was 76 years old and Zhang Ailing was 47 years old.

We all know the love between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng, but they were not together in the end, after Zhang Ailing chose to go to the United States, she chose Laiya. Why did Zhang Ailing marry Lai Ya? There could be four reasons for this.

First, the "father-lover complex". Zhang Ailing's parents did not agree when she was young, so it can be said that she lacked fatherly love. Zhang Ailing has a ** "Heart Sutra" that is written like this:

Xiaohan, a female student, falls in love with her biological father, ......Of course, the result was a tragedy, but this ** left a deep impression on me. Later, when I met Hu Lancheng for the first time, there was already an age gap of 15 years, and I later met Lai Ya ......may have lost her father's love prematurely in the same year, which made Zhang Ailing somewhat have a father-love complex.

Second, disappointment with Chinese men. Zhang was hurt in the marriage with Hu Lancheng, which caused her to rebel against her sexual concepts, and even in a certain sense, she was met by her unfaithful husband, and only foreigners could satisfy her spiritual needs from another level.

Third, she is alone in a foreign land, unaccompanied, lonely and depressed, and needs a man's support, while Lai Ya is the first man to care for her from all aspects such as spirituality, so of course she has become her first choice. In other words, Laiya was just the first man who happened to care about her.

Fourth, perhaps Lai Ya is indeed Zhang Ailing's true destiny, because the most inexplicable reason in the world is feelings. Lai Ya gave Zhang Ailing the most sincere love and made up for the trauma of her love, although she is older than Zhang Ailing, as long as she has feelings, age is not a problem.

This is to ask Zhang Ailing, literary talent is destined for her to live in learning, maybe for survival or for literature, but whether foreign literature is the same, only the two of them understand.

This leads to the meeting of the right person, regardless of age. If you like each other, it's not a problem if you're teenage apart. If you don't feel anything, even if you are born on the same day, it is useless.

Only he knows this, what suits him is good, age is not wiring, character is the key.

Answer: Because of the compatibility of personalities and sincerity, my mother loves Laiya.

It may be that they have a common language, can talk, and understand each other's thoughts.

How can there be so many whys? Or like, or helpless. ......

Lai Ya, a bad foreign old man who is not very good in all aspects, the reasons why Zhang Ailing married him are as follows:

First: Zhang Ailing was emotionally injured at the time, but she just wanted to divert her attention.

In fact, Zhang Ailing immigrated to the United States mainly to heal at that time, after all, this relationship with Hu Lancheng did hurt Zhang Ailing a lot, after all, it was a man who loved everything he could, but he abandoned himself so easily. Zhang Ailing is also a talented woman anyway, and there are so many people chasing her, but she was ruthlessly abandoned. So after Zhang Ailing ended her relationship with Hu Lancheng, she went to the United States alone.

Zhang Ailing actually couldn't figure out why Hu Lan would treat herself like this, in addition to being disappointed in Chinese men, she also had a revenge mentality. Since Hu Lancheng can find a little girl, Zhang Ailing can find an old man. And Zhang Ailing also wants to divert her attention with a new relationship and forget Hu Lancheng as soon as possible.

Second: Eileen Chang is very lonely in the United States alone.

Zhang Ailing was alone in a foreign country at the time, and loneliness was certain. In such a lonely time, Zhang Ailing also needs a companion. And it was at this time that Lai Ya appeared and gave her a certain amount of care, so at this time Zhang Ailing chose Lai Ya, it can only be said that the time and place are favorable, and the person who appeared when she was the loneliest was Lai Ya.

Third: Zhang Ailing has a father-lover complex.

In fact, Zhang Ailing's family has never been harmonious, and Zhang Ailing's parents were divorced when she was very young. Therefore, Zhang Ailing still lacks fatherly love, so she will have a special impression of older men, in fact, Hu Lan is fifteen years older than Zhang Ailing, so Lai Ya is actually not much different from Hu Lancheng's age. And older people know how to take care of people, and during Zhang Ailing's most vulnerable time, it was Lai Ya who accompanied Zhang Ailing and helped her recover slowly, so Zhang Ailing will slowly become dependent on this man.

This is because Lai Ya doesn't care about Zhang Ailing's background and experience, she really likes Zhang Ailing, so they will come together.

Now this man is not very capable, but he has a lot of popularity in American society.

This is because Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya, foreigners, really loved each other at that time, and they didn't care about each other's origin and appearance.

It's not good in all respects, and the foreign bad old man Lai Ya Zhang Ailing will marry him, just because he likes its advantages, and he also has his own charm.

When Zhang Ailing was young, her parents divorced, and because of these reasons, her relationship with her parents has not been good, Zhang Ailing, who lives with her father, has no one to take care of, and her relationship with her stepmother is very poor, and even to the point of fighting, the tragedy at the beginning of her childhood caused her sentimental and extremely sensitive character.

Zhang Ailing during her study was also unfavorable, she was admitted to the University of London with her own efforts, but because of the outbreak of World War II, she had to be forced to give up her plan to study abroad, and could only complete her studies in Hong Kong, and then Zhang Ailing finally made a little achievement in the cloud world, but fell in love with a married man who was 14 years older than herself, and was a big traitor - Hu Lancheng, but due to Zhang Ailing's sentimental personality, it was also very difficult emotionally, In the end, he and the traitor Hu Lancheng ended in divorce.

After the divorce, Zhang Ailing also because of her ex-husband's traitor's name, and even affected herself, until the end of World War II, Zhang Ailing also became one of the traitors that everyone shouted at, and later Zhang Ailing ran to the United States alone, living in embarrassment in the United States, met the writer Lai Ya, who was thirty years older than herself, and became her second husband, but the good times did not last long, and her second husband also died twelve years later, and she became a helpless old man again.

Zhang Ailing has no children and no daughters in her life, her fate is tragic, her love life is not smooth, and under all kinds of torture, her spirit slowly begins to become abnormal, in her later years, she even often fantasizes that she will have countless insects bite her every day, moved 180 times, wants to escape the torture, and even wants to move to the desert.

Under mental torture, in September 1995, Zhang Ailing died in a rented house in the United States, at the age of 75, because of the smell of decay in the rented house was found a week later, in the suicide note Zhang Ailing said that she wanted to scatter her ashes on the plain, but the ashes were finally ordered by the funeral committee to be scattered to the Pacific Ocean, so in the end Zhang Ailing's small last wish was not fulfilled.

Looking back on the life of Zhang Ailing, who was originally famous, it can be described as tragic, the factors of family changes, and her own choices have created such consequences.

Because they are smarter than men, they are suppressed by the environment.